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Loreli
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Touch is real
Looking into each other's eyes is real
Smelling the sweet scent, or sweat, is real
Hearing that special person whisper close in our ear, is real
Tasting that person, is real.
Our minds are real. Sensory perception is part of us, but there is no way anything compares to being beside the person we love.
The rest is fantasy, imagination, much like reading a sensual story. It is just a story, until the story becomes reality.
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 12:24 PM |
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kattsmeow
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 12:37 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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you can starve over the illusions,or get your fill, with whats right there in the real.
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 12:44 PM |
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candylily
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Burns is right. If I'm hungry, I want to eat the Big Mac, not look at a pic of one. If I know for sure I'm going to get a Big Mac soon, I can pass up a chili dog so that I won't get too fat from overeating, but if there's no plan for a Big Mac that day, I'm eating the chili dog. I'm not going to starve unless I'm dieting.
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 12:58 PM |
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Luisa909
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GG & Blu
Pete & Angel
Jankia & Brenda
all my best wishes.....that online romance could become a real attraction and real future !!!
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 1:02 PM |
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carpediem48
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Pete...do you have a brother????
oops...referring to Pete's post on page 10 re "your mind is what's driving your senses...not the other way around
[Edited on 10/1/2007 1:05 PM]
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 1:02 PM |
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GibsonGirl93
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Thank you!!!! 
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 1:05 PM |
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Luisa909
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GG
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 1:19 PM |
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Loreli
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I am confused about one thing...
What's that saying, what you don't know can't hurt you...but
there are people here that interact with others via phone, and online, and a few weeks later are all but engaged to someone else. Kinda takes away from the belief in some people.
[Edited on 10/1/2007 1:31 PM]
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 1:22 PM |
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GibsonGirl93
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It's really sad that people can't be trusted this day and time......that's why we ALL have to be careful....
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 1:37 PM |
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blueyes101
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The reason we are all here is find someone to sit beside us. Not just anyone, but someone very special, If finding that person was easy, we would just knock on the door of our neighbor.
This thing of online dating can bring many different people in the list of choices.( good and bad ) So, take the time to sort through them.
What we have found here on MD is .......we have found many who we are better matches with, but it is the distance thing. But it gives us hope to know that there are special people out there, even though you don't always see them in your everyday life. So as to not give up hope, for when we are alone, in the real world, hope ( for that special someone ) is all we have....
I don't date to date......I don't want one good enough for now.......I don't want to waste my time or theirs, let alone the emotion involved.
Most of us are on here, because there isn't anybody in our lives in the real world, so yes, I can't see making a big deal about an online relationship if you are dating someone down the street, but for those of us who just can't find what we are looking for in our own neighborhood, I will take the friendships I have found on here, and hope that they someday turn into something more.....Some people are transfered across the country for a job, give up everything they currently have, for the hope of something better.... I really see this as nothing different.
I mean, if you can't find a job at the corner store, look a little farther, until you find one. If it means moving to a different town, what have you lost? And what have you found?
I don't see anyone on here who is giving up dating real people to spend the night looking for one online..
But I do see people who come online ( to look ) because the person they are dating in the real world are out without them.
You can find the same sh!t anywhere you look, the secret is to find a like minded friend, and hope it becomes something more...
If you can make it through the online maze, my guess is you have a pretty good shot at the rest that life throws at you.
Sometimes the harder you work at something, the more rewarding it is. 
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 1:47 PM |
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GibsonGirl93
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^^ you're so sexy when you get all worked up......haha.... 
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 1:54 PM |
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candylily
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I agree with everything you say, Blue and that's why I still do this, but because I've been very successful at the online dating game (meaning I've met lots of guys in person from all over the country) I've learned a lot. I've learned that the more time and emotions you invest in an online romance before meeting in person, the more disappointed you will be if one or both of you have idealized the other too much. The most important lesson I've learned is to meet as soon as possible once you've both decided you're very interested in the other. If either person starts making excuses, cut your losses and move on. You don't have to stop talking completely, but you have to seriously consider the other person isn't as sincere as they've led you to believe.
[Edited on 10/1/2007 2:01 PM]
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 1:55 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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I can pass up a chili dog so that I won't get too fat from overeating  true 
Lori, sucks when that haps.
Sometimes the harder you work at something, the more rewarding it is. If it fits, then it shouldnt be hard work. Gods plan is simple. Its the everything in between that easy to mess up. Planting a gardens not hard work, if you love it.
Being a brother, wasn't all that hard of work, or a son. Why should the making or maintaining of a relationship? One thats equal and in balance.
Online is a great tool, to met, yet you cant greet. Its a wonderful way to pass moments of mental touches, via email or ims. blogs and forums. Yet the engery that make the whole relationship, bound and grow, the point of being together is growing together, can only be done in present person.
Not such a hypricrit, im here to be here for purposes not like everyone else, yet most else. In being here over the many many years, I have seen I think all ends and view of this online. Minus the wonderful insights the mods get to see. lol
Oh to be, just for a day or three. The few successful ones that have been matched up dont stick arround., some visit for just old shakes sakes. yet are gone again. I have yet to see one maintain and grow beyound anything else the crosses paths for a limited time. Living in love online does not equal living in love. Theres a non comman varible in there. Hey you do use math for everything. Profess Fike was right!!
The online picture of Big Mac. Oh ya see it, ya can almost smell it, damn ya know ya can taste it, that secret sauce and pickles, them dices white onions, makes my mouth wet. Ya can feel each chew of your last big Juicy Mac. Ya know its good.
Now lick the screen. Taste good?
Cheerio though, and carry on. As will I.
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 2:02 PM |
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blueyes101
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The most important lesson I've learned is to meet as soon as possible once you've both decided you're very interested in the other Yep, it makes sense to me.......
Edited to add Candy's quote and to say, they still show a big mac on a television screen, not because you can taste it, but because they know you want to, and they know if they put the idea into your head, you will/might just follow through and get one.
[Edited on 10/1/2007 2:09 PM]
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 2:03 PM |
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GibsonGirl93
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Just so everyone knows....I'll be in Michigan to see Blue THIS MONTH. 
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 2:04 PM |
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Luisa909
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 2:10 PM |
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painter007
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I agree totally with candylily if your not willing to move you should never start a online romance. I think people pick someone far away because its safe. They can flirt and can say all the right things but when it comes down to the "gettin real" stuff they run...
I am willing to look anywhere for a sweetie.....sometimes the meetings dont always turn out like you hope...but that shpi;dnt stop anyone. At the very least hopefullly you have made a friend
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 2:14 PM |
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candylily
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I moved to Bloomington May 2002 and moved back to Connersville July 2007.
I meant to comment on Painter's comment about people picking people who live far enough away they think it's safe for them to flirt without having to do anything about it. Posted before I was ready.
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| Oct 1, 2007 @ 2:15 PM |
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GibsonGirl93
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I've been googling Michigan like crazy!!! haha....
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