| Jan 1 @ 2:43 PM |
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nasscarmom
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I know I'm not Cinderella or Miss America... But I am courteous and respectful. I try to answer emails that I get, with "some" kind of response. UNLESS you are from another country and start the email out with..."HEY GORGEOUS" or "YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL"... or my best one yet.... "You so pretty..I want no u".
CAN"T people spell???
Anyway... just wondering if it's just me or do others get blown off too 
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| Jan 1 @ 2:51 PM |
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signme
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A lot of people don't answer emails if the contents are like you said. Or if it seems that the person did not even bother to read your profile. I always try to answer my mail, which is easy as I don't get much! LOL
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| Jan 1 @ 2:52 PM |
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BandTMom
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The reason some people do not answer emails is that some people cannot take rejection.
I have politely answered, ""Thanks, but no thanks". and received one of the worse cussings of my life and it was followed by two more emails in the same vein.
And it's not just men that do it, women do too.
Hope that helps answer your question.
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| Jan 1 @ 2:56 PM |
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starchild888
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I've only been "out there" for about 9 months......I would have to say that most guys don't answer my emails when I initiate a search and find someone attractive. There are a lot of reasons why you may not hear back from someone...and the reasons don't really matter....I've learned not to take it personally, 'cuz it hurt a bit in the beginning. I won't answer someone if there's no photo...because it usually means the person behind the profile is most likely a scammer, so why bother? I keep in contact and basically keep on keepin' on....eventually, you will connect with someone nice. I don't let this on line stuff discourage me.
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| Jan 1 @ 2:57 PM |
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nasscarmom
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Guess if I get an email... I'm flattered because, like you sign.. I don't get many..
If they take the time to email me, I'm going to take the time to send "something" back.. Dear John letter or not. BUT... ONLY if they are in the US... If they are out of the country... sorry to say, but I do not.
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| Jan 1 @ 3:01 PM |
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signme
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Sometimes they say they are in the US but I doubt if they are. I got an email from a guy who said he was in Minnesota--I grew up there and I know they use correct grammar and idioms even in Minn! LOL But this guy did not and for some reason, I think he was maybe a scammer so I called him on it. Have not heard back! LOL
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| Jan 1 @ 3:25 PM |
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nasscarmom
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Been there done that. Grew up in Iowa.. Had a guy tell me he lived there. Started talking about stuff and he came back with WRONG answers.
THEN he asked me for money. HA DELETE!
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| Jan 1 @ 3:28 PM |
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painter007
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I try to answer all my emails......now its just "one"  I pay attention to....
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| Jan 1 @ 3:36 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Im an air head. I miss some or hit the wrong button. Or i just dont see them. Posting tunage or what nots.
Cant peeps spell. some can some cant, i do my best to figure out what they are saying anyways with alittle less negetivity.
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| Jan 1 @ 3:43 PM |
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signme
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Painter--congrats to you and Beach.
As for spelling, I teach 2nd grade. I can pretty much read all types of spelling. Some people are good spellers and poor typists. Some people just don't pay attention to spelling, it's not a priority. I don't care too much about the spelling. It's the sentiment I try to understand.
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| Jan 1 @ 3:51 PM |
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DiamondRain
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This question comes up from time to time.
In most cases, I think the reason people don’t answer an e-mail is because they don‘t find the person that wrote the e-mail to be a good match for the kind of person they came to the site to meet. (I suppose that is a polite way of saying it’s because they are not interested.)
There could be any number of reasons that aren’t always necessarily about physical appearance. For example, it could be that your location is not suitable for them, or they see something in your profile that isn’t what they are interested in such as that you have kids, or you smoke or whatever.
Frankly, in some sense, it seems to me perhaps more rude to EXPECT a response from someone if they are not interested in you than for that someone not to respond at all. (Not that I am suggesting you are rude.)
Think of it this way. People don’t have an unlimited amount of time. Many people come here to meet someone and only have a few minutes to come on the site, read e-mails and respond. How can you expect them to compose e-mails to people who they aren’t interested in? Their time is much better spent writing to people they ARE interested in and perhaps searching for others.
Speaking for myself, I am not looking for a romantic relationship here. But when I was, I tried various systems including writing back polite rejections and not writing at all. At one time I struggled sometimes for a very long time composing e-mails that tried not to hurt feelings. In my experience, not writing at all is by far the better system. Some of the reasons have already been given above. One of the best is that some people are just as likely to be more offended by a rejection than no e-mail at all. So I am not convinced that writing a “thanks but no thanks” is the most humane solution.
And, some people respond to polite rejection with rude retort. And I don’t deserve that.
So, when I was looking for romance online, I decided to not write back unless I had serious interest. And since 99.99% of the mail I received was from unsuitable matches, it saved me a lot of typing!
Finally, remember that a lack of interest does not mean you are not attractive. There could be many reasons people feel that you are just not a suitable match.
In the end, all you need is one. (Unless you are one of those kinky types!) 
[Edited on 1/1/2008 3:54 PM]
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| Jan 1 @ 3:52 PM |
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signme
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^^^ What he said (DR, my adorable crushee!) LOL
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| Jan 1 @ 6:14 PM |
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daisy315
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hell.. my own sis won't even answer my emails  
there have been a few that never replied to my emails.. most the time I was just commenting on a blog or something interesting I read in their profile.. it didn't bother me that I wasn't sent a reply..Like DR said.. we just weren't a match..
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| Jan 1 @ 6:31 PM |
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signme
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I just don't worry about it much anymore. If someone wants to reply, great. If not, oh well, try again with someone else! 
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| Jan 1 @ 6:51 PM |
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blueyes101
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I sometimes check my mail as I'm say warming up the car to head to work, if i only have a couple minutes I may only answer an email to good friends.. In other words, my brain is not quite awake enough right this minute to find the right words when I'm not that interested. Same thing late at night.
I also talk with others from across the world, and the time zones play havoc, 1-6 hours makes it hard to have a conversation, in our busy lives, you only get a few minutes each day if you are lucky, if you forgot about the one email, and suddenly you have 5-6 with someone else is is easy to forget.......
If you open your box 2-3 times a week ands only get a couple at a time, I see no reason to simply ignore, but at times I have had 50+ in a day, so unless I know what to say to someone who made first contact, they may easily be forgotten... And that is a shame.
Sometimes you can just chitchat with someone new, other times it feels like a
" connection " must be made..... I can usually talk with anyone anytime, about damn near anything, other times it feels like you are simply being polite...... Now what am I going to do?
There is nothing easy about internet dating........ nothing.
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| Jan 1 @ 7:01 PM |
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1stsignofspring
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Awweee cheer up blue.....2008 will bring you your hearts desires! 
So..does that mean if I send you an email you may or may not read it or answer it in the case you might not feel like it??? J/K You have always answered my emails... 
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| Jan 1 @ 7:16 PM |
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blueyes101
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I haven't read one in a while..... 
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| Jan 1 @ 7:17 PM |
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1stsignofspring
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I swear I've been away on a long cruise... 
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| Jan 1 @ 7:21 PM |
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blueyes101
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No hurry, jus sayin.......
I never want anyone to write because they feel they have too... I like it when something just strikes them to do so.
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| Jan 1 @ 7:23 PM |
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1stsignofspring
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Well Blue I wasn't on here for a few weeks and really didn't want to communicate with the "other world" truthfully....and it did me some good....gave me a fresh outlook on things....missed ya though.. 
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