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signme
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I vote for the here and now. Even if you do finally meet the online "love" in person, it may not work out. And then you could have missed the love of your life who was right under your nose.
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 8:24 PM |
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blueyes101
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I have struggled with this since my beginning here on MD. I have learned many things being on here with all of you. I may have stressed a few friendships because of the " here and now of a real person ", as apposed to someone on here. Even though the online friend would never know, I would, and it bothered me....In fact I found the same thing just flirting with a few women at the same time on here. At some point in time, you must make a choice... Hopefully you have enough information to make the right one.
I choose to try to be as honest with myself as possible, which I have to say was very difficult, and like I said, I have learned a lot. I pretty much gave up on using this site as a dating tool. And joined another, had few meetings, no actual date.
And just as I made up my mind, I was greatly surprised, it just happened, I can't explain any better than that. Now, as for the first meeting, ours is planned, but there are a few factors to consider, but I feel strong enough about the possibility, that someone very special is worth special consideration.
It would be a foolish for me to walk away before we met. This thing we call " life ' is a very strange journey, I see it as an adventure, and whatever happens happens.
If you meet someone in your everyday life, is it any different if you meet another shortly afterwards....? You must make a choice, stick with one, or go for all of them, and risk winding up alone anyways..
My choice is to take the risk, and if it doesn't work between the two of us, what am I out? The thrill of the chase? Developing feelings I haven't felt in a while....?
It is better to have ( loved ) and lost, than to never have ( loved ) at all.......
Makes sense to me... 
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 8:26 PM |
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drs297
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okay, we all know she wrote that for you to post.. 
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 8:31 PM |
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southerngentleman700
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Very well said........Sign.........
I would have to go with the real person also.......Not that things cant work out from online relationships..i really think they can....as for me iam not into the bar or club thing.......so for me this works very well,but i have to look at things from this point of view .......Will we really meet on day???? or will the distance play a major role in the relationship falling apart,only the two in that relationship have the answer,but to me if there is a real chance of it working,then why not go for it....
Not to sure if i made much sense of what i just said........
but i guess in a nut shell life is so short,so go for what feels right for you.........
[Edited on 9/29/2007 8:37 PM]
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 8:39 PM |
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lynnielou
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It is better to have ( loved ) and lost, than to never have ( loved ) at all.......
I totally agree!!!!
Good luck!
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 8:59 PM |
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katydid438
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Online romance and attraction are a real thing otherwise there wouldn't be so many sites devoted to it. Meeting and spending time with someone isn't a guarantee. It really takes time to know whether the match is right,,not just snatches of time. (ok, no smart comments about the snatch word!) 
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 9:35 PM |
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lobo65
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I would hesitate to develop feelings for someone who lived far away, and with there being no chance of a meeting. Of course my local possibilities are non-existent right now any way though, but that would be my first choice since I can't re-locate.
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 9:48 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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I think that online romance CAN (emphasis on can, not will in every case) build a potential partner's expectations up too high. We all have an internal vision of the people we talk with, and often times, meeting the person deflates that vision. They aren't the smart, georgous, witty person you have built them up to be. So you come away disappointed in the actual person. It's not their fault, it's your expectation of how they would be that's excessive.
At least in the real world, you see and talk with the live person, warts and all. If they aren't attractive to you, or they are dumb as a rock, you know it right away, there is no let down.
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 10:12 PM |
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BandTMom
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Although I do have a "fondness" for someone online, I don't know if that would keep me from meeting someone in real life.
But since I'm not really interested in playing the dating game right now, I think I'll just stick with my online dream....for people we meet online are just that, until it becomes face-to-face..
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 10:14 PM |
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blueyes101
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Good point Touch, but you can't always be afraid of the " wrong expectation " You should consider it, and find out for sure... if possible. Thats the only way you know for sure.
I think we sometimes hurt ourselves, because we are looking, but deep down are afraid to find it.
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 10:14 PM |
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Loreli
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Touch
I think that online romance CAN (emphasis on can, not will in every case) build a potential partner's expectations up too high.
Sign
you could have missed the love of your life who was right under your nose.
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 10:19 PM |
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katydid438
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Or as cynical Katy says " you might just have missed being hit by a bus"
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 10:22 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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That's why I favor meeting as soon as possible, so that no false expectations exist.
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 10:27 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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I think we sometimes hurt ourselves, because we are looking, but deep down are afraid to find it. I think that is why so many people prefer keeping a relationship on an on-line/e-mail/telephone basis.....it is safe. Plus, it can be choreographed the way one wants it. There's no "risk" in an on-line relationship. How many times have we read where someone has been in one for 6-12 months only to find after the first meeting or two that things didn't turn out the way one expected?
I don't think it's a matter of holding out for something better, but a matter of taking Life's opportunities as they come. Again, it just doesn't compute with me to limit myself or another person to something that may never be.
Aren't we adults? Have we not grown out of some of the insecurities of our youth? Until it is established that a relationship is exclusive, why not be mature about seeing other people?!?!?!
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 10:29 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Until it is established that a relationship is exclusive, why not be mature about seeing other people?!?!?!
Excellent! That means you can see me now.
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 10:36 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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That's why I favor meeting as soon as possible, so that no false expectations exist. I'm with you on this, Touch!! And even then, I believe a relationship has to grow - which takes time. The amount of time may differ with each couple, but I hate to see "whirlwind romances"......for the most part, they don't end up working out.
Excellent! That means you can see me now.  , what's halfway between Nevada and Indiana?!?! 
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 10:41 PM |
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BandTMom
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Oklahoma??
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 10:43 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Where??????????????
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 10:44 PM |
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blueyes101
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Party at Moms house ?? 
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| Sep 29, 2007 @ 10:57 PM |
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