| Aug 29, 2007 @ 4:36 PM |
Why are stay at home women classed as old fashioned now?
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CHARLIgurl1
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Ok.. I'll admit Im the old fashioned type..lol.. I prefer to stay at home.. look after my home and my partner. But I have spoken to some people who think thats an old fashioned way of thinking now... OR Ive heard men say that they dont want to be the only provider in the home and that she should have a job/career too.
Im aware that some women prefer to work, and thats fine with them, but is it really that old fashioned to WANT to stay at home?
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| Aug 29, 2007 @ 6:41 PM |
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Jankia
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Maybe because those that say that want to be a stay at home woman but cannot?
Its a copout in my opinion.
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| Aug 29, 2007 @ 8:41 PM |
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Dukums
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Because of the modern feminist movement and it's redefinition of what is a great woman.
However this boy would love a stay at home wife, or even better, one that would love to run all across the greatest nation on God's green earth with him in my truck!
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| Aug 29, 2007 @ 9:36 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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If you can afford it and it works for you, fine. And what's wrong with being old-fashioned?
For me, I stayed home while the kids were little, and went to work when my ex bailed, saying being married wasn't fun anymore. I guess I could have gone on welfare, but I opted to work nights until they started school, then went to midnights so I could be there when they got home from school, and eventually days when they were grown. In a different marriage, I might well have opted to stay home, but I don't think I'd ever have been as happy from a purely personal point of view as I have been. But my point of view is colored by what I've done - travelled all over the world, met with all kinds of people and had a truly satisfying career...I feel really good about the children I raised, and the foster kids that I've taken over the years, but it's also a kick having been a major contributor to bringing something into being that someone was willing to pay multiple billions of dollars for...
It's not about being thoroughly modern Millie, it's about what works for you!
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| Aug 29, 2007 @ 11:48 PM |
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capitalview
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It's tremendous responsibility - to literary be "the whole world" for some woman.
And ,as any other responsibility , it comes with great benefits - Provider/ Protector gets royal treatment in his home,respect and admiration. And it also comes with temptations of misusing this power ...feeling like being some kind of "God"  In this respect traditional marriage is a serious "maturity test". So, immature males shy away from ANY marriage , but especially from traditional one. Mature ones , on the other hand , ALWAYS preferred and always will prefer to be sole provider and accept control and leadership in marriage.They hardly care for some kind of "buddy" for wife. 
Traditional marriage ( with husband as a sole provider and wife as a homemaker ) is very special arrangement , indeed. Spouses in traditional marriage sort of "adopt" each other in some way : man provides for a wife's every need as he does for his kids' and woman takes care of her husband's well-being and happiness as much as she cares about her kids' . This kind of bond was lost when "partnership marriage" was invented. Nowadays spouses are more like "roommates with benefits" ... fighting about whose turn it is to do chores and who earns / spends more 
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| Aug 30, 2007 @ 12:48 AM |
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your_princess
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I prefer to work, It is my outlet from home! I would go nuts to sit at home every day, day after day. I am very independent and do not enjoy the idea of a man solely supporting me. I like to feel as an equal in a relationship, and equally contribute to the income. However I am not saying that a stay at home mom is easy...if you added up all the various jobs one does in a days time she should make over $100,000/year! I just do not like to rely on someone, and need a social outlet away from play groups!
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| Aug 30, 2007 @ 2:02 AM |
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hotdognchilli
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^^^an old dude like me has to differ with the Princess..............in my marriages which span 4 decades "her" money was hers and "my" money was ours  
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| Aug 30, 2007 @ 3:33 PM |
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candylily
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Charli, the trend according to Census Bureau reports is that more moms choose to leave their jobs and stay home with their kids. There's been a 15% increase in stay-at-home moms over the last 10 years. Feminists are mystified and a little irritated about it, but when it comes right down to it, most women with small children find that staying at home with their kids is more fulfilling than working. Many of the young mothers now had working mothers and they hated it when they were kids. Of course, the catch is that the husband has to make enough money so that his wife can stay home with the kids and still manage the bills so the higher the husband's income, the more likely it is that his wife will be a stay-at-home mom.
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| Aug 30, 2007 @ 3:40 PM |
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NatGoat
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Funny, how that works . . 'eh , Hot . . ???
