| Sep 15, 2007 @ 4:32 AM |
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SeaWhitegotlost
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What should I do with winks?
I mean, I know it's my decision how to respond but it's a bit unclear to me and I'd appreciate a bit of advice from more experienced MD-ers.
When I get a genuine-sounding letter, I reply to it, even if it's to say "No thanks", but what should I do with winks ...? 
It seems to me if I wink back, the sender will see it as a green light and will feel cheated if they then write to me and I still end up saying "No thanks".
On the other hand, if I don't wink back, I'll look unfriendly, which I don't want - even if it's to someone that I don't see as a potential match.
Any advice?
Sorry if this is a daft question but I'm pretty new to the forums and only returned to MD itself about a month ago when this part of the world got "unblocked".(cf "Turkey and and Matchdoctor")
Thank you,
SeaWhitegotlost
[Edited on 9/15/2007 4:41 AM]
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 4:34 AM |
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twotall911
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most i ignore or if i have some interest i look up their profile but beware of the wanna be's
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 4:39 AM |
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painter007
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I always try to thank them........and always try to answer my mail........I figure if they take the time to wink or write..I should at least say thank you....
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 4:43 AM |
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twotall911
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 4:49 AM |
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Blondino
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Nice picture two total 
Seawhite I spent my summer in Turkey .. where do you live ? I was on the Aegean Coast 
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 5:52 AM |
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SeaWhitegotlost
Posts: 165
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Thanks a lot for the replies. They're very helpful - keep 'em coming...!
I think I agree with Painter that it's nice to reply to all messages (as long as they're genuine-sounding).
I'm still not sure how to respond to winks, though - because it's just clicking an icon, isn't it? The senders may have sent dozens in just 5 minutes! Anyway, perhaps it's better to give them the benefit of the doubt and wink back so as not to be unfriendly. Do you think that's best or would you ignore most of them as Twotall suggests?
SeaWhitegotlost
PS Hi Blondino I love the Aegean! I'm currently working in Istanbul - planning to get back to Sydney soon, though ....
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 6:10 AM |
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MarysPlace
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It seems to me if I wink back,
Ummm... Honey I hate to state the obvious but you're wearing shades so he ain't gonna see that wink anyway.
OK. Carry on.
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 6:16 AM |
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painter007
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X-ray glasses.....sheesh.....cant you see that?
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 9:12 AM |
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Luisa909
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What should I do with winks?
When winks come from dear and known persons I always thank, because it's a kind thought from them. 
In case winks come from unknown persons I read the profile first and I often delete them 
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 9:35 AM |
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Angel178
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If i know them, then i thank them....
If i don't know them....i don't
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 10:13 AM |
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Loreli
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I wink back at most.
I write to some and say thanks.
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 10:50 AM |
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jaybird777
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wink back Aboslutely! If yer so inclined that is. If you want em to buzz off, then just ignore it.
If yer craving a lil more a the same attention then drop them an email.
Yer response, if any, should be measured by yer interesting in the other person.
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 11:14 AM |
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burnslikethesun
Posts: 9,609
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depends on what you are winking at them with?
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 11:15 AM |
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lynnielou
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I usually do not reply to winks or emails for that fact, unless it's someone that I know from being in the threads. It's nothing personal.
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 11:18 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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then get to know me
so we can make it personal
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 12:49 PM |
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blueyes101
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When I first joined this site, I started to write to those women I thought were attractive, hoping they might like to get to know me. Many never responded, so I found the winks, were nothing more than letting someone know I was interested..... If they responded, we either started a conversation, or not. But I found I wasn't investing a bunch of time trying to get someones attention when they were not interested.
I also used winks when contacting someone who was not looking for a long distance relationship.....If they are looking for someone within 10 miles of their house, and we live 14 states away, it just says, Hi.
To me a wink is nothing more than an " ice breaker". So I always thank the senders, and if I'm interested in them, I have more to say. Sometimes I'm flattered by the sender, sometimes I'm not.
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 1:51 PM |
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Solitaire
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My profile states, in the first line, to paraphrase, I don't like winks. They annoy me. I won't answer them.
So, if someone sends me a wink it indicates that either they didn't read my profile, they have no expectation of a response, or they are out to just annoy me...like one certain, unnamed, Canadian does on a regular basis, just because he knows he can.
...where's that bitchslap emotie when I need it?
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 1:52 PM |
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1stsignofspring
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I never wink......but always try to send a thank you for the wink.....just good manners maybe?
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 1:59 PM |
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blueyes101
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| Sep 15, 2007 @ 2:53 PM |
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candylily
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I wink back if I'm interested and I don't if I'm not. If I respond in any way when I'm not interested, then there's a follow-up email that I will either have to respond to or ignore at a later time when he's had to put more effort into it by writing. To me it's less rude to do nothing.
When I send a wink, it's a spur-of-the-moment action without a lot of thought behind it other than I think the guy is cute. No biggie. If he responds with a flirtatious email in return, then it makes me feel good and we can take it from there if we want to. If he doesn't respond at all, I probably won't remember I even sent the wink. If he responds by saying thanks but I'm not interested, it makes me feel bad and makes me wish I hadn't stuck my neck out in the first place by letting him know I thought he was attractive. It's not a proposal of marriage or a solicitation for sex. Take it as a compliment and respond if you're interested in getting to know him a little more.
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