| Dec 21, 2005 @ 8:32 AM |
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mart777
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This is a question for girls
When you spot a guy looking at you or paying attention to you, how often can you sense how much he is attracted to you? And when it is confusing to you?
Maybe more details if you do not mind telling them. How can you sense it?
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 9:09 AM |
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Angel_N_Motion
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Good question..
I never assume... Just because a man is winking, doesn't mean he's winking at me. He could have something in his eye. And, if he's looking in my direction for a long period of time, there's the possibilty that there's a really hot babe behind me that he's checking out or a television tuned in to ESPN. But it's nice to flatter myself. 
Seriously though, You can only read so much from a glance or a smile from across the room. I don't like to assume anything for fear of making a true A$$ out of myself. It is flattering to be noticed, but I won't go so far as to think he's interested unless it is confirmed by further actions or words.
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 9:11 AM |
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torees121
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right on Angel  Heck for me it would be like in the movies where I would think he was looking at me, but instead he was looking at the hot chick BEHIND me  How embarassing would that be if I then showed interest 
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 9:18 AM |
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Angel_N_Motion
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Torees.
My luck, He'd start walking my way, and I perk up... only for him to walk past me and approach the woman behind me. As I said before, I do not assume. Saves a lot of embarrassment.
By the way, what are you talking about anyway, Torees? You'd be the hot babe standing behind me..
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 9:35 AM |
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mart777
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So you cannot say for sure then?
How embarassing would that be if I then showed interest I would find it actually very attractive. I notice a girl and yet another girl by mistake thinks I notice her. Then I notice that second girl. Embarassing? Not necessarily. If the second girl finds it funny instead of embarassing, that is a definite plus for the girl, it shows confidence. Not to mention, funny situation is a great start for a romantic relationship.
But we are going off-topic. Imagine, there is nothing behind you. The guy looks at you, or else his behaviour "speaks" to you. Can you sense his intentions? ...
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 9:35 AM |
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spongebob777
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Good question Mart should be some interesting answers.
Personally I wish women would make their intents a little clearer.
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 10:49 AM |
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Angel54214
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I'm not a girl, but a woman...I usually get the winks from married men. Full attention for me is a man that does the nod gesture with that nice smile and is single.
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 11:59 AM |
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wandaful123
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Guys this is a tough question to answer, turn it back on yourselves.... do you know what a girls intentions are when she looks at you or acknowledges you? There really is no way of knowing. When I find myself in this situation I generally smile and wait and see what happens. Once I was at a bar and actually sent a guy a drink when I thought he was showing interest, he came over and we talked for the evening, was fun, but nothing came of it.
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 12:10 PM |
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spongebob777
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It sure would be a lot easier if we were like dogs or something. I'm starting to think the confusion is a thing that is common in lifetime maters.
I watch the swans on the lake here closely. Some remain single for years, others seem clueless about attention from swans of the oposite sex, and still others seem to single each other out when they're young and pair off as soon as they mature.
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 12:39 PM |
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torees121
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awwww Angel you are so sweet
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 12:45 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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I think I'd like to be a swan. Remember the ugly duckling?
I was out dining, w/ family and friends, one night. There was a very handsome man, dining alone. My mom sent him a bottle of wine, and he came over to our table to thank her. He ended up joining us, and paid for our entire meal. Thank goodness, because my mom never asked the price of the wine, and it was MUCHO expensive.
He and I ended up dating, for about five months. What a ride! He was the most exciting man I've ever dated. 
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 1:14 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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Depends on HOW he is looking at you... the older I have gotten, the more I can interpret the reason he is looking. Sometime's it's just idle curiousity... sometimes he is appreciative of a good looking woman,, and sometimes he is not trying to hide his obvious sexual attraction.
[Edited on 12/21/2005 1:15 PM]
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 1:23 PM |
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wandaful123
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It sure would be a lot easier if we were like dogs or something. I'm starting to think the confusion is a thing that is common in lifetime maters.
I think this is a trait only us humans practice.... done out of fear as well. The swans are following their natural instincts... we've "evolved" to ignore ours....
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 1:51 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Ah well, since the population is showing no sign of decreasing, I guess we're mostly managing to work our way thru the confusion!
My experience would be that, generally speaking, if he (or she's) looking and you make eye contact and he or she doesn't look away, it's pretty safe to assume the person's at least interested in getting to know you better...which is always the start. It may just mean he (or even she) wants to jump in bed or maybe not, you don't know unless you um....communicate? And I think it works both ways if there's a miscommunication...I don't think anyone's ever actually insulted by someone finding them attractive as long as they're not being obnoxious in how they're showing it. As Mart said, if you keep your sense of humor, it really doesn't matter!
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 4:54 PM |
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walkingman
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I am not sure how to answer that. I think if you stare at the person on and off and they state back then that is a good sign. I think we all have a fear of being turned down. I will say that If I find a lady attractive I will to see if she has a ring on her finger. That may a be bit old fashioned but that is me. I have been told a few time's by my daughter's that ladie's look at me when we are shopping. I guess I see it as them being surprised that I am a single parent of 2 teen girl's. I am not sure how else to take it.
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 7:10 PM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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If I'm in a bar and I see a good looking guy looking my way I'll smile and wink across the room. I've been known to send a man a drink a number of times, 8 out of 10 times it got a drink bought for me and I'd make a new friend to be in my group of friends. Im not the least bit shy or intimidated to approach a man and introduce myself and strike up a conversation. I talk to everybody when I'm in the public, I like to see everybody laugh and have fun.  
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 7:29 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Uh, Jeff,
Since they have no idea you are single, could it possibly be because you are good looking??? I happen to like the Fu Man Chu hair growth on the face. Doubt I'm the only one. 
You mentioned the ring on the finger too. I have never looked at a man's ring finger, and I think most women do. I forget all about it, and it is definitely a good idea to do so. Even if they take the ring off, there may be a tan line. Right?
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 8:15 PM |
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danae74
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Oh, you have to check out the ring finger! I really don't do much "cold calling" on strangers, though. I'm usually preoccupied when I'm out, and can be pretty dense about these things. My problem is usually that I'll have a fifteen-minute conversation with a man before I realize he's actually hitting on me. I just assume he really wanted to talk about the book I was reading...  Sometimes I'll realize three hours later, "Hey, I was just approached back there!"
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 8:43 PM |
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mart777
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Depends on HOW he is looking at you... the older I have gotten, the more I can interpret the reason he is looking. Sometime's it's just idle curiousity... sometimes he is appreciative of a good looking woman,, and sometimes he is not trying to hide his obvious sexual attraction.
Snappygoddess, you have quite good ability then. So you get it all from his eyes, or seeing his other gestures helps?
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| Dec 21, 2005 @ 10:36 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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More so where the eyes are directed, body language, hand gestures.... and if he is close enough.. if the smile reaches the eyes.. it's not just one thing.. its a combination of things.
Wouldn't be worth getting older, if I hadn't picked up a few pointers along the way
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