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Loreli
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I, for one, wasn't talking about you , Angel. 
But you could always use the phone and discuss it with someone.
Don't ruin my thread, please.
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:44 PM |
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candylily
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If you can't even put your relationship to the test of a real-life meeting, there is no trust at all, just the fear that there's not really anything there after all. I'm not saying that's what any particular person on here is doing, but I know for a fact that it does happen and people make all kinds of excuses why they can't meet. Whichever person has the most money and time needs to get on a plane or get in their car and make it real.
[Edited on 9/30/2007 1:46 PM]
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:45 PM |
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Pete73052
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Don't ruin my thread, please.
 
Whichever person has the most money and time needs to get on a plane or get in their car and make it real.
And that would make it more "real" because? 
[Edited on 9/30/2007 1:49 PM]
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:48 PM |
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Loreli
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Care to explain that, Pete?
I asked a purely hypothetical question that came off of another thread.
It is NOT all about you two.
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:50 PM |
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Pete73052
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I'm discussing the topic. The topic strikes close to home as I'm in that type of relationship. But everything I'm saying is on topic. This isn't your blog Loreli... just sayin...
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:52 PM |
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hotdognchilli
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Pete says
....includes clubs...
Son u don't, need clubs, bats, or, or brass nuts 
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:53 PM |
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Loreli
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I never said it was a blog-I'm smart enough to keep things where they belong.Thanks for the info though.
You edited your post.
It IS more real in person-scroll back. Any person can say any thing they want to on here, or fake things on the phone.
It's hard to do in person.
What works for one doesn't work for all
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:58 PM |
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Pete73052
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No - I appended my post. I didn't edit anything.
It IS more real in person-scroll back. Any person can say any thing they want to on here, or fake things on the phone.
It's hard to do in person.
Um... no - it isn't hard to do in person... in fact it's easier to do in person for someone who wants to lie and cheat. People can be more convincing in person, in fact. And when there's a physical attraction between two people - it's easier for the one being lied to to accept what the other person is telling them - even if it's a bunch of lies.
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 1:59 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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Doesn't it boil down to TRUST? If you assume someone (or everyone) is doing stuff behind your back, you can't possibly take this seriously. If you have trust in each other, then it's VERY real. If you don't have trust in each other, then it doesn't matter if you share the same house. If you trust each other - you could be a continent apart and it wouldn't matter
This is REAL! This isn't all cake and ice cream. In fact, let me go out on a limb here and say I feel that long distance relationships are much more difficult. You deal with every day life. But all so different time zones, the written word that can be misunderstood, and not being able to be there for one another when the shit hits the fan.
And let's not forget being able to drive to their house to ease problems at 2;00 in the morning. The frustration and helplessness of being able to deal with some issues as a couple.
I'm not talking about fruity/sweet little emails that make you feel all good inside. I'm talking about REAL LIFE. When you find that you continue to come back together after each obstical and misunderstanding....you know you have the goods.
Trust, yes, i'ts a must have. But so is patience. Laughter. Friendship first.
You want to talk about "real life"? Show me people who can see each other every day. Touch each other...make love...have sex...whatever you want to call it. I ask you....could they wait? Would they feel the other person was worth the wait, even if they didn't kow how long it would take until they could be together? could they have this level of trust?
You think we don't get attached to each other? Our families? Our children? Every missed game, every missed birthday, just to f**king touch their face.
Yeah, it's real. Not something I bargained on. That's for sure. But this is my reality.
Sorry if I have offened any one with my point of view.
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 2:03 PM |
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robodad
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Whichever person has the most money and time needs to get on a plane or get in their car and make it real. It's hard to have both of those (money/time) Some of us do work for a living and time off/vacation is limited.
At our last visit, I helped pay some of her expenses..
Folks, the OP said that this is a hypothetical scenario, so don't get too upset if Pete, myself or anyone else stirs the pot with our input...we are staying on topic.
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 2:16 PM |
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Luisa909
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Real attraction belongs to real life
Online romance could be real either if we are honest and if we talk with our hearts without dressing masks
Mine is a general opinion
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 2:17 PM |
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candylily
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I've met several people off this site who lived very far away from me. The attractions held up in most cases, but the relationships didn't because of things that came up when I was with them in person. I fell in love with one guy from MD and I would even have relocated for him if I thought it would have worked. I think this is a great way to meet people because you can get to know them as people without sex distracting you while you're learning about each other. When you're in someone else's home for an entire weekend or more you learn things about them very quickly that you can't learn when you're just talking to them and you can determine after several of those long weekends together whether or not there is a real possibility of either person relocating for the other. I've never been sorry that I've met someone regardless of how it turned out.
Robo, You and Pali have met so you do know that it's no longer fantasy. The last guy I dated long distance paid for my plane tickets unless I insisted on paying for them myself. He worked more hours than I did so he had the most money and I had an easier time taking a few days off work.
[Edited on 9/30/2007 2:20 PM]
[Edited on 9/30/2007 2:20 PM]
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 2:18 PM |
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Angel178
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 3:44 PM |
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robodad
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Note to all: If you make a hypothetical scenario and post it on the messageboards, you just might get hypothetical answers........
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 3:46 PM |
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 3:49 PM |
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Angel178
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 3:55 PM |
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Pete73052
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Spring wrote:
If you are going to have an online romance, you should be faithful to at least meet one anothers emotional needs within the relationship, as the physical needs for touch, etc. won't happen until you meet in person.
Exactly! Emotional needs are, as we know, far more difficult to meet than physical needs. If people click on an emotional level, there is little doubt, for me, that they will click on a physical level. And when the emotional connection is strong between them, there is never a question of "should I go out with that person to have my physical needs met?" - the thought never comes up (OK the thought may - but acting out on it doesn't).
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 3:57 PM |
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Angel178
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Hi baby 
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 4:07 PM |
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Pete73052
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| Sep 30, 2007 @ 4:10 PM |
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waterfire
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Do you remain "true"
No idea, me thinks it is up to each of each
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