| Jul 4, 2007 @ 2:23 PM |
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Microchip
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I sent an message out to a gal on this site. In her picture, she looked really cute. After e-mailing back and forth for a couple days, I guess she may have felt a little guilty. She sent me a "current" picture of herself: BIG difference! She admitted that the picture she had posted was 6 years old, and 50 pounds ago.
I asked her why she wasn't just being up front and posting the current picture. She told me that she was getting "a LOT" of interest, and she didn't want that to stop. I asked her how many first dates she went on, and she told me "a lot". I asked her how many second dates she went on, and she said "none, they were ALL jerks."
I guess they were jerks because they were responding to someone who was misleading people as to what she looked like.
Anyone have any similar experiences?
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 2:57 PM |
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NatGoat
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Even 'recent' photos can be Misleading . . !!!
just by arranging clothing . . items in the foreground or the angle at which the pic is shot from can hide a Great many things . . !!!
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 3:00 PM |
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dooney123
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One of the people that I met in person looked quite a bit older and larger than his pictures on the internet. He also seemed shorter than he claimed in his profile. All the others looked like their pictures, though.
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 3:02 PM |
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NatGoat
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doon . .
Your photo makes you look 'smaller' than your stats indicate . .
I would've said 130 lbs., myself . . !! . . 
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 3:03 PM |
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twotall911
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guess i will wear a wig next time 
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 3:09 PM |
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Lovinheart445
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I too was once missled one time by a very old outdated picture. When I met her She looked 30 years older then her picture. And she too admitted it was old, but used it for the attention.
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 3:10 PM |
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NatGoat
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**OUCH!!!** . . 30 Years . . ???
*BAM!*
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 3:25 PM |
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EternalFlame
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Nat, I hate to inform you but 5'8 and 155 is not heavy by any stretch. I'm 5'8, 150 right now, and I'm a size 6-8. Taller girls weigh more...it's a fact of life 
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 3:33 PM |
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sensuouswoman
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All of my photos range within 2 years with my main profile photo 2 months old. I could put up a photo of me 10 years ago and I still look the same.
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 3:36 PM |
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marinabreeze
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One time, this one guy messaged me online on this site, and by the picture on his profile, he seemed cute. He also said he was single, had a bachelor's degree, and was a writer for a newspaper.
So I started chatting with him on Yahoo IM, and he did seem nice enough. I clicked on his Yahoo profile link, and from there I went to his MySpace page. On the MySpace page, which he had last been to that day, he had more recent pictures which showed that his hair was a lot lighter in color, he was about 70 pounds heavier, and he didn't dress neatly. On top of that, he only had a HS diploma, he actually worked at Mickey D's, and he was listed as "in a relationship."
For me, it's not about the looks, it's about being honest and secure in yourself. If you're greyer now than you once were, then be real about it. If you're heavier now than you once were, then be real about it. If you have more wrinkles, or you're saggier, or whatever, then just be real about it.
I do own pictures from when I was in high school, but I don't post them here. The pictures I have up are from earlier this year. I know I look good now. I know I'm a good catch now. And when people post old pictures of themselves, they're really saying that they are not comfortable with who they are right now...it's about how they once were. And that's sad. Besides, if you're going to be dishonest about something as trivial as a picture, then what else are you going to be dishonest about?
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 3:40 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Purposely using false photos when you "know" you don't look anything like them is of course a no-no, for men "and" women. But I've found that rare, at least with the women I've met.
All I ask is a person look "reasonably" like their picture(s). That doesn't mean exactly. Like others have posted in another thread, most pictures we use are going to be flattering, for obvious reasons. This is a dating site. I see pics evidently taken at wedding receptions where women have deep tans, styled up hair, and wearing slinky, revealing dresses. They look fantastic. But I don't expect them to look like that when we meet? That's being totally unfair. I hope they feel the same about my pics. I know we all want chemistry and attraction, but sometimes we get too hung up on looks and not enough on substance.
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 4:46 PM |
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1stsignofspring
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Good point Mo 
I take new pics about every 3 or 4 months, and usually the rest will be about a year or so old. I don't want to mislead anyone...if anything I want to know they like me just as I am....
I have been mislead several times....but for the most part the men I have dated look like their pics....... 
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 4:50 PM |
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blueyes101
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I see pics evidently taken at wedding receptions where women have deep tans, styled up hair, and wearing slinky, revealing dresses. They look fantastic. But I don't expect them to look like that when we meet?
What, that bitch better wear that exact same dress.........  Jus kidden...  .................................................. 
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 4:51 PM |
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jamminjerry
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yes dear, i am old, but very realistic! we be jammin 
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 4:57 PM |
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signme
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My oldest pic is less than a year old. I did put up the "glamour" shots because I rarely have my pic taken. They take em at the beginning of the school year to put on our web sites and that's about it as far as pics go for me. The glamour shots are recent tho, they were taken at the end of March this year.
I do take alot of pics of the cats but unfortunately they have not quite been able to learn the art of taking pics of me!
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 5:07 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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okay okay I ADMIT IT .. my pics are taken with a MAGIC WEB CAM!!! it truly loves me and makes me look half way decent okay?? now them other pics of me at gatherings and such??? well their cameras are EVIL I TELL YOU ...EVIL!!!  oh and mine are recent even the new one I posted with glasses on ... that was last week
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 5:28 PM |
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TRS1958
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I asked her why she wasn't just being up front and posting the current picture. She told me that she was getting "a LOT" of interest, and she didn't want that to stop. I asked her how many first dates she went on, and she told me "a lot". I asked her how many second dates she went on, and she said "none, they were ALL jerks." Sounds to me like she's trying to be in complete denial...although unless she's a complete idiot she knows exactly what she's doing...but she needs to realize that she will most likely never have a second date.
No one wants to be mislead, and it's far worse using outdated photos than not having a photo at all and just meeting someone "blind" so to speak.
In this day and age when digital cameras are inexpensive...even cell phones have cameras...there is no excuse not to have current pics. JMO
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 5:34 PM |
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definitelydi
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Mine are current, except for the one from 1981. Of course, I don't look a damn thing like my pics, I look better.
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 5:43 PM |
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DiamondRain
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Poeple do this all the time. I've even seen pictures that actually had the date printed on them (but you had to look very carefully) and they were more than 10 years old!
I think it's pretty obvious why someone would want to post pictures that look younger, thinner, prettier, whatever then they really are. It's because they are not happy with the way they look and this is a way for them to get some attention and make believe they are someone that they are not. It's a few moments of fantasy for a very lonely person. In this way it's kind of sad.
On the other end of the deal is someone who goes out of their way to meet that person and, when they do, and realize they have been deceived, they are understandably not very happy about it.
So you have one person who has poor self esteem and thinks they need to deceive someone in order to get love and attention, and another person who feels rightfully ripped off. Second dates? I don't think so.
If you are really serious about meeting someone for a relationship, you post pictures that look like you really look and let the chips fall where they may. You don't start off a relationship with deception. That is a sure way to assure failure. If you don't you are only fooling yourself and wasting other peoples' time.
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| Jul 4, 2007 @ 5:50 PM |
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TRS1958
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Exactly DR...and if their self esteem is already low to begin with...it's only gonna crush it even more when they never get that second date. One would think common sense would tell them that.
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