| Dec 16, 2005 @ 2:03 PM |
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swingpup
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What is your opinion? It's simple enough to meet someone in a public location for an iced tea, etc., and some conversation. We aren't talking about jumping a jet here or driving 200 miles.
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 2:23 PM |
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MotownManiax
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I agree, swing....just like we did in the previous thread.(lol)
If there's initial attraction, interest, and online chemistry, and the person lives in your zip, I see no reasonable excuse not to meet.
I'm not talking specific timeframe but let's say in the interest of brevity not more than two-three weeks after initial contact. If a person is so busy that you have to make an appt well in advance for what should be a simple, spontaneous get-together for a drink or coffee, not lasting more than an hour or two, then in my mind that person doesn't have time to date. If that's the case then their whole reason for having a profile and being on a dating site is a sham and they should remove themselves until they're truly ready. Any dissenters?
Let the "discussion" begin...lol.
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 2:25 PM |
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tahoma
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I'm getting ready to meet someone from here.... sounds like a nice guy! In my area too... and it all started with a wink. 
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 2:28 PM |
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spongebob777
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I'm painfully shy in person. Once I get to know someone I'm the same way I am here online but untill then I struggle.
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 2:29 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Cool and congrats, Tahoma! 
You'll have to tell us how it went...dating voyeurs that we all are...lol.
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 2:30 PM |
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tahoma
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No prob Mo... we're at the phone conversation stage... lots in common too!
Besides... you're just too far away for a coffee date 
[Edited on 12/16/2005 2:31 PM]
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 2:35 PM |
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MotownManiax
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I know, story of my dating life
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 2:46 PM |
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tahoma
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Absolutely agree with you on that one. You can get more emotion from phone conversations than from chatting. It's easier to get comfortable enough with the person to get to that meeting point.
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 2:48 PM |
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swingpup
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Tahoma...Congratulations!
So why don't more people do it that way?
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 2:52 PM |
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tahoma
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I really don't know pup... perhaps shyness? I've never been the shy type and if I meet a guy I like then it just makes sense to meet him in person. That's why most of us are here... right?
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 3:18 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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I think Muskoka has a good point. If you don't agree to meet, soon after the initial conversation, it seems to fizzle out.
Some people probably are shy, but maybe we also are concerned about how the other will see us, when it is honestly and truly a face-to-face.
To be honest, I have gone out w/ only about five men from these sites, and I have conversed w/, or been contacted by about a hundred men.
It goes both ways. Sometimes I never hear from the men again, and many times I don't feel the oomph.
I'm starting this dating thing again, after a couple of years of being idle, so my outlook is much different, this time around. Visiting over a cup of coffee, or a yummy margarita, sounds like fun to me. Even if it is just w/ a friend. Taking it all in stride.
Oh--also--there's location, location, location... I've seen some fine looking men living in places I know I'll never visit. That stinks!
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 4:56 PM |
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Pete73052
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Tahoma... but really  Happy for you!!!
I agree with Classy_Blonde, location has a lot to do with it - and for people who have very busy lives, like me, it's practical to look for people close by.
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 5:00 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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No prob Mo... we're at the phone conversation stage... lots in common too
Oooh Tahoma, good luck!! Hope you find that ever-elusive 'chemistry' thingy...
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 5:02 PM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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Why don't more people meet in person?
Well cause right now...Hmmm!! Well...Maybe it's because..Well I don't know.....I'll have to ask her again.
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 5:14 PM |
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Angel_N_Motion
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Personally, I have ventured to meet several friends outside the realm of Cyber-land.
I can't really complain about any of my experiences thusfar, but I can honestly say that the amount of self misrepresentation that occurs online is astounding. Maybe some of those who have lied are merely afraid to let their lies catch up with them..
Who knows?
Btw.. Hiya Ex...
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 5:47 PM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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Hey there Angel...How are ya?
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 5:57 PM |
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MotownManiax
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(Puts a Styrofoam cup in-between Angel and ET's connection to see if he can hear any juicy talk...lol)
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 6:04 PM |
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wandaful123
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wow! 2-3 wks sounds pretty soon to me, but then again I am one of the evil doers who has never gotten up the nerve to meet anyone!
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 6:08 PM |
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MotownManiax
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But I think that may change veeeery soon, Ms Popularity...lol.
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| Dec 16, 2005 @ 6:08 PM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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I would love to meet some of the people on this forum just to see the look on their faces after we've talked about all this personal stuff to each other...I would actually like to have a get together type thing with all my friends on here...If you're curious about who you are just take a look  
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