| Dec 14, 2005 @ 1:52 PM |
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star131303
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I have been reading and posting here for a few weeks now. Really only in this section: dating and romance. I really like it. I even like alot of the people here.
Honestly though, I keep seeing the same thing happen here, and I am just about done taking any part in it.
It seems that there is a "click" here that is not accepting of new people. And that is the nicest way I can word what I think is not being accepted here.
Maybe there should be some separate age sections, or maybe people that are serious about things verses mean and degrading and unaccepting of people not in their category.
I am not trying to put anyone down, but this place really seems to treat certain types of people that are not trying to be mean to anyone like they shouldn't be here.
I hope that rather than taking offense to what I am saying, that some realize it and stop it. This place is here so that we can ALL enjoy it and hopefully feel comfortable here. Dating is hard. It seems that some are making it ALOT harder. And It just isn't right.
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 3:06 PM |
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danae74
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Hi Star 
This forum is exactly like the real world...just ignore what you don't like, move on to what you do like. If someone offends or acts like an ass, just move on to the next topic. (I hope others will do the same for me in my assier moments, lol!)
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 3:13 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Danae, I've never seen you have an "assier" moment, Luv. 
You always give great advice, btw. 
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 3:19 PM |
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sirdidymus
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I think the cyber stuff is too silly to take into account things like "cliques". Personally, i post when only when i feel the urge - if someone gets something out of my post (a laugh, some useful info, a fresh perspective, etc) - GREAT. If someone wants to reply - GREAT - if not, i really don't care.
as far as people posting mean and degrading stuff, i couldn't agree more - it's pointless - imho. forums are about discussing and sharing one views - not a venue to personally attack someone.
as a matter or fact, awhile back i started a thread about "if someone doesn't have something nice to say - why say it at all" ...what...happened...to....that....thread....OH YEAH - someone came along and "ripped me a new one" and then the thread got locked down and deleted - oops!
LMAO
[Edited on 12/14/2005 3:22 PM]
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 3:19 PM |
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Pete73052
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So, Danae, is the correct conjegation of the verb ass: Ass, Assier, Assiest? Just wondering... 
Star, here's my view - people show up here, they are new, and sometimes they lurk for a while, sometimes the come out posting - whatever. Thing is, it takes a while to get comfortable posting - it's like arriving at a party - you don't just come in the door and jump on the table dancing (well, I do, but most people don't). So, depending on who shows up and what they have to say, they may get a warm welcome, or a chilly reception. Like Danae said - it's just like the real world. But I also see your point and promise to watch myself if I'm one of the "click" or clique you're referring to. 
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 3:30 PM |
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danae74
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So, Danae, is the correct conjegation of the verb ass: Ass, Assier, Assiest?
Close, Pete, but you only get a silver star. "Assy, Assier, Assiest" when used as an adjective. From Danae's Dictionary, no less.
Mo...you just wait. I save all the real assiness for after you get to know me. (Note correct usage of "assy" as a noun.)
Star...just hang in there! If you follow the threads that make you laugh instead of the ones that make you mad, you'll automatically find the right folks for you...
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 3:33 PM |
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Pete73052
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Yes, of course, adjective... I'm such an ass...
Star...just hang in there! If you follow the threads that make you laugh instead of the ones that make you mad, you'll automatically find the right folks for you...
Great advice.
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 3:52 PM |
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Technologic
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...unaccepting of people not in their category.
Star131303, I have failed to comprehend your underlying complaint. Please repost it in Kincaid 3, unabridged, so most people can understand it. Also, you'll feel better!
The line I quoted above about people and categories is very strange to me. What led you to believe internet people are categorized? Help me understand your thought process.
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 3:52 PM |
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star131303
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I am seriously not trying to be rude about this,and generally I personally do not take offense usually. If I do, I am too open about it, and everyone ends up knowing.
I post because I want to. I just think that there are alot of people I see here that post and either are completely ignored no matter what they say, or really picked on because they are not what others would think, the type that should or would have the similar problems as them.
It really just gets on my nerves that this is not a comfortable place for everyone. I think that there are people here that find it hard to express their voice and then when they get picked on or ignored about what they do say, they get more discouraged.
That is all...
