| Jun 29, 2007 @ 4:19 PM |
What if there were no photos on MD?
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RhodeRhunner
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One of the things that people here frequently comment on is how photos are sometimes misleading, or missing altogether. And it's understandable that someone's physical appearance certainly is important to a person seeking to establish a relationship; more important to some, not as much to others. What if the design of MD was such that you could not see a posted photo until you had exchanged email, etc. with a person for at least a month? Would you choose not to use the system at all? And if you stayed, and had established a very enjoyable rhapport with someone through this type of interaction, if you finally passed the "trial" period and then saw what they looked like, would you back away/cool off/slow down/etc. if the person didn't meet your expectations (even if you had really enjoyed the interaction the two of you had)? Do you believe the fact that we have the ability to see photos of others creates the potential for 'pursuing' someone who might be the worst match ever, and passing by someone who could be the best thing that ever happened to us?
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| Jun 29, 2007 @ 4:23 PM |
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wiccked
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most people are visual creatures- its like a book with a very nice cover- thats what draws us to a certain person- but the best part is not the cover of the book, but the pages in the book that define who we are- what good is a pretty cover if there is nothing worth reading????? 
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| Jun 29, 2007 @ 4:27 PM |
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jamminjerry
Posts: 3,780
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duh, this must be a short fluffy blond question. LOL tall, redhead, under 40, weighs less than i do. as intelligent as i am(highly unlikely), yada yada. its in the profile. so, to finally answer your question, i doubt it would matter very little at all! do you know how scarce tall redheads with personality are!!! yes, i would pursue! 99% possibility!!! that 1 %? there is always the circus gal that is making big bucks just on looks! LOL we be jammin 
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| Jun 29, 2007 @ 4:29 PM |
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jamminjerry
Posts: 3,780
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dang!! i sure missed that wiccked pose! 
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| Jun 29, 2007 @ 4:31 PM |
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LittleMsDangerous
Posts: 11,147
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 Tall redhead with plenty of personalities right here!
p.s. I'm not to the hearing voices or talking to myself stages, yet.... 
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| Jun 29, 2007 @ 4:49 PM |
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BandTMom
Posts: 28,436
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Rhode...where have you been hiding??
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| Jun 29, 2007 @ 4:49 PM |
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jamminjerry
Posts: 3,780
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dangerous huh. hmmm, like in Lorena Bobbitt dangerous? or more like "danger, curves ahead". whoa!!! personalities!!! more than one redhead personality!! damn! i been told that even just one redhead is more than any fella can handle and you are saying that there are other redheads running around "up there"!! i don't know, i'm slowing down a bit, they are timing me with a calandar in my races now. multiple personalities probably means multiple orgasms too! whew!  of course we be jammin
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| Jun 29, 2007 @ 4:53 PM |
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LittleMsDangerous
Posts: 11,147
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  You got it!
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| Jun 29, 2007 @ 5:07 PM |
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Loreli
Posts: 20,316
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Hi, RR...
I've made friends with people with no photos.
I think once you have spoken to someone, sharing photos is a definite closure to the picture.
But it's the heart, soul and personality that should come first. IMO
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| Jun 29, 2007 @ 6:26 PM |
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bunnybiz
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Hi RR,
I agree with Loreli. 
I have been on sites where they make you jump through hoops before you even see the picture of the person. Are you a morning person? chooses, What would you be wearing Sat morning chooses. These little icebreakers and compatibility tests take forever (it seems like anyway). Then finally you get the see the picture but it isn't what you are expecting. I have meet but no chemistry.
All those things just to finally see a photo. Gee, no fun at all. 
If I wanted to do that, I use the local chat line and talk with someone. At least, I can hear there voice.
It's not how good looking or bad looking, it is the chemistry that draws to people together. It is heart, soul, mind, personality, spirit and attractiveness to that person. I know what I am looking for photo or no photo. If it didn't work out, we could be friends (if they allowed it).
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| Jun 29, 2007 @ 6:49 PM |
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vinny_53
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..had established a very enjoyable rhapport with someone through this type of interaction, if you finally passed the "trial" period and then saw what they looked like, would you back away/cool off/slow down/etc. if the person didn't meet your expectations (even if you had really enjoyed the interaction the two of you had)?
