| Nov 26, 2007 @ 6:35 AM |
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Always_Striving
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Just fishing around for some stories or thoughts on this.
Have you ever waited for someone to finish a relationship or hoped that a marriage would end in bitter divorce so that you could now have the chance to date and possibly express romantic interests to a person that was commited to another in a relationship?
Is it a dangerous game of obsession? A one sided crush? Pure fantasy? Crazy?
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Has anyone ever waited it out and succeeded? Meaning, have you realized that the person whom you were intrigued with would not be anticipated to survive the existing relationship with the person they had committed to and knowing this you'd wait patiently in the shadows to be there to help pick up the pieces when it all ended and then make the move to work your way into that persons life, making your dreams come true.
Has this ever succeeded with anyone? Has this ever got anyone into big trouble?
What are your personal thoughts on this matter?
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 8:47 AM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Why yes I have, and it's been very successful.
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 10:12 AM |
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DiamondRain
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Actually, I am waiting for my own relationship to end so I can move on. The thing just goes on and on. It puts Eveready to shame. 
It's deja vu all over again. 
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 11:01 AM |
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Loreli
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No-
I recognize even a bad relationship for still being a relationship, and i am not part of it. I don't wish for any relationship to end so I can benefit.
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 11:05 AM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Well, I wouldn't interfere or try to break anyone up, but I see no reason not to wait if you see someone worthwhile.
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 11:11 AM |
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kattsmeow
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 Touch. I call the thing, dropping the ball. They drop the ball and I picked it up and ran for the goal line.
[Edited on 11/26/2007 11:17 AM]
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 11:11 AM |
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Loreli
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Going back to the OP- waiting patiently is one thing...hoping something will end is another. Especially if it is VERY apparent it won't work. But there are 2 sides to every story also.
I tend to pray that 2 people that cared enough to get into a relationship will go the distance.
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 12:07 PM |
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PolarExpress
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You said Patiently. Key word.
If you saw the relationship as healthy and good, I'd think you'd not be hopeful.
Personal thoughts...if you have an idea your crush returns your feelings and is in
a bad relationship, she might love that you're there for her when it unravels.
Of course, you also said to be the next one. You assume someone else is after you? Or do you want to be the last one? 
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 1:49 PM |
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Always_Striving
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^ good point Guess you have to watch your back.
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 1:59 PM |
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Luisa909
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If I'm sure at 100% that the relation could be real and serious I'll wait for a while
observing and studying with attention all steps and possibilities .....
Otherwise when relation is in doubt, not clear, too time to arrive a conclusion ecc ecc.....I say "goodbye" 
sometimes say "goodbye" could be a strategy .... (just sometimes not always)
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 2:11 PM |
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PolarExpress
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Guess you have to watch your back
Didn't mean it in that sense. I meant it in a 'how serious are you with
your intentions' way. Just a thought.
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 4:43 PM |
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painter007
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I would never want someone to break up with another...Hearts are involved...on both ends...And I have always made sure someone I was interested in was on their own for at least a year...so they can have some alone time..figure out what they want......
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 5:02 PM |
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loisday
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^^^^^
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 5:20 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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I would never want someone to break up with another
blink blink,
ok i swallowed enough.
Hypricrytical liar. You start campains to get people to split up. I know I recently just tasted one myself. You stick your nose in, pile on your crap and add presure and doubt in a simple reltaionship. All out of spite or eny. Which i cant figure out, most likely both. Christ how long you think you were gona be able to run you mouth without anyone calling you on it?
Whats truely amazing that is you even fine time to do this. You track recorded, or should I say body count here at md alone is mind blowing. Feats I couldn't even attempt to pull off. Now I rooted for ya, and cheered for ya. But enough of your bs. Im not perfect. Ill be the first to admit it. There fore I can admit. You arent either.
You may fool some of the people some of the time, you only fool me once.
[Edited on 11/26/2007 5:36 PM]
[Edited on 11/26/2007 5:36 PM]
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 6:57 PM |
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Loreli
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i say this neither in support of, or against anyone...merely following a 'point"....
When any of us come on here professing "love" "crush" "smitten" over and over, it does take some belief away. i do agree a waiting period is a good idea, not just to let people "regroup', but to prove that hearts are in the right place, not misguided by a general feeling.
Real possible love is best shared between 2, until it really IS love, and concrete. Then by all means share it with the world. How many people have we seen leave because there was this big, torrid love affair going on, which never came to fruition, and never would have. Feelings get hurt, people think they were publicly scammed.
And, that's JUST my opinion. We're all different.
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 7:01 PM |
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duwant1
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Touch. I call the thing, dropping the ball.
“Dropping the ball,” I always thought that was called a fumble?  
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 7:54 PM |
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blueyes101
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Loreli, the same things happen in real life. If this was a bar we all hung out in, we would see the same thing... Hell even a coffee shop, a gym, heck even church.......
We all have had friends who break up, and one friend stays and ones leaves.... The more we take this big ol world and try to make it smaller, the farther some have to go to get away.
It is sad, but life takes strange turns sometimes.... It is not the mistakes we made, it is how we handle them .
The true secret is not for others not to take sides...... An old ex step father told me a long time ago...after I broke up with his step daughter...... one person alwsays gets the friends, it's just the way it is....... I told him I didn't believe that, turns out I went to work for him a week later...... Still friends with him, the ex, and her new husband........ No friendship lost......... it doesn't always work out the way you might like it.... But it depends on how the two people decide to split, and act towards each other, and what they tell their friends.
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 8:14 PM |
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Loreli
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yes,Blu-to some point I agree.
however, in most bars or outing places, people aren't paying much attention unless 2 people are making out in the corner or on the pool table. They're too busy encompassing every sight, sound, taste, etc, to worry about 2 people whispering "I want you' 'i love you" "I need you".
Unless one is a real regular there-then, maybe.
On here-it's written, it stays here for all to see. Living real life, it would likely be forgotten-shortly.
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 8:17 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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ya have to come to a point where you just say,
no more making the same f***ing mistake, no matter how well you handle it. in this case, practice does not make perfect. Stoping the personal insantiy does though.
JMHO
hehehe ( i just figured out what jmho ment, am i hip now?)
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| Nov 26, 2007 @ 8:39 PM |
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PolarExpress
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however, in most bars or outing places, people aren't paying much attention unless 2 people are making out in the corner or on the pool table. They're too busy encompassing every sight, sound, taste, etc, to worry about 2 people whispering "I want you' 'i love you" "I need you".Unless one is a real regular there-then, maybe.
If you're always in the bar, what kind of person do you think you're gonna find?
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