| Oct 8, 2007 @ 9:54 PM |
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Empath
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...that the nice guys (or gals) seem to "turn" when things don't go as they want them to? Is it just my experience, or do they seem to use every trick they can think of to change the outcome of a situation to their liking?
Is the "niceness" the pose, or the 'new' side??
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| Oct 8, 2007 @ 9:57 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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good question. if i knew weld be rich
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| Oct 8, 2007 @ 10:10 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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People are people. Many are very good at seeming to be one thing when, after time or a situation, their true self comes out. So, to me, the "niceness" is the pose. Some are able to keep this facade up longer than others.
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| Oct 8, 2007 @ 10:11 PM |
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blueyes101
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Not sure exactly what you mean Em, but I think even nice folks " turn " as you call it, because they are hurting, defensive.... maybe even saving face. Nice folks don't really know how to handle these feelings..... Bitches and assholes ...heck it is just another day..
I guess what I'm trying to say, is they are hurting, and they are human....\
I know it takes a lot, I mean a lot to get me going, and when that happens, who ever got me going realized they pushed the wrong button....  It doesn't mean I'm not nice, it means I store it in, and it can get ugly when/if it comes out...
People do strange things when they are hurt...... The true secret is if/when they can let you know they are truly sorry. Then you have their true answer..
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| Oct 8, 2007 @ 10:12 PM |
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Loreli
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I know what you mean, Em...
Gosh, there are nice people here.
It is SO nice when they end up being just what you thought! 
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| Oct 8, 2007 @ 10:47 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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seem to "turn" when things don't go as they want them to? or do they seem to use every trick they can think of to change the outcome of a situation to their liking? Blu.....I don't think you do this^^^^ (Course I don't know you very well   )
I think it is one thing if someone is hurt and strikes out in pain/anger/frustration....though I personally would not tolerate it if it were a habitual occurrence! It is something totally different when an individual has to put forth effort to appear nice and then uses manipulation to get their own way or to try to make others see them as a martyr.
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| Oct 8, 2007 @ 10:49 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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| Oct 8, 2007 @ 10:53 PM |
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twotall911
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im nice
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| Oct 8, 2007 @ 10:57 PM |
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Loreli
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From what I see, sometimes, people try to nicely expose people here, to help others. It isn't always bitterness, but knowledge. Sometimes people are dang glad they didn't hook up with "the last one."
Nobody should care about people they've met here. It's very hard to truly understand so people should not get involved in others' one-on-ones, (not you, Em-just the theory)
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| Oct 8, 2007 @ 11:04 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Ahh, it's just a ploy to get some booty.
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| Oct 8, 2007 @ 11:06 PM |
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signme
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I think most of us in here are pretty nice people. Then again sometimes bad things happen to good people and when they hurt they try to hurt others. Most of us try to back away but sometimes when a friend is being slammed for no obvious reason, we kinda rally around that person and might even get into the melee.
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| Oct 8, 2007 @ 11:21 PM |
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candylily
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I'm not sure what you're talking about, Empath but I never know what's happening behind the scenes around here. I'm not part of the email message network that gets referred to now and then. No one is perfect every single moment of every single day though, and nice people aren't any different.
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| Oct 8, 2007 @ 11:53 PM |
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kattsmeow
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I guess what I'm trying to say, is they are hurting, and they are human....\
I have to agree with Blu. We are only human.
When we have been hurt, we will bash/slash out at anyone. I am not saying it is right, just something that happens.
I guess the thing to learn is how not to do this. There has to be an "outlet" for the anger other than hurting other people.
Did I make any sense??
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| Oct 8, 2007 @ 11:58 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Makes sense to me, Katt....................."I'm sorry" doesn't take the hurt away. I have a really hard time with people that don't think before they open their mouth when they are angry.
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| Oct 9, 2007 @ 12:15 AM |
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Angel178
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I think overall...most people are really nice here
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| Oct 9, 2007 @ 12:34 AM |
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Loreli
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Yep!
Most people are!
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| Oct 9, 2007 @ 12:36 AM |
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Angel178
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Empath....I'm sorry you seem so upset...we love you 
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| Oct 9, 2007 @ 12:39 AM |
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Loreli
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Em is definitely a sweetie....
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| Oct 9, 2007 @ 12:44 AM |
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JesterDrawers
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Yep! Em is definitely a REAL SWEETHEART!!!!!!!
<-----This guy over here, though, is a complete idiot!  He really needs to learn how to play nice with others................. 
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| Oct 9, 2007 @ 12:55 AM |
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kattsmeow
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Makes sense to me, Katt....................."I'm sorry" doesn't take the hurt away. I have a really hard time with people that don't think before they open their mouth when they are angry.
Oh, if you only knew how long and hard I have had to deal with this problem.
I call it a "learned" behavior. One I had to learn from the time I started talking.
Think before you speak was pounded into me by my mother! Thank goodness I listened to her!
When I was a teenager, I should have been slapped once a day!
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