| Sep 2, 2007 @ 5:05 PM |
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Bamadreamer
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I have noticed a number of times when talking with a guy if asked what they are looking for the response is sometimes "friends with benefits" It seems to me that I call the same thing "dating" but for some reason their terminology rubs me the wrong way...it just screams SEX....we go to dinner and have sex..movie=sex...putt putt=sex....
Am I wrong or just being overly sensitive? It just sounds like they are assuming sex is a given when a guy takes you out (not all guys)
Pondering in thoughts,
Pamela
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| Sep 2, 2007 @ 5:10 PM |
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NatGoat
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Sometimes, the 'Gut-feeling' IS the right thing to listen to . .
But , not always . . !! . . 
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| Sep 2, 2007 @ 5:41 PM |
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robodad
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Friends with benefits does mean sex......the benefit is sex without any strings attached.
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| Sep 2, 2007 @ 6:01 PM |
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katydid438
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that's right Bama...no strings attached......guys can be HOs too ,,just have to decide if that is what you want 
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| Sep 2, 2007 @ 6:15 PM |
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petethepainter
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if the person (not just guys!) makes it clear they are looking for a f**k-buddy then it's not a problem... as for me I'm happy just making friends!
Hi All 
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| Sep 2, 2007 @ 6:49 PM |
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sensuouswoman
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Where are these 'friends'? 
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| Sep 2, 2007 @ 7:03 PM |
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Empath
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FWB and Dating are two separate animals. One is a friendship for sexual gratification with no commitment given or wanted, the other is going out with the intention of getting to know one another with the possibility of sex or commitment or both.
Robo, you're so succinct. 
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| Sep 2, 2007 @ 10:45 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Where are these 'friends'
In Reno.
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| Sep 2, 2007 @ 10:46 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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I've got a friend in the UK, and he's got one. Maybe you can get them on Ebay 
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| Sep 2, 2007 @ 10:50 PM |
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robodad
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or at Walmart
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| Sep 2, 2007 @ 11:17 PM |
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IDJIT
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eBay, WalMart....keep goin.....takin notes here......gettin ready to go shopping.
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| Sep 3, 2007 @ 1:52 AM |
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grumblebear
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some folks live for a life with out prices... but there is always a price... if you think the benefits have no cost, what about your own sense of value for those things? Do we still value things when there is no cost? no by playing around and acting as if it has no value, we lose our own sense of self, and value of ourselves as individuals....
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| Sep 3, 2007 @ 1:56 AM |
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kattsmeow
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Grumble,,, 
You said it all.
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| Sep 3, 2007 @ 2:27 AM |
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IDJIT
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grumblebear - very well put.
personally, i'm looking for a meaningful overnight relationship.
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| Sep 3, 2007 @ 9:18 AM |
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Bamadreamer
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OK, I am clear now...I have had guys ask me "whats the difference?" The difference is FWB has no potential for a meaningful relationship and sex is expected...dating has the potential for a meaningful relationship which may lead to sex. Got it!
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| Sep 3, 2007 @ 10:45 AM |
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sensuouswoman
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Ahem.........can someone send me this list! I don't have no sense of value right now........just some wicked thoughts  
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| Sep 3, 2007 @ 11:37 AM |
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Haban3ro
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FWB has no potential for a meaningful relationship and sex is expected...dating has the potential for a meaningful relationship which may lead to sex. What often happens is that people will test out a dating relationship, looking for a permanent connection. Maybe there are many things that work (including the sex), but there are factors that keep things from growing into a lifetime thing. For example, when I was single, I dated a woman who got very turned on watching slasher movies -- the very thing that took the starch out of my pencil.
FWB tends to be a way to salvage a relationship that's "close, but no cigar." It also may create issues when you find "the One", and the FWB is still out there. Better to play it clean and honest, and just walk away completely when it's over.
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| Sep 3, 2007 @ 3:11 PM |
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lobo65
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I couldn't do it.
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| Sep 3, 2007 @ 3:52 PM |
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katydid438
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 LOBO 
and Hab of course!
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| Sep 4, 2007 @ 7:34 PM |
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Palomino
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Good post, Haban!
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