| Sep 21, 2007 @ 1:36 PM |
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GibsonGirl93
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Definitely. Also, the way they percieve or interact with him in the beginning stages will most likely stick with them for the duration...
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 1:37 PM |
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Loreli
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See! You may not need sitters! 
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 1:42 PM |
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Angel178
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You may not need sitters!
Me? Oh, no no, I was just throwing out a forinstance.... 
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 1:46 PM |
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1stsignofspring
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But, it could be months before you get to meet. What if there is a large distance involved and both people have complicated lives?
There is also truth in this statement as well.....and this is a very real possiblility....it happens...and can be worked through....but it involves 2 parties, not just one......
I think if it is a long distance relationship there should be plenty of communication for it to work....talking on the phone, or emails on a regular basis.....noone should have to guess or be left in the dark wondering about where the relationship stands or if there is even a relationship at all...........there is no reality involved without effective and consistant communication....
Then you begin to wonder if it was really real at all.........
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 1:49 PM |
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Loreli
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a forinstance. Ok- it was meant loosely. 
2 People may not need sitters.
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 1:57 PM |
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Angel178
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involves 2 parties, not just one.... I agree, both people involved should state how they feel and what is going on
....talking on the phone, or emails Some people might feel that daily phone calls are too much. I think that when you call daily, you get a better sense of the other person and what surrounds them in their life.
For example, if you only talked to me at night when the house is quiet, you might not get the whole picture of what I do daily. If we spoke at various times during the day, maybe it is quiet, maybe kids are fighting, maybe all you would hear is mom....mom...mom.... 
Lots of communication is good....nobody should be left wondering what the other person is thinking
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 1:58 PM |
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Angel178
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 2:00 PM |
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Loreli
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Yes-a highly potential SO should know what goes on in a love interests life.
Or they aren't too interested in reality. 
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 2:01 PM |
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Angel178
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Yes, and reality is the best if it can be accomplished 
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 2:10 PM |
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1stsignofspring
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Yes Angel....lots of communication is needed.....but I didn't say daily neccessarily....just wanted to clarify that. ...."a regular basis" could be a few times a week....but whatever it is it should be consistant.......not a hit and miss situation.. 
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 2:14 PM |
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Angel178
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1st...oops, i said daily....let that slip 
So 5-10 times a day is too much?
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 2:15 PM |
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pamdemonium
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Remember that online may not be face to face, but it's still real. You could end up with hurt feelings or could end up hurting someone else's feelings. Be careful of each.
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 2:19 PM |
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Angel178
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 Nicely put
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 2:20 PM |
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1stsignofspring
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believe actions speaks much louder than words......and there comes a time when peoples feelings are involved that you have to come off of the internet world and into reality.......otherwise it is merely a fantasy world and someone is bound to get hurt sooner or later..
I did mention that in my earlier post Pam...
That's my point....people can get hurt....
Angel........NO of course not!! NOT too many times a day at all!!! 
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 2:22 PM |
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Angel178
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 Did you at me?
You know how I feel about that particular emoticon 
I would never be that clingy or needy 5 times a day would be just fine
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 2:25 PM |
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Loreli
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What I find effective is to concentrate on one, primarily, even while participating in threads, etc. If a person has 4 or 5 callers/etc. going at once, it would be awful hard to "give" it your all.( Doesn't mean friends should be ignored!)
And if a person doesn't do that, sooner or later, IMHO only-it will bite them in the butt.
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 2:27 PM |
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pamdemonium
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Sign, you're absolutely right. I didn't read the entire thread.
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 2:28 PM |
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1stsignofspring
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No Angel...I was lying when I said 5 to 10 times a day wouldn't be too
much! Of course it would........why do it 5 to 10 times a day when you can do it every hour on the hour!!! See...??? Understand this motie...it's just a crazy look...that's all!!!
Now what are we talking about here...."doing it".......? I think I lost my train of thought.....
Pam..........get up off of your knees please!!
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 2:30 PM |
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pamdemonium
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 I'm actually bending from the waist.
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| Sep 21, 2007 @ 2:31 PM |
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Loreli
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We need a "shaking his head" motie, for those of us not QUITE crazy yet... 
[Edited on 9/21/2007 2:32 PM]
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