Interesting question... but I wonder if it is just a little slanted towards the person being rejected.. Finding a great match is not easy..and there are many "land mines" that need to be traversed. IMO Photos should not be given the importance that they have been allocated..
Why does anyone back away? short answer is because something is missing... Just what that something is...could be any number of different things..
Land mines
Creating rapport is easy to do in the forums..
but is it real? is the person a player? does the person have too many "friends"??
Talking is easy to do
but there is an excitement and an undivided attention that comes with technology
Is the person talking too much..not enough.. creating a wrong impression ? trying too hard? not trying hard enough?
Exchanging photos ..should be a piece of cake.. unless one party feels that there is a reason not to.. trust issues? privacy issues? fear of rejection issues? honesty issues?
Meeting in real life is dependant on distance..but can be an issue for many people.
What if the person is... an axe murderer?.. a homicidal maniac? a car jacker? or too fat..too short..too tall.. too ugly..too clingy..to touchy feely..too .... etc..etc..etc..???
in theory this Internet dating should be a snap...but...there are just so many land mines..
then after these.. real life takes over and a whole new set of issues comes into play..
Do you believe the fact that we have the ability to see photos of others creates the potential for 'pursuing' someone who might be the worst match ever, and passing by someone who could be the best thing that ever happened to us?
( .......private joke here.... some of you "long time" posters might "get it"... at least one poster already has...  )
Does a photo really matter ? Will it change your perception of the poster? Does it give the poster more or less credibility?...
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| Jun 29, 2007 @ 6:55 PM |
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tc2356
Posts: 5,571
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being truthful here you know you look at it as if you were blind like the others said its whats inside I've also met people without a photo and we became very good friends
Now on the other hand 
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| Jun 29, 2007 @ 7:56 PM |
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jamminjerry
Posts: 3,780
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i was thinking that it wuz just guys saying "now the other hand" but, i guess gals hands git tired too.
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| Jun 29, 2007 @ 8:32 PM |
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RhodeRhunner
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Rhode...where have you been hiding??
I've been "out there" mom! Lol! Here... take a look at my most recent blog entry;
Just returning from the "real world"...
I'm back, though. And I MISSED YOU GUYS!! 
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| Jun 29, 2007 @ 9:43 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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duh, this must be a short fluffy blond question
What is it with you and short fluffy blondes??  I thought it was a very intelligent, valid question... and we have already heard many times over about your preference for tall redheads... give it a rest already 
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| Jun 29, 2007 @ 11:36 PM |
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JesterDrawers
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I think once you have spoken to someone, sharing photos is a definite closure to the picture.
Uh......no pun intended, right, Loreli??????
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| Jun 29, 2007 @ 11:42 PM |
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signme
Posts: 9,590
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When I met my b/f for the first time, he didn't really look much like his profile pic. Not better, not worse, just not what I expected from the pic I'd seen. But that's ok. Sometimes a pic helps, sometimes not. It might initiate that first little spark of interest but if there is no common ground, the spark goes out rather quickly.
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| Jun 30, 2007 @ 12:03 AM |
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daisy315
Posts: 4,337
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I got a great email from a fella last week and it made me just howl with laughter.. I would want to meet him sight unseen.. I loved his sense of humor... 
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| Jun 30, 2007 @ 12:05 AM |
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signme
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| Jun 30, 2007 @ 1:18 AM |
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Josuha
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I'll tell you a deep dark secret..
But don't tell anyone..it's a..er..secret..
Before I came to this site, I dated alot of very attractive women.
Alot of them were the perverbial 'bimbo.'
I'm not being mean by saying that.
Lots of pretty faces out there..
By bimbo I mean; no personality..no sense of humor..and no conversation..
They just..er. looked good..
I decided to play a game.
The game is called..
"Who are you.?"
You play the game by simply writing..then a phone call..then you talk.
You discribe yourself and I discribe myself.
No pics..I don't want any.
If they insist..fine..but not required.
That way, I don't see the picture..
I see the person.
If I like you by what you write and say..I go out..
If I don't..well..win some, lose some..
But everytime I played the game, I have won..at least meeting some very fine people and more.
I still date a few.
So that is my secret.
But don't tell anyone...
It's a secret.
Josh
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