| Dec 17, 2005 @ 9:20 AM |
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janneman1162
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Just wandering why?
Do put people there kid(s) on the photo on a dating site.
It is not the childeren that are dating, is it  .
In my opinion we start just with the 2 of us. Yes, I would like to know if she has kids, and I would love it. Getting to know them is fase 2 (or 3)
It's still the internet be carefull  .
Who can explaine to me why?
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| Dec 17, 2005 @ 9:28 AM |
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waiting41
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 Ditto x 2
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| Dec 17, 2005 @ 10:05 AM |
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Angel54214
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I with you waiting...ditto....also those group pics, who is the member?
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| Dec 17, 2005 @ 10:24 AM |
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janneman1162
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Both ladies, what else? 
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| Dec 17, 2005 @ 10:33 AM |
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Pete73052
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Women fall for the father/child image. I suspect that's why some men do it. Women, I think, are more honest about their intentions - guys don't always read profiles and if the pic is all they're going to see, might as well put the children in it too - to cut down on the emails. I think it's a bad, horrible idea to put your child's picture on the internet - anywhere, especially on a dating site.
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| Dec 17, 2005 @ 11:38 AM |
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Angel54214
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I strongly agree Pete...there's a world of sickos out there. Some date sites will not approve a photo that is not of just that person. Some have strict policies and I can see why.
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| Dec 17, 2005 @ 1:38 PM |
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danae74
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I guess I can see your points, but I seriously think it's no big deal. People post scrapbooks, vacation pics, the whole nine yards, and there are just so darn many millions of photos flying around...I don't think it's that big of a deal, really.
What's worse is people who post pictures of themselves with their ex! That's just weird. What are they saying? "I really can get a date...here's the proof?"
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| Dec 18, 2005 @ 8:03 AM |
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pstoc88377
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I go right past the profiles of women with kids in their pics. I also skip the pics with their pets.
Which one's the dog? 
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| Dec 18, 2005 @ 8:27 AM |
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LatinButterfly
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One of my "turn-offs" is a guy with a child in a pic but I guess it helps me to filter them out. I simply do NOT want someone with kids as my life has been hard enough raising my two and in the future all I want is to enjoy my relationship with my man. They still live with me but they're adults and are rarely at home (except to sleep, shower and eat...lol!) but any day they could go live on their own.
[Edited on 12/18/2005 8:28 AM]
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| Dec 18, 2005 @ 8:40 AM |
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walkingman
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I am a gold member and did have my kid's as an extra photo. I deleted it because it was old. I have no fear of a photo with my kid's with me being used by a wierdo online. I worry more about them walking home from school and make sure they do with friend's. My kid's also have their own cell phone's so I have a direct link to them. You can never be cautious enough with you kid's. Hope I didn't get off the topic to much.
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| Dec 18, 2005 @ 11:20 AM |
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soulless_spirit
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okay about the weirdo statement ...
i dont get this ...
a) if you meet a guy and let him close before checking him out thourougly your just plain daft ...
b) weirdos go more for teen cchat rooms on the net then a mom or dad trying to find a date ...
c) worry about all the parents that let the pc be the babysitter then a single person showing of bat he has family and aint hiding it
d) as long as it is not a questionable picture ... why not
i wouldnt worry to much about weirdos being here cause if you meet someone a) my recommendation is not just trust your instincts but be sure if he has nothing to hide he wont mind you doing a criminal check on him and other investigation which i highly recommend anyone !!!
soulless
I tend to over look pics where people are semi nude why it doesnt interest me to see it ... it gets boring
[Edited on 12/18/2005 11:21 AM]
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| Dec 18, 2005 @ 12:06 PM |
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stormy73
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This is a topic that should be brought up on EVERY forum!!
I've often found myself aghast when I look at a woman's profile and she not only has a picture of her kids, but has their NAMES AND AGES LISTED AS WELL!!
As was mentioned above.. with all the PSYCHOS out there lurking in the internet shadows, NO ONE has any business endangering their kids by posting their photos and names... it's just poor parenting!
By ALL means, mention that you HAVE kids, but don't give personal information about them!
[Edited on 12/18/2005 12:09 PM]
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| Dec 18, 2005 @ 1:58 PM |
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soulless_spirit
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duh the world is big are we overdoing it ...
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| Dec 18, 2005 @ 4:11 PM |
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torees121
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I have an extra photo of my son and I at his high school graduation this last May. I don't see a problem with it, now I wouldn't put a picture of my 13 yr old daughter on a site, because she is a minor.
With that being said... I have heard of perverts talking to teenagers in chat rooms, etc. I don't have a concern that someone will see her picture and then try to get her, attack her or whatever. My concern is that a pedaphile would see her picture and then want to get close to me. I do know that I am aware enough that nothing would happen. I have many, many rules when it comes to a man meeting my daughter. She has only meet 2 guys that I have dated over the last 6 yrs. Those relationships were serious. My brother-in-law is a Indiana State police officer so I have NO problem with him checking out a guy before I commit. I consider it a MUST. I have alot to protect.
I also like seeing men with their children. I want a man that has kids and is a good father. A picture doesn't say how good a parent is, but I don't have a problem if they do have a family picture posted.
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| Dec 18, 2005 @ 5:43 PM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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I personaly think it's the same thing as pimping your kids out for a date with someone.
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| Dec 18, 2005 @ 8:07 PM |
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torees121
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hmmmm well I guess I should tell me son he was "pimped" I am sure he will be thrilled.
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 9:42 AM |
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MelMel
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Sheesh.... I posted a pic of myself and my son... and it seriously cut down on the winks and emails... do I honestly care??? No... It shows that "some" men only see the pic and not the rest of the profile.. at least this way, with the pic shown, it lets them know that there is a very important person in my life who is NOT going away anytime soon!!
My son's name is not listed!!! I would think that ANY parent would have red flags if someone were asking TOO many questions about their kids... age.. school... and there is a website that allows you too look up (with pic's and addresses) registered sex offenders!!
And I have seen a bunch of posts of people disclosing their childrens' ages when asking or commenting to previous posts...
It all comes down to making sure your kids are aware that not every person is nice.. to run away or scream if they feel they uncomfortable...
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 9:59 AM |
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3dFish546
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Well, I have to jump in on this one. I have a 13 yo daughter who was accosted by a child molester. In the past 6 months she has been in the hospital for trying to kill herself. The first time she cut her wrist. The second time she took an overdose of pills. I cannot even begin to describe the pain and anguish this has caused. If it ever happened to your child I bet you would make damn sure their pics were NOWHERE on the net!
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 10:06 AM |
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torees121
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I am sorry for your daughter and her pain, but we are talking about from a dating site. Most child molesters know their victim in person, not from the net.
I still do not have a problem with it....
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| Dec 20, 2005 @ 1:21 PM |
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chinabull2000
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3dFish, I am truly sorry for what happened to your child, but I doubt if it was a consequence of a pic being posted online.
I have no problems with posting a pic of me and my daughter online... most of my pics have her in them anyway, because no-one ever seems to take a photo of just me alone! My solo pics are almost all taken by myself. However, I would never post where she went to school etc, but people knowing that her name is Lisa does not bother me at all.
And it is good that some women would pass my profile by if they saw me with my daughter, because I would not date a woman who wasn't interested in a single-dad anyway. So that's a plus point!
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