| Jul 15, 2007 @ 7:48 AM |
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scarletsara
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When you misbehave (lie,cheat, mistreat) what do think is a reasonable reaction
for a woman to have?
Men often label us as "crazy"  for our response.
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 9:27 AM |
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jamminjerry
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accepting the label "bad boy" i have tried to think of a response to your question. from the woman's prespective it is quite possible she feels that i have lied to her, mistreated her, etc and so her reaction was as you have pointed out. from my prespective, we were dating and i did not see the relationship going any further than that. she was acceptable company but did not fit any other criteria other than being female. and so, if you wish to disect further, please ask more questions. the answer to your question is, a reasonable reaction for the woman would be to discuss the cause of the conflict and accept the outcome of the discussion. but that is highly unlikely. and so guys just accept that a woman will go crazy. the few gals that don't go crazy quite possibly turn out to be best friends.
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 9:38 AM |
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DipityDoo
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Actually, I think it's unacceptable to be in 'couple'-type situation..whatever the specifics of yours was, and not be cognizant of the other's assumptions about the nature of your get-togethers. I think it's unacceptable to be in these situations with someone who is just 'good enough' for 'this', but not 'that'. If they don't meet your standards, don't play with them in any form ... unless you spell out from the beginning what your intentions are because .......ignorantia legis neminem excusat ...... and in this case, the law is the unspoken assumptions men are quite aware that many women make in relationships. To argue otherwise is just to try to rationalize doing something that isn't very nice.
So, I'm not sure the 'crazy' behaviour isn't in more bad form than what led up to it.
I find your way of 'ranking' women... off-putting. I guess you think a lot of yourself and not much of most women you meet?
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 10:33 AM |
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DiamondRain
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I think I can speak to the lying and cheating part of your question from some experience. I used to be one of those back in my former life. I juggled multiple women at the same time, cheating on them all and not really caring about how they might have felt about it, only about my own pleasure and satisfaction.
I've never physically (or mentally) abused a woman (unless you consider cheating mental abuse), though, so I cant speak about that.
Obviously, if a woman does not know you are cheating, you don't expect her to have any reaction about it. So I have to assume that your question means how do you expect a woman to react if she finds out about your cheating.
Well, with all my dogging around, naturally I was caught more than once. The reaction was always the same. Huge amount of anger followed by crying and sadness followed by self doubt and questioning of self esteem followed by taking me back. I'm sorry to say it was the same routine every time.
Hillary Clinton comes to mind.
Since this was the reaction every time in my own experience, this is how I would expect a woman to react and my answer to your question.
I did this for a lot of years. I regret that behavior now and would never repeat it.
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 1:10 PM |
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twotall911
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 im not that type of bad boy
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 2:27 PM |
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lj450
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I believe women should look within themselves and resolve their tainted views of "misbehavior"
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 2:31 PM |
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Loreli
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^^^^^bad boy 
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 2:32 PM |
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katydid438
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I'm not gonna go "crazy" over a Bad Boy again.  .......yeh!..........that's right!  
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 2:49 PM |
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blueyes101
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What type of response would you expect? If your man was caught cheating, do you really expect the truth to be the first thing out of his mouth? If a guy uses you for sex, do you really expect him to get down on one knee to beg for forgiveness? It sounds like women want to think a certain way about a guy, and when the sh!t hits the fan, they still expect their unrealistic views to still come out of him. He used you, he will use someone else, he doesn't care that he used you, and won't care about the next.
What part of that do you not understand? He has used his looks to get what he wants, and emotional response from you, makes him run, not walk to the next victim.
Yes you are crazy, for allowing him to do it to you. Yes you are crazy if you ever go back with him expecting a different outcome. Yes you are crazy if you really expect for him to give you any type of closure. And yes you are crazy if don't take a good look at yourself and realize what ever you look for in a man is completely the opposite of what you need. I have said this before, you will walk into a bar with your friends, and say you are looking for a "nice guy ", but you find yourself attracted to the biggest dick in the bar, and you find it exciting that he wants you over anyone else, only to find, he does want everyone else, and will probably use them too.
I truly believe they know they know they don't care about anyone but themselves, and since you pick them to be with, they figure you know what you are getting, so when you find out, you never just walk away, you try to fix it, and in their mind, they think you are crazy.......You are so afraid to lose him, you keep making excuses for his behavior. When you finally figure it out, you blame him for staying in too long. Sounds kinda crazy to me.....
Pick a different type of guy, and find all your feelings, hopes and desires to shared by a wonderful man, yes it will not be as exciting, But you will find you don't need/want all that drama in the first place.
[Edited on 7/15/2007 3:38 PM]
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 3:12 PM |
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NatGoat
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Other than the fact that the woman in question should've had better taste than to even get _involved_ with a Bad-boy . .
She should Dump him and find someone _Respectable_ . . !!!
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 3:16 PM |
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katydid438
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OMG!Blueyes! Deja vu!  
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 3:38 PM |
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Ripperdoc
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I think it's a clearly defined line myself. There's a distinct difference between being a "bad boy" and just being an asshole.
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 3:56 PM |
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jamminjerry
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well fellas, it looks like each of us are being honest here. i haven't sensed anyone outright lying. and so, will the gals keep chasing the azhole/bad boy? probably, cause she has deluded herself into thinking she is the one he will change for. LOL
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 4:00 PM |
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DiamondRain
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You nailed it blueyes.
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 4:25 PM |
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LittleMsDangerous
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I think some of you guys misunderstood the OP's original question. Although the thread title is "question for bad boys", I don't think (could be wrong here!) she is directing the question at the typical "bad boy", but rather towards those that are bad boys for cheating. 
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 4:27 PM |
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Ripperdoc
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Those aren't bad boys. They're assholes.
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 4:32 PM |
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DiamondRain
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[Edited on 7/15/2007 4:34 PM]
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 4:32 PM |
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DiamondRain
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Honk Honk!
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 4:33 PM |
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LittleMsDangerous
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DR, you have a hink in your honk honk today?
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| Jul 15, 2007 @ 4:34 PM |
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DiamondRain
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My honk got all hinked out. 
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