| Dec 11, 2005 @ 2:24 PM |
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sweet5red
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I dont let guys pick me up at my house.. i did one time but after that NO more on first dates or first meeting.. here is what happened tell me what you would have done..
the guy picked me up and we were spose to go to this rib place called tony romas.. well we sat at the table in the place about 20 minutes and he kept starting at the menu.. and then he said i will be right back.. well the hostess came over and said was there a problem and said I think that guy left.. well he did and i was stuck in the restaurant with NO ride.. thank god the manager was a friend of mine and gave me a ride home..I called his phone and left a message and said a few choice words.. well the menu prices were higher than mcdonalds LOL maybe he wasnt use to that.. but they were not that high.. ok about a month ago i went to eat there with a date and she ( the manager) told me that he the rude guiy had showed up there one night wiht a date and she saw him and said Im sorry but u cant come here lol.. the girl he was with was like what was that about lol.. the manager said "this guy ditches dates" the girl left him standing there ;; and called a cab..   lol Sweet N Louisiana
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| Dec 11, 2005 @ 2:38 PM |
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Angel54214
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Wow Sweet! That was scary...I had one experience also. I was quite the newbee on internet dating at the time. Chatted online with this man and after a week we spoke on the phone. We decided to meet at a restaurant about 4:00pm on a Sunday. So I drove my car there and he drove in. We got out and chatted a few minutes and then I said, shall we go in? He said you know I am very chilly, can you go with me while I pick up my jacket. So Dah! stupid me, I jumped in his very nice Truck. We drove up to his condo. Everything went fine. Once inside, he showed me around and he had a parakeet, (I love birds), while I was giving attention to the bird, he went into to bedroom, came out a couple minutes later with no jacket in hand.
I said where is your jacket? He started to sit down on the sofa and tried to pull me down with him. I shoved him away and reaching into my purse for my cellphone. I said SIR, IF YOU DON'T TAKE ME BACK TO MY CAR SAFELY RIGHT NOW, I WILL CALL THE POLICE AND A FEW STRONG FRIENDS OF MINE THAT HAPPEN TO LIVE IN THIS AREA!!
Needless to say, he did and apologized all the way back to the restaurant. I was shaking so bad inside that I counldn't wait to get out to my car. Never contacted him or heard from him ever again. You know something? This man was a police officer so he said. End of story....
Boy I learned a lesson and I was lucky and so thankful I had the phone. Also so thankful I was not raped or something.
BECAREFUL OUT THERE EVERYONE....DON'T TAKE RISKS LIKE I DID. But now I know better than to do something that stupid.
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| Dec 11, 2005 @ 4:23 PM |
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a_nice_girl
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Sweet I love that your friend got that guy back. Maybe it embarrassed him enough that he would stop ditching women.
That is a scary story Angel. It is a mistake anyone could have made.
[Edited on 12/11/2005 4:24 PM]
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| Dec 11, 2005 @ 4:41 PM |
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skinnybarncat
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Hmmmmmm, well, i hope you two learned.....always meet someone in a public place...Maybe even for the first few dates!...Try to see their dirvers' license,,,,"you aren't really that old are you?",,,,double check facts, work place, home address, etc.........i sure do now after my scary dates!!!... 
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| Dec 11, 2005 @ 5:11 PM |
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Angel54214
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BarnCat...not to worry about Angel. She smart now.
i sure do now after my scary dates!!!
BarnCat, you gotta stay away from those felines with mange.... 
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 12:09 AM |
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buni
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ladies ladies ladies....think safety first! Never let a man that you don't know pick you up at your house or your place of work, and do not under any circumstances go back to his place. And always carry pepper spray and know how to use it, let anyone and everyone you know know where you will be and who you will be with. Be sure to get his name. Make sure it is real. This goes for you guys too. Some psychos out there.....This isn't being paranoid, it is being safe.
I also recommend self defense classes for all of you ladies so you can defend yourselves.
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 12:58 AM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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Sorry to hear bout your bad situations, lots of good advice given, definiatly meet somewhere for the first date!
*AsH
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 1:26 AM |
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swingpup
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Never let a man that you don't know pick you up at your house or your place of work, and do not under any circumstances go back to his place.
Great advice buni, that way either can leave when they so desire...provided they have a vehicle or a valid drivers license. 
Pepper Spray, Def-Tec makes a great 10% Oleoresin Capsicum pepper spray that works well by even marginally trained individuals. Check your local ordinance. 
Ladies here is another suggestion as buni mentioned don't go back to his or your home before you get to know them..... Always offer to split the cost of the motel room.
In all honesty...trust your gut instincts. If your "s*** detector" sounds.....listen to it! 
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 9:39 AM |
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janneman1162
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Just kick those boys in the b*lls, so there kids can't do it to your daughters. 
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 10:37 AM |
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torees121
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I had an experience where I thought I was being safe and it turned out not to be the case.
I had meet this guy at a public place. We got along fine and after a couple of public meetings and phone conversations I felt comfortable with him. I still never took him to where I lived however. One conversation we started talking about cars and such. I told him how my son had a one of a kind paint job on his car. It is just a statement. Well he became a jerk so I decided to stop answering his calls (I did tell him to stop calling). He tracked my son down (by his paint job on the car) at the local mall, demanding to know where I was. My son is 18 and stocky, so of course he held his own, BUT I was extremely upset that I had let something slip, so that a stranger could track down one of my children. Needless to say, I have learned my lesson now.
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 10:51 AM |
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spongebob777
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I try to set up a situation where she can get a good look at me first. That way she can make a run for it without an awkward meeting. If she changes her mind I'm not going to write or call, I'll leave that up to her if that's what she really wants.
Leaving an avenue of escape can be a real good way of gaining someones trust.
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 10:58 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Another case of being ashamed of my gender...lol. I've heard soooo many stories from women about how many jerks, liars, and obsessives there are out here it's a wonder women still trust us?
My own experiences have been the total opposite. 99.9999% of the women I've met have been normal, mature, level-headed, grounded, close-or-better in appearance, and honest about their living conditions. Even my so-called bad experiences pale in comparison to some of the horror stories I've heard from women.
At least when it comes to the preliminary stages of dating, women have it all over us guys, no contest.
Now, again, I'm going by my own experience and word-of-mouth, so please fellow guys, don't accuse me of "talking trash about all men...you don't know what you're talking about...go fish yourself....etc". You have your view, I have mine.
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 5:43 PM |
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grumblebear
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One of my first online dating experiences, I had talked with a lady for a couple weeks, she had seemed very nice, so we agreed to meet at a TGIF for a Saturday brunch...
I got there early, was sitting in the lobby, when this much older, and much larger woman shows up...
she admitted she was 15 years older than she claimed....
she admitted she was 150 lbs heavier than her pics, that were 15 years old...
and... she neglected to mention she had been thrown through a windshield a couple years before....
and she was rude, obnoxious, and drunk at 10 in the morning....
she then started waving a pistol around in the restaurant, got into several fights with the staff... and I slid out ... choosing not to wait for a table, or the police....
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 6:08 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Geez, Bear, what a HONEY!!! What's her number?
lol...Seriously, hope you haven't had a similar experience.
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 6:37 PM |
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grumblebear
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lol, Motown, I dodged a couple of her calls... and she faded out, but I've a weirdness magnet, and thats part of the reason I have no desire to date or meet anymore.....
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