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Gallows_Humor
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I was lead on here by them. I found out that they were interested in/ writing/ or talking to others here besides me...
I am not the one and only.. the object of his/ her affection and I feel cheated on...
Is this a normal part of on line dating and should just be accepted?
Do "some " people  let their ego's get the better of them?
such drama..
 and... I bet it happens all the time here..
..threads are started exposing "cheaters"
..behind the scenes email campaigns are implemented..
..snide unfavorable comments are made in answer to their posts
...people cancel...
So.. in your opinion, what is proper etiquette here..
...to flirt with only one person at a time?
...write to only one person at a time?
If you are the recipient of an email exposing a "player" ..what should you do ?..
ignore it? forward it to your friends? send it to  the player and ask him what is what? ...
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| Jan 11 @ 3:36 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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In my case, I wasn't really just "played", I became seriously involved with someone who I believed was a woman, and we planned to meet. It was to the point where I had to repeatedly turn down a male member of this site who I was seriously interested in because I had become so involved with this "woman". It turned out he was a 300 lb man, and he had to expose his true identity to me because we planned to meet. After he told me, I blocked all means of communication and alerted all my friends that there may be a stalking situation. So yeah, I think it depends on the seriousness of the situation. If someone is emailing someone else, I honestly don't think that's a big deal, especially if you haven't been talking for a long time. And, flirting on the forums is just flirting. I still flirt on the forums, and my boyfriend lives with me (and I'm very certain of his sex). If you feel you have been seriously lied to or played, I think you should tell close friends, maybe alert them with a bulletin (this is what I did), especially if you think you might be in danger ("she" had my address) but you would be wrong to broadcast it, especially if the person is a member of the forums or blogs.
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| Jan 11 @ 3:48 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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LGQ
I am glad you posted as it give me the opportunity to state that I am not talking about anything so serious as what happened to you..
..for your situation, (and you probably know how I feel about it) .. the perp should be " banned for life.." IMHO.. there is no excuse for people pretending to be somebody they are not..
you did everything you could to protect yourself from a sick individual who should be exposed for the person he was. 
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| Jan 11 @ 3:52 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I believe he was banned from MD permanently. He will not have the opportunity to hurt anyone anymore.
But yeah, I think that simply writing to someone else or flirting on the forums is not really a big deal, unless two people are very seriously involved...and even then I don't think flirting is that big of a deal.
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| Jan 11 @ 4:42 PM |
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loisday
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GH.........
Thinking that a few emails ar a few phone conversations equal a "relationship" is plain silly. To carry it into the forums with bitterness...shows a very immuture high schoolish mentality. A relationship takes time and wisdom. There are many emotions....Love is NOT one of them. Love is and should be, a decision based on that which is good for you.
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| Jan 11 @ 5:42 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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yes Lois I totally agree with you..
I have always felt that if there is a question..asking the person who knows the answer is the best course of action..
Where I can possibly see a problem with forum friendly flirting.. ( really..does anyone take any forum flirting seriously?) - is when two people are trying to get to know one another and they become confused by it. (although... I have been there..and done that..  )
But on the other hand.. if there is an actual relationship..I will always think that even forum friendly flirting by either and all parties is inappropriate...
as for the playing part, Theobono... in a sense, yes we are... but we should remember that there are real people on the other side of the keyboard and treat them with respect. ( and respect is earned)
I don't know why someone would not email or call you again.. and only she could say.. but you do seem to have the right attitude of just relaxing and having fun with it..
I want to add here that there is a difference between playing with ... and playing someone..
it just seems the lines between the two are drawn in sand sometimes?
btw..in case anyone was wondering... this thread has nothing to do with me or anyone I know..
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| Jan 11 @ 6:24 PM |
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loisday
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GH.............
This is one of the most thought provoking threads written in a long time.
All those viewings.............so few comments.
Hmmmmm............perhaps you hit quite a few nerves............... 
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| Jan 11 @ 8:03 PM |
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kattsmeow
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But on the other hand.. if there is an actual relationship..I will always think that even forum friendly flirting by either and all parties is inappropriate...
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| Jan 11 @ 8:10 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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But on the other hand.. if there is an actual relationship..I will always think that even forum friendly flirting by either and all parties is inappropriate...
I disagree with this part Gallows. I am a huge flirt and am known for saying outragous things at the most inappropraite times. It's just another part of me. Everyone knows I'm not serious. And my worst flirting occure with friends and even friends boyfriends. They are "safe" as far as I'm concerned. They all know that I am harmless.
But this behavior in NO WAY means that I don't care about someone. In fact, if I'm flirting with you outside the forums....that's when you know I'm interested. It's not something I do. 
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| Jan 11 @ 8:27 PM |
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lj450
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Online drama is so funny to me.
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| Jan 11 @ 8:31 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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I can tell. 
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| Jan 11 @ 8:33 PM |
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lj450
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how
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| Jan 11 @ 8:34 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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Because your little emoticon is rolling around on the floor laughing.
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| Jan 11 @ 8:37 PM |
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lj450
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Oh, I did the wrong one.....I meant this one. 
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| Jan 11 @ 8:38 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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Are you off your meds again honey? 
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| Jan 11 @ 9:06 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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What meds? Ex-Lax?
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| Jan 11 @ 9:27 PM |
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Loreli
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Nothing online is an absolute during the dating process.
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| Jan 11 @ 10:16 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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so true loreli... 
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In fact, if I'm flirting with you outside the forums....that's when you know I'm interested. It's not something I do.
..and I found this out to be true...as she never flirts outside the forums with me... .......is this something to smile about????
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| Jan 11 @ 10:20 PM |
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Loreli
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If someone else's mind is elsewhere in real love, then by all means-smile!
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| Jan 11 @ 10:26 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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............ why does tina turner suddenly come to mind...
...any way........
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