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 4:11 PM |
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Technologic
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I post because I want to. I just think that there are alot of people I see here that post and either are completely ignored no matter what they say, or really picked on because they are not what others would think, the type that should or would have the similar problems as them.
O.K., if it doesn't directly effect you then don't let it. Why are you upset about the way someone else was treated? Is this person a friend and your trying to defend them? Was it really you that was "ignored" or "picked on"?
It really just gets on my nerves that this is not a comfortable place for everyone. I think that there are people here that find it hard to express their voice and then when they get picked on or ignored about what they do say, they get more discouraged.
Wait a second... no place can accomodate everyone! That's why there are different forum topics. Some people may have a hard time voicing their feelings, like you, and may need caressing. That's fine but if you're trying to reach out to the wrong crowd you can only blame yourself. Just keep looking for the right place. We're all human here regardless of the forums topic!
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 4:11 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Star, here's my view - people show up here, they are new, and sometimes they lurk for a while, sometimes the come out posting - whatever. Thing is, it takes a while to get comfortable posting - it's like arriving at a party - you don't just come in the door and jump on the table dancing (well, I do, but most people don't). So, depending on who shows up and what they have to say, they may get a warm welcome, or a chilly reception. Like Danae said - it's just like the real world. But I also see your point and promise to watch myself if I'm one of the "click" or clique you're referring to.
Pete....you took the words right out of my mouth!! TY!!!
Star....the bold face above is from me too!
Sometimes, without actually hearing something, one can possibly misunderstand a comment that is being made. I try to use the emoticons to show that I'm joking or teasing.
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 4:20 PM |
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wandaful123
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Hi Star, and welcome if I havn't already done so... I tend to be one of the lukers/posters... depends on my mood, but I love it here, just kick in whenever you feel the urge. I found most on here are pretty friendly, and when not, at least entertaining. When threads get out of whack as they sometimes do I just back out and pick some new ones. It takes all kinds to make the world go 'round, even the virtual one...
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 4:31 PM |
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star131303
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TECH, I tried being nice to you and I even wrote you personally to explain further to you in a nice way.
I just do not like seeing people act like jerks to anyone. It is just mean. I am not the type that has often been in the position to be the one being picked on in a very mean way.
I have many times been in the position to defend these people. I just do not care much about people that are negative. It does not affect me much when people say mean things to me. I know myself and I am happy with me whether anyone else is or not.
I am not personally defending anyone that I know or care about. I am just making comments based on my own observation.
I have always hated bullies and have never treated anyone bad for any reason other than them themselves provoking it. whether they know that they do that or not.
I just do not like to see people treated this way, and if caring about people, even the ones I do not know, tends to bother you so much, then don't read things that I post.
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 4:37 PM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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well there are clicks and clits
turds and sh*ts and that's what makes the world go round 
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 4:38 PM |
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Technologic
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STAR Yeah, I sent you a reply.
I couldn't read your last post because it is redundant.
Speaking for myself, others can do the same, I think your all right but a bit emotional. Get your perception in check because what's fun and games to others may be offensive to you and it shouldn't be. You're reactions could be the cause of your problem.
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 4:42 PM |
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kaden69
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pick me! pick me! I wanna belong! 
maybe there should be MD Clubs 
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 4:47 PM |
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spongebob777
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You've just gotta develop a hide like a rhino. In the few years since I lost my internet virginity I've gone from getting upset about every little insult or slight to not really caring what others think.
I'm a master at ignoring the idiots.
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 4:53 PM |
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waiting41
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Ditto to everything Tech said to save me the trouble of having to rewrite it in different words in an attempt to sound intelligent. That's life Star.........here or in the real world. For some of us this is just fun and entertaining and people are responsible for thier own feelings just as you are responsible for yours. I don't know about these cliques you are referring to, but, I have some people I think fondly of here......none that I don't like, cause I don't let people get to me........it's all in fun.........come join in and have some fun girl and relax!! Life is too short to be worried about cyber feelings!! 
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 4:58 PM |
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Pete73052
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I'm a master at ignoring the idiots.
I'm sorry - was somebody saying something?
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 4:58 PM |
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wandaful123
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Hey Sponge, Love the new pic... showing off your handy-man skills I see...
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