| Nov 6, 2007 @ 3:59 AM |
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ToucherinSparks
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This is for the ladies:
If you had the opportunity to be a homemaker, just raising your children and taking care of running the home, would you do it? Or would you prefer to work out side the home?
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 4:56 AM |
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SunBabe
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Shoot...I just made a very extensive post and accidently hit "cancel" 
Basically, YES! In a heartbeat!!! There's no job in the world that affords a woman the satisfaction, creativity and FREEDOM than being a "homemaker"...but not all women can be that way -- all I know is that I would have been stifled, even with a career or job I loved, if I'd made the choice to go to work instead of staying home.
That's not to say that I never left the house. Those were some of my most productive and rewarding days of my life...part of being a "homemaker" was contributing to the community (which I sometimes overdid, I admit), starting college when my youngest started school, and earning "play money" in any number of part-time jobs and little home-based businesses.
Even today my ex-husband credits me with making our house and family a "home". He says we couldn't have done it so successfully if it hadn't been for me keeping things together the way I did. It took a lot of work and attention to guide the kids in the directions they've headed...and it worked out for the best, thank goodness. (We just messed up on the marriage part after I was a bit sick for a few years, but that's a whole other story -- his "review" took away a lot of anomosity I had...and made me blush, lol)
I think the bottom line was that I couldn't see any sense in paying someone else to do the things I LIKED to do (except iron those friggin' 100% cotton white oxford work shirts ~yuck~  )
...besides, I wrote a term paper on "Opportunity Costs" and why I chose not to work: I would have needed to make $72K/year to break even (expenses, tuiton offset, marginal tax bracket, etc) -- not worth it, even with some of the cool jobs I was offered, to obtain "job satisfaction" when I already HAD job satisfaction...and FREEDOM from being locked into an out of the house j-o-b.
I was never bored for a single day, but as I said, not every woman feels that way. It was my choice (our choice, actually) and I COULD have had a job/career if I'd chosen to. But I was able to measure my worth not by a paycheck, but by accomplishments and meeting challenges...and there were plenty to keep me busy, believe me. 
But now I'm "retired" and perfectly happy not having that job, still -- even if the income is rather thin these days, lol. 
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 5:05 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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A bit late in the day for me now, but I was really miserable when I was home with just the kids. Of course the fact that it was the marriage from hell was a contributing factor, combined with the fact that I always felt like a duck out of water at the neighborhood koffee klatches, but it was like breathing again when I went back to work. There again though, I went back to work AFTER I ditched my loving husband (please read that as sarcasm, he was anything but loving).
My kids were pre-schoolers then, but I had a neighbor who baby-sat them, and I worked evenings so I still had days with them. When they went to school, I switched to midnights, and then when they were older, rotating shifts and finally on to days.
Now, in a good marriage, if I had it to do over again...that would be a whole other thing. Time with hubby would have to be factored in as well as time with the kids, and I might very well opt for being a homemaker. That said though, I've had a lot of fun working and gotten to see a lot of places and gotten to know a lot of people that I would almost definitely have never had a chance to see or meet if I'd been a stay-at-home wife and mom...unless I were part of a military family, that is...(learning to ride a horse in Ethiopia comes to mind...  )
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 5:15 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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Ok thats two i waited long enough.
Hell if she dont wanna can I?
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 5:19 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ 
Too bad, you would've been the perfect husband for me! 
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 5:21 AM |
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ToucherinSparks
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I'm just looking for opinions Burnsie, there is no position open.
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 5:46 AM |
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twotall911
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thought it was home engineers now
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 5:47 AM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Domestic Engineers, TT. Get with the program, will ya?
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 6:17 AM |
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SunBabe
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learning to ride a horse in Ethiopia comes to mind
Solitaire liked that lifestyle so much that she opted to skip marriage altogether
And Touch and TT...it's "Domestic GODDESS" 
(Every year my husband had to scratch out and rewrite my latest "occupation" on our IRS forms -- he didn't think the IRS had much of a sense of humor ...yep, "domestic goddess" and "house-slug" were only two of them )
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 6:31 AM |
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Angel178
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If the relationship was good and my efforts were appreciated....
I would have no broblem staying home and taking care of the house and children.....and my man too 
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 6:32 AM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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I would have loved to do that when my daughter was little. At least until she started school. Not anymore though.
Maybe if I ever got re-married and we bought a fixer-upper. Then sure...I take a few years off and rip out old plaster, paint, remove wall paper, that kind of thing.
But without a project...I would go batty. Nope, I like my job.
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 7:32 AM |
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drs297
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Just the ladies my white ass.
I would throw my pride out the window and stay home.. Now only to find that rich woman with kids
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 8:56 AM |
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Loreli
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As long as things got done and it wasn't just laziness. Kids, partner and home are more important than money. I would want to have something to do, part time or volunteer.
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 9:24 AM |
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twotall911
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And Touch and TT...it's "Domestic GODDESS"  if she can cook
Domestic Engineers, TT. Get with the program, will ya? 
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 9:30 AM |
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marylou
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I have been a homemaker all my married life......and even up until now. And for all the thanks and appreciation I got from the family (who have all left now and rarely come near me).........I would have been better sucking eggs...LOL.
I gave up a fantastic job to have a family and be a stay at home mom. Thats the way my husband wanted it.....he didnt want me to work....*silly me for giving in*.....LOL. I would do things differently now if I had that chance again.
Depends on the kids in the family I guess.........just stating my case. I did not feel appreciated.......took me a while before I realised this....LOL
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 9:31 AM |
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azgirl701
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i been a domestic engineer and work outside the home when my got older
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 9:36 AM |
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BeachCrete
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women make the best housekeepers.. my ex got to keep 2 outta the three houses that we had...now thats a "housekeeper" for ya! 
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 9:39 AM |
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marylou
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BeachCrete........LOL LOL LOL.........I am guessing you kept the 3rd...LOL
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 10:30 AM |
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pamdemonium
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Yes. It's just instinct as a woman to want to care for your home. I work b/c I have to, and enjoy it and am good at it. But if I had the opportunity to be home and do what homemakers do, in a heartbeat. I like traditional roles, minus the caveman attitude.
And when my son & daughter were young, I stayed home w/ them for 10 years.
You never get that time back, and who loves your kids the way you do? It was a blessing to be able to do it, and I realized that every second I was with them.
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 10:35 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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If you had the opportunity to be a homemaker, just raising your children and taking care of running the home, would you do it?
Never. Ptooey.
Who needs kids when I can have a job?
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