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Angel178
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Luisa 
I agree that meeting the person is important...everyone needs the physical....
But Sadian said it beautifully 
I think that with an online relationship you really get to know someone on a much deeper level...Going out to dinner or a date you make cutsie small talk....with online dating you have phone calls that include much more reality...
The person on the other end hears my kids and the conversations (or arguments  ) that I have with them.....know about more of my life than if I was going out to dinner or a movie, one on one....
That to me means a lot....if you like me, you need to like my reality, not just what i'm like when the kids are not around....it's a whole package. And sometimes it's not pretty!!
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 12:13 PM |
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 12:16 PM |
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Angel178
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How are you?
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 12:16 PM |
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Pete73052
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And sometimes it's not pretty!!
Who said that? 
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 12:17 PM |
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Angel178
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Baby, my reality is not always pretty and you know it!!
How many times have you told me not to yell in your ear
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 12:32 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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Well, ok there are a few exceptions.
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 12:35 PM |
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Luisa909
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How are you? well Angel and you ?
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 12:39 PM |
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Angel178
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I really like the way you think Luisa....you have a nice grip on reality
My day is going great....taking the kids back to the beach this afternoon and the same restaurant on the water from yesterday....we had such a great day together that they asked me to do it agian.....made me feel good...we don't get a lot of "family time" 
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 12:48 PM |
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Luisa909
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Oh I never know if my thoughts are clear enough or if they are well expressed 
thank you Angel you are very kind !!!!
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 12:56 PM |
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Loreli
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.with online dating you have phone calls that include much more reality... What?
Online is reality? Meeting someone in public, then dating, then meeting the family is reality. That should happen very quickly. You can still get phone calls while on a REAL date! Someone could shoo their kids out the door when they are acting up, too. I'm sorry-my opinion is, on the phone is really not always reality.
There is so much that CAN go on behind the scenes when 2 people aren't around each other!. Anyone can make up what they want here. Being face to face may quell much of what SEEMED to be.
Luisa has a great grip on reality because she is already married and just making friends. There IS a difference.
We're very honest online but shy in person? Something isn't right then.
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 12:58 PM |
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blueyes101
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Good for you Angel... 
I still think these forums or even blogs give us a different view of people, Some are full of sh!t, most enjoy voicing their opinions. since we talk about so many different things, we see an insight into each of us, that ( like Angel said ) going out to dinner or whatever will give you.
I know many things about many of you, I just remember things you wrote on your posts. Even if we all met for say a weekend, you could never learn a fraction of that, no mater how much time you spent with somebody. The variety of subjects, and their moods when they post..All of it is very telling..... Not the same as meeting in person, but just because it is different doesn't make it less important.
I can tell their sense of humor online as well, which can be hard to get out of someone at a first meeting...But oh, how important it is to me...
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:04 PM |
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Loreli
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Yup-you're right Blu! Well, some.
Then there are people that are calling more than one person at a time. Their sense of humor is great! But until permanence sets in, you are really with that person besides the phone......we can't know that.
Maybe someone's sense of humor is far better in person, because online is just a game.
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:25 PM |
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Angel178
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I am the same online as I am in person.
My life is very very busy....not always a lot of time or money for babysitters....
I prefer to have the online thing...I get to use "my" time getting to know someone, then I will spend the little time my life allots in meeting them....if i feel that there is a future....
It is easy for someone who has the time to "outside" date or the money to lecture on dating....but it has to work for the individual....this works for me and my children and that is all i care about at the moment.
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:25 PM |
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candylily
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Online relationships are only fantasy until you meet in person and there should never be any expectation of exclusivity from either person until you have actually met and spent time together. I have fallen very hard for people online and the attraction held up in person, but there have been other times that it wasn't what I thought it would be even though neither of us were dishonest about anything. Until there is a real life meeting, online relationships should only be thought of as very good friendships with the possibility that it could lead to much more when you meet. I would never expect someone not to continue dating and no one should expect that of me until we meet. If you honestly feel that you're in love, then meet as soon as possible to find out if it's only fantasy or the real thing. It's ridiculous to spend hours fantasizing about someone. Get off the computer and phone and do something about it. I've spent hours and hours on the phone and online with people so I know you can form very strong bonds. I also know strong bonds can't replace real life chemistry.
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:26 PM |
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Pete73052
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Doesn't it boil down to TRUST? If you assume someone (or everyone) is doing stuff behind your back, you can't possibly take this seriously. If you have trust in each other, then it's VERY real. If you don't have trust in each other, then it doesn't matter if you share the same house. If you trust each other - you could be a continent apart and it wouldn't matter.
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:32 PM |
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candylily
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It has nothing to do with trust. It has to do with separating reality from fantasy.
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:33 PM |
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Pete73052
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Who is to judge which is which?
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:34 PM |
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Loreli
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Candy
Trust is an often misused word.
Sure-we sometimes have no choice but to trust the other person. You COULD live with someone who is screwing around....but it is far easier to see a lie in someone's face, than a voice on the phone.
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:37 PM |
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Angel178
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Who are you two to say what is my reality?
It is reality to me...the everyday stuff...the conversations....
WTF? Why can you not believe some things are more complicated than black and white?
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:37 PM |
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Pete73052
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Nonsense. I have lots of on-line friends I trust completely - without ever having met them. If I, say, wanted to send my 14 year old daughter on a vacation to someplace interesting - I could trust any number of people here to receive her and protect her while she visited them. Trust is everything.
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