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torees121
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I am an educated, respectful, energetic woman. I either meet men that have mental issues, unresolved ex baggage or they have an addiction to something (alcohol, porn, other women).
I must be giving off some kind of vibe that says I want this type of person. I feel that I am very picky. I usually weed men out before we meet if I feel they have any of these issues. I seem to be weeding out a lot of men. I talk to a man and he seems to want the same thing as I do. If we meet within a week he has changed his mine. I am told that I intimidate men. I am too independent, too educated, or too something else. It makes them feel inferior and run. WTF??? Should I be on welfare and talk poorly? I think not!
How do you handle this type of behavior?
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| Aug 11, 2007 @ 2:20 PM |
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NatGoat
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Let's Chat . . !
The Blogs are probably a better place to ask the question . .
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| Aug 11, 2007 @ 2:22 PM |
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torees121
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I thought one couldn't post a question in a blog? Jeez this is what I get for trying to follow the rules 
I would love to chat!
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| Aug 11, 2007 @ 2:27 PM |
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NatGoat
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It's just a matter how you pose the question . .
Ask for opinions . . etc . .
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| Aug 11, 2007 @ 3:12 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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Torees NEVER lower your standards just because the men who you seem to attract turn out to be less than they profess to be... it is not your fault that they cannot handle a woman with brains beauty and a good heart ,.... they are not worthy give it time and THE one will find you ... and you will be able to see him like a beacon ina stormy sea.. he will be intelligent , caring loving and MAN enough to realize YOUR worth big huggs don't give up and don't settle !!! 
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| Aug 11, 2007 @ 3:15 PM |
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dooney123
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Torees, as Becks said, never lower your standards. Men who have an issue with an independent woman usually have low self-esteem and are needy. You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. It takes time to find the right man. Try to realize it's not you; just be happy with who you are or work on what you don't like about yourself, and the right man will come along when the timing is right.
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| Aug 11, 2007 @ 3:19 PM |
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Always_Striving
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Instead of finding this out later in the game, you should advertise it in your profile so that those men can read it and "Self-Weed" themselves out of your life before they ever decide to talk to you.
It should save the both of you the time and agony.
[Edited on 8/11/2007 3:21 PM]
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| Aug 11, 2007 @ 3:19 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Hiya Torees!! LTNS! 
Nope, you're right to post it here....(Nat, check the rules, it says specifically NOT to post questions as blogs - rule 3).
Becky's right of course...and it takes patience, lots and lots of patience. (insert doctor joke here). The only hope I can hold out for you is that it seems to get better as you get older, or as they get older, or both..maybe more of the issues are resolved and excessive drinking and drugging are things of the past, or they've eliminated themselves from the dating pool.
As with everything, YMMV, but that's been mine. Good luck! 
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| Aug 11, 2007 @ 3:22 PM |
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NatGoat
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With some amount of Imagination . . it doesn't HAVE to even Resemble a Question . . !!!
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| Aug 11, 2007 @ 3:24 PM |
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Loreli
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Should I be on welfare and talk poorly? I think not!
How do you handle this type of behavior?
Nat-
she did ask.
Forums are for asking, blogs are for stating.
I think you're confused.
Torees, just keep on with your mindset. You have a right to "not settle"
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| Aug 11, 2007 @ 5:34 PM |
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JayBird747
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they have an addiction to something (alcohol, porn, other women). I;m addicted to all three.
Torees NEVER lower your standards Hmmmmm seeing that line and Natty-goat in the same thread....
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| Aug 11, 2007 @ 7:28 PM |
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jamminjerry
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consider the logic of your statement and the supporting opinions. if a person is intimidated then that person is inferior. i am intimidated by a gun or a knife or an agressive dog etc. but rarely am i intimidated by an inferior creature. perhaps the majority of the men you choose are in fact inferior. that is the way most men choose a female. rarely does a man seek an equal or a potentially superior woman. reevaluate the person you seek. perhaps have a female companion along ocassionaly to offer a 2nd opinion. you may unintentionaly seek inferior men. just a possibility. we be jammin 
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| Aug 11, 2007 @ 8:13 PM |
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torees121
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Thank you for the replies 
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| Aug 11, 2007 @ 8:31 PM |
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Say_Yes
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To echo some of the above sentiments, don't settle, find the right person and don't put up with jerks. As for questions, ask away. You won't always like the replies that you get, but you will generally find that most people do try to give advice that is both honest and helpful. Of course, what one person views as honest and helpful, others will find to be full of $h!t.
As for being too independent, or educated, I can't see that. My advice, seek men with the same qualities. Opposites may attract, but you will find better relationships are built, when people have a great deal in common.
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| Aug 12, 2007 @ 7:36 PM |
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Alternaut
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There's also the very important question of where you are finding these guys. The type of fish you catch has a lot to do w/where you drop your net.
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| Aug 14, 2007 @ 1:22 PM |
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marylou
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torees121.......hey....join the club........I seem to be having the same problem lately...LOL
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| Aug 14, 2007 @ 1:25 PM |
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marylou
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How do you handle this type of behavior?
Tell them to get psychological help.........so they wont feel so intimidated......tell them its their insecurity that makes them feel that way....lol
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| Aug 14, 2007 @ 2:00 PM |
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lj450
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Its ok to be intelligent. Its also ok to be less intelligent than someone else. The key to fitting in is called "tact". This is what makes some people loved by everyone, and others loved by no one.
Even though some of us always know the right answer, its sometimes better to stand back and let someone else answer.......for example.
Try reading the famous book by Dale Carnegie......How to Win Friends and Influence People. A wealth of information.
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