| Aug 24, 2007 @ 3:56 AM |
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southerngentleman700
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Do really fall in Love or it an infatuation with the thought of being or wanting be in LOVE or needed to LOVE?????????? 
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 5:42 AM |
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twotall911
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sometimes all the above
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 5:53 AM |
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SensualGemini
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southern:
Do really fall in Love or it an infatuation...etc.
...Sometimes, I think being in love is that infatuation that lasts forever... And of course there are those that are addicted to the endorphin rush of new and when that wears off, incapable of moving to the next stage, they prefer the replacement of new. Your question is a bit vague and has many variables by the 7 billion people on this earth.
...What is going on southern? I have noticed you posting a few odd threads and no, I don't know you, nor your situation. Regardless, it does not require a genius to conclude you are hurting and searching for closure, understanding, if not a little vindication.
...We have all been there and we have probably even caused another to feel the same thing... either way, it sucks! Without a doubt, it takes two to make a relationship and no matter how much one wants, if the other does not and for whatever reason, there will be none.
...Noobody cannot force anyone to love them and even if they do love, there are often prior responsibilities that preclude the physical union of forever plus one day from happening; a rather common occurrance in long distance relationships.
...Jobs, kids, family, tangible things, etc., are all reasons that prior responsibilities require more than just love for many people. And for others, leaving a known security scares the hell out of them; they know they can survive where they are.
...It remains a fact, the harder we try, the reciprocal of attraction will push them away from feeling smothered, manipulated or coerced. And if being vindictive, want of revenge, then another fact is that there is a fine line between love and hate and hate only hurts the one doing it.
...And sometimes, there are no answers or reasons that will satisfy... and we just have to move on.
...There are a lot of threads on breaking up and here is a recent one:
http://www.matchdoctor.com/thread_3_22362_1/Where_did_I_go_wrong.html
...And if my perceptions are wrong? ... 
Good Luck ... 
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 6:17 AM |
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BandTMom
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Great post, Sens.
Many people in our "instant society" are looking for instant love or instant gratification. Our world today is different than our parents world an as you said there are many, sometimes complicated, factors in building a relationship.
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 6:28 AM |
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sthnhylander
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Many people in our "instant society" are looking for instant love or instant gratification ...mom, our whole world is based on instant this and instant that....now where's my instant coffee... 
Elvis said it all....Love me tender, love me sweet..........
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 9:42 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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Sen... great post ...
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 9:55 AM |
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Loreli
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Yes it is,  Sen.
Welcome back, Southern. 
oops-typo 
[Edited on 8/24/2007 10:18 AM]
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 9:56 AM |
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katydid438
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Well said Sen!
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 10:12 AM |
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Dukums
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Hmmm if they ever bottle up instant love...I will take a six pack!
All I can say is that when we lose a love, infatuation, or someone close to us, it takes a while to have that hole in our heart to mend. If we try to fill it with someone or something, it only delays the process and runs the risk of making the hole larger. The only way to see that hole heal is to work on us, and pray to the one who made the heart to do what we are incapable of doing ourself.
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 10:22 AM |
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KAOS2007
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Love.... is the slowest form of suicide.
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 10:52 AM |
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kattsmeow
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Sen,
Yes, Southern, it takes 2 to make things work, and if one decides it isn't going to work, then the other one is wounded and hurt.
Hugs to you.
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 11:34 AM |
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sensuouswoman
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Recipe for Love
Ingredients
1/2 a cup of Affection
A pinch of cuddles
3 tablespoons of pure sweetness
A great big kiss
Method
Dim the lights then mix them very slowly together.
~ Author Unknown ~
If only it were that easy!!!
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 11:40 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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wait dont ya need a partner to go with that ??
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 5:17 PM |
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BandTMom
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Elvis said it all....Love me tender, love me sweet.........
I only have drip coffee. I'm not an instant person. 
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 5:35 PM |
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BandTMom
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To answer the OP:
When I was younger I was in love with the idea of being in love. I though I had to be in love, I had to have a partner, I couldn't function without a man by my side. I made many mistakes, relationships failed, and my heart was left in shreds.
My next relationship will be different because I have learned I don't have to have a man and I don't rush around frantically trying to find one. My next relationship will be one of slow but steady growth and allowing things that happen to happen naturally.
I firmly believe my next relationship will be my last.
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 5:59 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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"Do (you) really fall in Love or (is) it an infatuation with the thought of being or wanting (to) be in LOVE (,) or (is it) needed to LOVE"
love just is....
....a part of being human...
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 6:26 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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Love.... is the slowest form of suicide.
Because it takes two to keep a heart beating as one... alive.
Before I leave, I will answer you OP.
To be in love you have to understand yourself under the definition of what you need, want, and are looking for. With that you must also understand the other person including their wants, needs, understanding of them self, and what they are looking for. This is so the two, can work as one.
The words are easy to say, but the truth is in the understanding...
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 7:44 PM |
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BandTMom
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Sadian!
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| Aug 24, 2007 @ 11:04 PM |
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| Aug 25, 2007 @ 6:44 AM |
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dazee
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Very well stated Sadian........
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