| Jul 16, 2007 @ 10:42 PM |
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Oregondaisy
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Okay, I responded to someone on a another site who didn't have a picture. We messaged each other back and forth a few times, with me asking for a picture each time. He finally sent one to my hotmail address. Now the question is , how do you let someone down easy?
I remember how badly I felt when I was writing to someone and the stopped writing after they asked for a picture. I don't want to do that. I want to be polite about it.
Any good phrases come to mind? 
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 10:48 PM |
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vinny_53
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are you dumping him only on his looks? or is there a combination of reasons?
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 10:49 PM |
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signme
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Good question Vinny. 
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 10:50 PM |
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blueyes101
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Same problem, I let some time pass hoping for the right answer. It never came, I got busy, now I feel bad. Good luck...........Each day that passed by made me feel worse.
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 10:51 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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When you were talking to him BEFORE you knew what he looked like, did you enjoy the chats?? And what about his pic made you want to stop talking to him? And if all you did was chat a few times, what is there to "let him down" about??
My opinion.. I would be honest and tell him that he is not what you are looking for, because you obviously are letting his looks sway you from wanting anything to do with him anymore.
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 10:58 PM |
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Oregondaisy
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Actually no, it wasn't only his looks. The first few messages were very brief. This last one he sent me along with his picture, he went into great detail about how much he loved being in the Marines, years ago. His picture was in VFW sort of shirt. He was trying to make a point that he was a "good guy" Besides not being attracted to his looks, I have met other guys out of the Marines that were very over bearing.
Sorry if I have offended any of you who have been in the Marines. I am sure it's wonderful, and they are great to want to fight for our country-just not my type.
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 11:08 PM |
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signme
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Then I would just tell him that he's not what you're looking for and wish him luck on his continued search.
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 11:09 PM |
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BandTMom
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But looks are important in the equation. They must be attractive to you (generic you). What one person finds attractive may turn someone else off completely.
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 11:17 PM |
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RhodeRhunner
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But looks are important in the equation. They must be attractive to you (generic you). What one person finds attractive may turn someone else off completely.
I have to echo what everyone has already said. I'd send a polite, but brief note saying that you have enjoyed your discourse with him, but that you don't think the two of you are a good match. Whether it's only his looks or a combination of several things, if you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it.
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 11:20 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Just say...
"Whoa dude! I didn't know they made people that ugly!. A paragon of beauty like me couldn't possibly be seen in public with something that looks like YOU!"
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| Jul 16, 2007 @ 11:43 PM |
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robodad
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His picture was in VFW sort of shirt. VFW????
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 12:02 AM |
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kattsmeow
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Ok, he finally sends a pic, and now you have to let him down easy. Sorry, I hope you find an easy way to do this. It is still going to hurt him no matter what you do.
I love a man in a uniform. So handsome!
I suggest you not have any emails with people without a picture then.
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 12:09 AM |
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Loreli
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 Katt
I have nothing else to add.
Sad.
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 12:26 AM |
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Oregondaisy
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I agree. There have been a lot of posts that I have read where people won't even respond unless there is a picture. I am sorry if I seem shallow. Like I said, it wasn't just the picture. There were some things in the latest email that sounded extremely
chauvinistic.
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 1:36 AM |
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robodad
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Well, I have a picture and you didn't respond....VFW???
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 1:58 AM |
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sweet5red
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well im gona say this.. i wrote several emails to someone on here and his responses to me were always nice but it seemed kinda one sided in a way.. i knew i could really like this guy alot and it seems he was chasin a gorgeous MD woman ( yes i know who she is) but i wont mention cept he is my age a little older and she is 35 and yes i am thinkin thats why she was picked over me.. besides her being gorgeous.. sorry venting.. yall but i am not one to judge on looks either......  Sweet N Louisiana
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 3:28 PM |
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dooney123
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While being referred to as "gorgeous" repeatedly is quite flattering, you need to take a step back and try to view this as objectively as you can. I understand that you're disappointed, but you need to quit taking this out on him. He posted a nice apology to you in the forums although personally I don't think he did anything wrong; yet, you continue to bring this up.
First of all, age (which is 37 by the way; not 35) and looks are not the only reasons. He of all people is NOT that shallow. Secondly, he was/is not the one doing the chasing; that is me.
I don't appreciate the implication that the only reasons that a man would be interested in me are my looks and age. How about my intelligence, self-confidence, sense of humor, professionalism, responsibility, honesty, integrity, tenacity, energy, taste, style, polish, passion, and maturity (when appropriate). How about that I'm fun to talk to and be around, and I'm a great friend to my friends. How about I have an MBA and my own corporation. I value my friends, family, and material assets, and I take good care of them.
Not everyone is a match. The key is to find the right fit between partners. If you are not interested in someone, it's not because there is anything wrong with one of you; it's just not a good match between the 2 of you. You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. It takes a lot of time and effort to find the right person.
[Edited on 7/17/2007 3:39 PM]
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 3:36 PM |
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Loreli
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Who knew/thought it was you Dooney?
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 3:39 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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and if you need a crow bar to get the off ya? lol what about repealent spray when they ghost ya arround....
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 11:01 PM |
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grumblebear
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heck, and I was going to ask Dooney to post a pic of her backside.... just to see if I was attracted..... 
(honest, I'm kidding) 
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