| Dec 13, 2005 @ 9:09 AM |
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kozman25
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i have always wondered why girls go for the bad boys any help here?
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| Dec 13, 2005 @ 9:12 AM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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I've heard the theory that "bad boys" are safe......they aren't ready to get into a serious relationship, therefore, there is no chance of women getting hurt in the long run.
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| Dec 13, 2005 @ 10:28 AM |
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star131303
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The ones that are set in their ways, emotionally closed off, hard to deal with, that just break your heart everytime?
Yeah those are the ones I seem to fall for everytime! They are always the ones that I am attracted to.
I think I just like the thought of something I can't have. (the chase/challenge) I do react better when I do get what I want at some point though. When I chase someone and they continue to run, I usually give up now. When they let me catch them, it has been worth it for me and them. Or at least it was the last time I went through this kind of thing.
Does anyone else seem to have this problem? Or maybe know how to make the hard ones, be easier?
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| Dec 13, 2005 @ 10:52 AM |
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Angel54214
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Good input for 'Eyes' and 'Star'...I was thinking also about defining (bad boy). I was married to on in that classification, although he was a family man, but he liked going out way too much with the other bad boys, you know the bar hopping, staying out all wee hours of the night, coming home drunk, etc. As far as women, well I never saw any evidence there, but people talked anyways.
As far as playing the field, like Eyes said, and they not in that state of mind to settle down. Some girls/women are the same way. To me age is unlimited in the classification, all ages participate in this life style. I call the growing period, stretching ones natural boundaries for adventure and freedom. Its best people do this early in life, so when the thought of children, buying a home, furthering education comes into view, they can say ya I want all that! The toughy is the transition for a lot of people. Changing their life style, finding a mate to settle down with, etc. Tasting the other parts of life that require responsibilites and commitments. Its an on going growing development part of life.
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| Dec 13, 2005 @ 10:58 AM |
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lj450
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The sad reality of it all is this......women are attracted most, to what they cant have.
Argue till you are blue in the face if you wish......but we've all lived it. haha
Bad boys are the mysterious ones, unpredictable, breaking all the rules......things women admire (secretly if not outright)....by contrast, the "good guy" image is all lovey dovey, all up in her face, never strays, so predictable......etc etc......I used to say......treat a woman like a queen and she will sh*t all over you, treat her like crap and they will chase you to the ends of the earth.
I still chose to be sh*tted on, cuz my momma taught me better. 
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| Dec 13, 2005 @ 12:52 PM |
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peaches_n_cream2002
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Another option is that women are secure and go for the men that we think would want us. We only dream of finding a good guy that would want us and so we go for the ones that show interest... even if it's short lived and for all the wrong reasons.
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| Dec 13, 2005 @ 12:55 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Lol,,,because it appeals to the naughty side of us?
I like a "good guy" that knows how to be bad when he needs to. 
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| Dec 13, 2005 @ 1:08 PM |
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ILLLOOK
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I think it is a unspoken confidence that we love in the  boy/girl person. example: There is a girl at work who by far is not the best looking but because she has this almost over confidence in herself and the way she carries herself the guys just hang on her every word. I admit I like being around her too. There is something about that girl confidence. They know what they want and how to get it which is the one thing that can be of the boy/girl they have to be a little selffish or they would not be
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| Dec 13, 2005 @ 2:08 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Yep, I echo Eyes and Star.
It's for the same reasons some guys are attracted to the wild, sexy, trampy types. We love the visceral, the danger, the living on the edge, the raw sex appeal...but we'd never want to "marry" those types. (lol)
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| Dec 13, 2005 @ 2:33 PM |
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Angel54214
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Aww "Mo"...fess up! We know you love watching re-runs of "Lady And The Tramp"...hehee.
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| Dec 13, 2005 @ 3:13 PM |
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sweet5red
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well as for myself.. mix a little kinda.. hmm he might ride a harley, wear a leather jacket, cowboy boots..   know how to ride a horse, know how to treat lady ( open doors, give flowers one single rose speaks volumes) like to slow dance.. love romance.. not afraid to tell her how he feels, hes giving, sensitive, loving.. need i say more ?? Sweet N louisiana 
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| Dec 13, 2005 @ 3:39 PM |
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lj450
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A big gay biker?
haha jk
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| Dec 13, 2005 @ 5:21 PM |
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danae74
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Okay, I'll give you a theory, but you won't like it!!
Women (or men) are often attracted to what they would secretly desire to be like, if only for a little while. The projection theory, you know...we fall for those outside ourselves who reflect a little-used, little-admitted-to part of ourselves. If we're too busy being "good girls" or "nice guys," that little part in all of us that will always be a nasty horndog thrill-seeking rule-breaker seeks an outlet...and so...we start a relationship not with a person but with an embodiment of vicarious excitement!!
Told you you wouldn't like it... 
[Edited on 12/13/2005 5:22 PM]
[Edited on 12/13/2005 5:23 PM]
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| Dec 13, 2005 @ 6:16 PM |
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MotownManiax
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A big gay biker?
LOL 
Ooops, sorry sweet...no offense.
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 12:15 AM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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I tend to go for the "nice" guys but I do agree that alot of women just like the idea of wanting what they can't have.
*AsH
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 1:32 AM |
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sweet5red
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[QUOTE][well as for myself.. mix a little kinda.. hmm he might ride a harley, wear a leather jacket, cowboy boots.. know how to ride a horse, know how to treat lady ( open doors, give flowers one single rose speaks volumes) like to slow dance.. love romance.. not afraid to tell her how he feels, hes giving, sensitive, loving.. need i say more ?? Sweet N louisiana ] [QUOTE]
No a sensitive, caring man part bad boy part cowboy.. silly..Sweet N Louisiana
[Edited on 12/14/2005 1:34 AM]
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 1:33 AM |
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grumblebear
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its the thrill of the chase... reaching out for what we can't have...
its part of life... and the main reason I quit... I wanted women who were destructive to me...
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 5:24 AM |
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dark_moon
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ok lj450, I'm gonna argue with you. I fell for my first and last bad boy at 36. That was a year and a half of agony I have no desire for ever again. Mysterious, unpredictable....no thank you! The minute I feel the need to do a background check on a man, he's gone. Who needs it.
danae74, good theory. I like it. That would explain why a certain type of man is often very attracted to me. Makes sense.
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 9:35 AM |
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lj450
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ok lj450, I'm gonna argue with you. I fell for my first and last bad boy at 36.
.....so where is your argument......you just said that you spent the majority of your "dating years" chasing the bad boy. Just because you grew out of the range where most bad boys would want to look at you, you decided to stop. haha
Thats not a success story. 
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 10:41 AM |
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Greystone1
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Is 36 the end of the dating years? And nobody told me?
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