| Nov 3, 2007 @ 11:41 PM |
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southerngentleman700
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Do you think that some or even maybe all of us would prefer to keep online relationships at just that.....ONLINE.........so we really DONT have to face or deal with a real...RELATINSHIP........one that were you touch,smell or look into the eyes of your partner....
Isnt it so much easier to keep online relationships a FANTASY........ 
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| Nov 3, 2007 @ 11:43 PM |
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robodad
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So, you bombed again?
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| Nov 3, 2007 @ 11:48 PM |
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southerngentleman700
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Oh........NO.........Now what makes you think that?????
I have found this place to be the best site to meet some one........
i have no complaints whats so ever........... 
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| Nov 3, 2007 @ 11:51 PM |
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robodad
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Now what makes you think that????? Oh, I don't know....could it be your opening statement to this thread?
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| Nov 3, 2007 @ 11:54 PM |
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southerngentleman700
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Nope just a general question............besides it does look like at times most of us would prefer to keep everything at a safe distance........
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| Nov 3, 2007 @ 11:55 PM |
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signme
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Actually I sort of agree with Southern. I think some people have been burned so much that an online fantasy type relationship seems much safer to them. I'm not saying that everyone who has a crush or seems involved with someone is doing this but I'm sure some are. And I think it is much easier to have a fantasy relationship with someone who lives a great distance away because your chances of meeting are not as good as if you are talking with someone who lives within 50 miles of you.
But this is just my opinion. It is not aimed at any particular people here. I have to admit I've been guilty of a fantasy relationship at times also. It just seems easier to deal with sometimes. But I really do want a real life one that will last forever!
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| Nov 3, 2007 @ 11:57 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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I can't speak for anyone else, but if it were up to me, the longest distance I'd have to put up with is the other side of the bed.
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| Nov 3, 2007 @ 11:57 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Do you think that some or even maybe all of us would prefer to keep online relationships at just that.....ONLINE I prefer the real world!!!!!
Isnt it so much easier to keep online relationships a FANTASY........ It may be "easier", however, I don't believe they're as fulfilling.
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| Nov 3, 2007 @ 11:58 PM |
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Sweetheart83446
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I have to admit I've been guilty of a fantasy relationship
Haven't most of us? And take my word for it, it is a bitch to get out of when you realize the person is NOT who you thought they were.
Meeting the person online, then meeting in real life a short time afterwards...much better.
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| Nov 4, 2007 @ 12:01 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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But I really do want a real life one that will last forever!
But forever's such a long, long time...guess I'm an AA type...just taking things one day at a time, and I'm so very grateful for each of them!
(Eight minutes on the freeway is just about the right distance for me!)
  
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| Nov 4, 2007 @ 12:10 AM |
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southerngentleman700
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Got to say i have been so lucky ..............
To have met some really great ladies from match doctor in person........and i so prefer to keep things real.......Distance to me ........is such a small thing to over come if you really what to get to know someone as they really are.....IN PERSON.....
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| Nov 4, 2007 @ 12:11 AM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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I'm with you, Heaven..........forever is a VERY long time. Facts of Life tend to get in the way of forever.....people grow apart, illnesses such as Alzheimer's or dementia spring up, death occurs. Normally, forever doesn't last the same length of time for the two people involved. Sad, but true.
To me, forever is a fantasy and they both can be overrated. Life, taking what it has to offer one day at a time is what matters. How can one say they truly experienced Life if they never took the "risk" of actually living it?!?!?!?!?
I think it is so very sad when someone hides behind the computer because of fear of having "to face or deal with a relationship".
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| Nov 4, 2007 @ 12:20 AM |
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signme
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OK so I won't find "forever" but I can dream, can't I? (For me at my age, forever won't be all that long anyway! LOL)
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| Nov 4, 2007 @ 12:29 AM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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It's good to have dreams......as long as they don't overtake the opportunity of experiencing Life!!!!!
Imaginations, expectations, fantasies - they can sometimes do nothing but set us up for disappointment; whereas, making the effort and taking the risk with our eyes wide open to reality could lead to something very fulfilling!!!!!!
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| Nov 4, 2007 @ 12:32 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Sign, if we don't have dreams, we don't have anything. No matter how good life is, we still need our dreams!
  
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| Nov 4, 2007 @ 12:34 AM |
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signme
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Well I'd still be with the b/f if he'd been a little more giving and less taking. He is a good guy but not exactly what I need. He did want something long term and so did I.
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| Nov 4, 2007 @ 12:38 AM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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I can't stand LDR's and it was the one thing i swore i'd never do again because i thought it was not worth it. i ended up being wrong. it's not that it's not worth it, it's because i was not ready to accept certain restrictions and challenges.
id she is that great, works with you as a team, then go for it and make it real. leave the fantasy's to the story writers....
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| Nov 4, 2007 @ 12:41 AM |
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southerngentleman700
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Dreams and fantasies are all cool......
but when dreams and fantisies replace real life............wouldnt you agree that something is wrong?????????
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| Nov 4, 2007 @ 12:47 AM |
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robodad
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Dreams and fantasies are all cool......
but when dreams and fantisies replace real life............wouldnt you agree that something is wrong?????????
See! You did bomb out, otherwise you wouldn't be yapping about this (twice)
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| Nov 4, 2007 @ 12:48 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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All depends on what you're looking for, what you're finding and what you're willing to settle for. Sometimes if it's not right, you're better off with a dream while you're waiting...
Just kind of thinking about the past here a bit...I did a fair amount of waiting and dreaming cuz that was all I could do at the time...
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