| Dec 19, 2005 @ 8:24 AM |
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TNShadyLady
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I live in the country, in a very rural area. The closest major city is Memphis, about ninety miles away. I find it extremely difficult to connect with potential dates because of where I live. And long distance love, while it can be fun for a time, isn't realistic unless you've got the financial means to actually meet sometime. Even driving nearly 100 miles for a date is taking a serious safety risk. So what's a person who lives in the country to do??
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 9:33 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Lady, in your circumstances, distance dating is not an option but a reality. All I can say is be very careful when choosing the guy you want to distance date with.
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 7:05 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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TN,
I have the same problem w/ being in a rural locale. For many years, I've fully enjoyed the seclusion, coziness, peacefulness, and quiet of the area.
I am now wanting to be much more social, and after nineteen years of owning my home here, it is on the market. Sometimes moving away really is the key. I'm not doing it to find love, mind you, but I think it will increase the odds.
I have seen many men here, who would be wonderful to date, but I don't have a desire, or the ability, to go where they are.
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 7:10 PM |
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MarysPlace
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Even driving nearly 100 miles for a date is taking a serious safety risk
How's that a serious safety risk, I really don't see...
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 7:15 PM |
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kattsmeow
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I am now wanting to be much more social, and after nineteen years of owning my home here, it is on the market. Sometimes moving away really is the key. I'm not doing it to find love, mind you, but I think it will increase the odds.
You rock woman!!!! The big wide world has just been waiting on you!  
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 7:18 PM |
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spongebob777
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How's that a serious safety risk, I really don't see...
Us backward ass country f***ks are skeert of you city slickers. However I would visit Mo, he lives in a decent neighborhood.
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 7:45 PM |
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summersquall
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How's that a serious safety risk, I really don't see...
Being so far from anyone you know that could check up on you could make it a bigger risk. Meeting someone in an unfamiliar area isn't the greatest of scenarios either. If something were to happen you're a long way from home.
Living that far from larger cities is very tough for the dating picture. I'd like to be able to make a suggestion that works but I honestly don't know. Perhaps there are closer cities than Memphis that still have a decent population where you could join some social activities?
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 8:00 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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I have no fear about driving anywhere alone. Of course, it's even better to take the dog along for protection.
One thing is an absolutre golden rule. You meet in a public place, with a LOT of people around. If they turn out to be weird, and start to follow your car, head to the nearest police department, or safe establishment. And--carry a cell phone.
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 8:02 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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And thanks Katt,
Do you think it can handle me?????   
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 8:11 PM |
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danae74
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I'm also in a rural area, similarly placed at about 80 miles from Dallas. I'm familiar enough with Dallas/Ft. Worth not to be uncomfortable at all, though, meeting someone in a public place.
Maybe you could drive up to Memphis a few times on your own, if you're not comfotable there? Go antique shopping, visit the zoo (or whatever you like to do) and keep an eye out for decent pubs or other meeting places. You might feel more comfortable that way.
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 8:15 PM |
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spongebob777
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A lot of us in the country really don't like to go to the city at all. You have to wrestle me to get me to go to Jackson with is only a city of around 30,000.
I'm about 70 miles from Detroit and that place terrifies me unless I'm going for a ball game and have a driver.
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 8:22 PM |
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danae74
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I guess I'm used to it...lived in Houston for three years, and if you can handle that, you can handle anything! Even if I didn't have jobs there, I'd still go to Dallas once a month or so; the city's not so bad, if you don't have to live there!
The trick is to find a couple of home bases, someplace you feel completely comfortable in. Mine's a certain bookstore where I know all the people. Then, you explore your way out from home base...whenever there's just too much (traffic, noise, confusion, whatever) you go back to home base.
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 8:24 PM |
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spongebob777
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When lived in Frisco I went to Dallas several times with friends from Plano but I didn't even try driving in the city.
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 8:34 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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My best friend lives in Plano, Spongey.
I happen to like Dallas. Probably more restaurants there than anyplace else on earth. Now I'm getting hungry. Guess I'll have a banana.
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 8:52 PM |
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CynCity
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I live in the biggest town in a rural county (50,000), and I'm not going anywhere (except maybe a few miles out of town). I've done it before and I won't do it again. Am I limiting my options, yup. But if, in the end, I only find a friend or two, I'm OK with that. 
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 8:59 PM |
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kattsmeow
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And thanks Katt,
Do you think it can handle me?????
Oh, ya,,,,,,,it is so much fun out here in the big wide world of people!!!!
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 9:21 PM |
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MarysPlace
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Well, I still don't get it. You get into a car, you drive to the city, you meet a guy in a public place, what's there to be scared about?
The country is what's scary. There's mud, then bugs and all kinds of insects, too much fresh air so I have to smoke more and no streets so you get lost before you even got yourself going anywhere...
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 9:39 PM |
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summersquall
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Mary, you live in the mother of all cities. It's a bit different when you live in the country and come to a big city for a visit..;)
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 9:47 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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I love New York City! My best friend had an apartment a half block away from Central Park. Beautiful.
While visiting her, we went to see the Rocky Horror Show on Broadway, which absolutely thrilled me, because I had been to the original years before, w/ Susan Sarandon and Tim Curry (Is that his first name? Think so).
I'd go back in a heartbeat. You can certainly find a lot of safe places there to meet a date.
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| Dec 19, 2005 @ 9:55 PM |
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MarysPlace
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I'm whole 8 blocks away from CP. That's all the country I need. I can get attacked by trees and grass all I want there. ;)
Oh and when you come to visit, please walk fast and don't stop in the middle of the sidewalk. It gets kinda tiring to do 110 hurdles all day long over the slow moving people. 
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