| Dec 12, 2005 @ 1:07 AM |
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Angel54214
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This is about searching and checking profiles. I was wondering how everyone eliminates certain profiles. Like what you look for first as priority, secondary, etc.
I seem to find myself first looking at location distance, then age. I then look at status on to heighth. Its so hard to find someone, I get so confused at times, I stop searching. In my location, the men are limited. CA is such a large state and most live way too far. Its discouraging. 
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 1:33 AM |
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swingpup
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The location first followed by her picture and then what they are seeking. There is no way I'm going to travel over 50-75 miles to meet not even for a "Must Do". I've been there done that years ago.....most when met ended up looking like a light bulb. 
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 1:39 AM |
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Angel54214
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Thats funny Swingpup, I know what you mean about pics. The men I have met, I ask them if I look like my pic and they always said I look exactly like my pic. They say I look prettier in real life. Just so hard cause of the miles. And I only 5' 1", that is hard too cause I can't keep up with a man that is so much taller than I am.
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 1:53 AM |
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Pete73052
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Picture, smoker, distance - in that order.
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 4:10 AM |
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janneman1162
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It is not 1 thing I look at. It's a combination of serveral.
The picture is important, her age. Distance, somewhere in Europe, but if there's a nice lady in the USA? Why not?
I try to find if there are things we have in common.
It's the overall that counts.
A_nice_girl: you prefer pics, how about yours?
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 4:37 AM |
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walkingman
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I look first at distance, then age range and pic. Alot of profile's don't have a pic. I do think most people look alot better in person. It is just nice to have an idea of what they look like since I have a pic.
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 4:41 AM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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If they don't have a pic then I look at the description they gave on their profile...But usually I always look at their pic first. Then their age, then what they're looking for and then I look at the distance because I've said it before and I'll say it again. It doesn't matter how far away you are if the two of you are seriously going to hook up.
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 8:54 AM |
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spongebob777
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The photo is the eye catcher for me but I don't eliminate them without one. Next I look to see what they're looking for in a man. I read entire profiles. Call it superficial but body type and weight are eliminators for me (but not always) Political stance doesn't mean much to me unless they make it very clear that they're so arrogant in their views that the only want a yes man.
Some immediate eliminators are profiles that say they're 18 seeking a man between 40 and 99. (they're looking for a sugar daddy or something) Profiles that say "if you want me you can have me". Angry profiles are a clear eliminator.
As far as my profile is concerned, what I'm seeking isn't absolute.
[Edited on 12/12/2005 8:57 AM]
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 10:17 AM |
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definitelydi
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Picture, grammar/spelling in profile, content of profile, smoking preference.
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 10:27 AM |
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lj450
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I personally dont put much faith in anything I read in a profile....its too easy for people to "give the right answers" instead of the truthful ones......a picture is worth a thousand words.....all the rest has to come through communication, and even then I take that with a grain of salt.
Dont believe any of what you hear (or read in this case) and only half of what you see. haha
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 10:27 AM |
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torees121
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I look at context of profile first to see if it sparks an interest. Then I look at picture, distance and if they want a LT relationship. I get too many guys that say they want a lassting relationship, but are really only after sex. It is pretty easy to weed them out though.
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 10:35 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Probably picture first, since that seems to be the first thing your eye gravitates to and what really jumps out.
Next would be distance (usually my big groan moment because all you gorgeous women live too far away), then the rest of the profile: whether she has kids, kids age (if age information's supplied, most times it's not), smoker?, whether she's separated or divorced, what's she's looking for in a partner, etc.
By the time I get to the bottom I've already made up my mind about whether to take things further.
[Edited on 12/12/2005 10:36 AM]
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 11:43 AM |
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Angel54214
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Thanks my friends, I sorry I did overlook adding pic on my original post..  I see that first in profiles. Like Mo stated, I do look at the "children" section also right away, since I can't have anymore. One thing that I little shy about asking individuals is in written profile when they state opened minded. To me that can be so many things to be open minded about. Maybe my friends here can help me on that one too...
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 1:33 PM |
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danae74
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I do the process of elimination, too, Angel, using very much the same criteria as everyone else. Distance, age, and photo are probably the first three...then I move on to the profile. Poor grammar & spelling, obvious signs of serious personality disorders, or any use of the word "chick" in reference to potential dates, and out they go! 
Then I check smoking preferences; I'm not going to waste anyone's time if they don't want a smoker (albeit a guilty one!) I also eliminate if they state very plainly that they absolutely want children. So I guess it's a matter of moving from the general deciding factors to the more specific...
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 1:47 PM |
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jbabynumba5
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I look at several things, ofcourse age and distance are important. I also look at thing like the body type they want, if they only list one, I think they may be close minded or even shallow. I also dont like smokers so i look at that
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 1:53 PM |
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peaches_n_cream2002
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I look at age, location (within the u.s), and then I look at how they present themselves via their profile. I can "usually" catch bulls***ters pretty easily. Sure, some slip by me, but for the most part I like a profile that is well-written and believable... and that it doesn't look like they tried too hard to impress people, but rather just let their personality overflow onto their profile in as much detail as they can while still allowing there to be something for me to want to find out.
And finally, I look at the picture. Looks do matter, but it's not first.
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 3:41 PM |
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skinnybarncat
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To me that can be so many things to be open minded about.
I would say compassion , tolerance , and empathy when presented with a "new idea" or perspective.....all too many times it is more like an open garbage container waiting for the next piece of trash to be deposited indiscriminately.....
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 3:56 PM |
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Angel54214
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I whole heartedly agree barncat...especially if the person does not explain their open mindness.
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 5:29 PM |
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grumblebear
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Location, location, location....
I tried traveling to meet people..... absolute waste of time....
these days I haven't seen anyone online I would cross the street to meet....
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 6:02 PM |
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wandaful123
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Picture, location, smoke preference...." Man I wish I was a non-smoker." she gasps between spasms of coughing....
All jokes aside, we the smokers are quickley becoming a minority and this can be nothing but positive. I am an addict, not proud of it but nontheless I am. One day I too would like to add "non-smoker" as my preference. I personally don't have the nerve to investigate a no photo member. Shallow as that may appear, there are certain things I find very unattractive and would not be able to pursue a physical relationship so why bother.
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