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| Aug 30, 2007 @ 4:27 PM |
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candylily
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When I was a "stay-at-home" mom for a few years after the factory I worked in shut down, I ran what-if scenarios through the computer and decided it would be possible for us to make extra money investing in real estate. I took the numbers to the bank and we were able to get financing to buy, sell, and lease rental houses. I prepared all financial statements for the banks, chose the tenants, did the bookkeeping and taxes, did all the painting both inside and outside, and made small repairs. I had my own power tools and tool belt. I also bought, fixed up, and sold a house by myself and made a $10,000 net profit in 3 weeks. I didn't keep any of the money. It went right into our joint accounts. My daughter helped clean and cook when I was busy working on houses and my son sometimes helped me paint, clean, and mow. My kids were well-clothed and fed but not spoiled and they usually didn't get any extra money for helping out like they did. My husband actually had the nerve to tell me that I didn't contribute financially because I didn't have a "regular" job.
[Edited on 8/30/2007 4:40 PM]
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| Aug 30, 2007 @ 4:33 PM |
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Luisa909
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I prefer to work, It is my outlet from home! I would go nuts to sit at home every day, day after day. I am very independent and do not enjoy the idea of a man solely supporting me. I like to feel as an equal in a relationship, and equally contribute to the income. However I am not saying that a stay at home mom is easy...if you added up all the various jobs one does in a days time she should make over $100,000/year! I just do not like to rely on someone, and need a social outlet away from play groups!
I perfectly agree !! 
and I would like to add that life is so unforeseeable that we don't know our future and economic independence is necessary for both men and women
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| Aug 30, 2007 @ 4:49 PM |
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twotall911
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govt should pay the stay at home moms as much as a CEO
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| Aug 30, 2007 @ 5:42 PM |
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SunBabe
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govt should pay the stay at home moms as much as a CEO
Would you believe my ex-husband would have agreed. Not to have the government pay, but he apparently finally came to realize how much I was worth all those years -- something he concluded on his OWN! (Of course being an anaylitical engineer/finance guy, rather than an emotional romantic, could have helped him reach that conclusion a little easier than most guys )
Shoot, I spent half my married life trying to defend my "stay at home status" -- but funny thing: it was only my LADY friends who whined about me. I have a feeling that they were envious. In their quest for the almighty buck and hunger for more and more and newer "stuff", they used phrases like "my job is so fulfilling", "so rewarding", etc etc  ...as they bemoaned the fact that they didn't have enough time or energy to devote to the other things that they USED to like to do...
We lived with a whole lot less, but we actually lived BETTER in the long run.
Yep, maybe I was "old-fashioned". Still am. And that doesn't bother me a bit. 
...and when I did earn money, it was treated as a delightful bonus -- I/we refused to make it a "necessity". But that style definitely isn't made for everybody.
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| Aug 30, 2007 @ 5:48 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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It's not about being thoroughly modern Millie, it's about what works for you! 
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| Aug 30, 2007 @ 6:48 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Yep, maybe I was "old-fashioned". Still am. And that doesn't bother me a bit.
...and when I did earn money, it was treated as a delightful bonus -- I/we refused to make it a "necessity". But that style definitely isn't made for everybody.
Well said Sunbabe! My job is a bonus for us. Pretty sure I could never make enough in this state to survive.
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| Aug 30, 2007 @ 6:48 PM |
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CHARLIgurl1
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You dont have to be supported entirely by your partner to stay at home.. I am financially independant.... I just want to be the one who looks after the home.. and is there for my man when he comes through the door with a good dinner waiting.. not putting something in the microwave because Ive been at work all day myself and dont have time!
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| Aug 30, 2007 @ 7:16 PM |
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Jankia
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This got me thinking about my stay at home mother.Washing dirty farm clothes everyday and cooking two FULL meals everyday for eight people including herself.
At breaktime she got to break up all the constant fighting between 6 boys,cleanup after six boys and still found time for volunteering at the church,the PTA and the Homemakers club.
Full time work plus overtime and was never paid a dime for doing it.
That didnt matter,she was happy.
That...is old fashioned.
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| Aug 30, 2007 @ 7:20 PM |
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Loreli
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I think being a stay at home, while very rewarding, is far tougher than working a full time job.
Routines can work at work,but are harder to enforce in the home.
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| Aug 30, 2007 @ 7:21 PM |
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Jankia
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Yep,theres no closing time at home.
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| Aug 30, 2007 @ 7:34 PM |
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spongebob777
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Hell I'm just wishing that Empath would become incredibly rich so I can be a house husband. 
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