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what you do when you miss someone too much but everything is over?
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melissa2
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| Mar 2 @ 12:11 PM |
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Loreli
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You find other things to do, go out and meet people, join organizations, read, walk, swim, spend time with friends and family.
It happens to all of us, and it passes....
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| Mar 2 @ 12:46 PM |
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Bluebonnet72
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I'm pretty surw that tine will help you .....in the meantime you can follow Loreli's suggestions
There are so many things to do.....and if you can dont stay alone too much !!!
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| Mar 2 @ 2:34 PM |
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dooney123
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Lean on your friends and family and get out and meet other people.
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| Mar 2 @ 2:47 PM |
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marylou
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I have always found the best remedy is to *move on quickly*......I meas as quickly as you can. The longer you linger...the more it *gets to you*.....the secret is...to try *not to let it*. I can tell you....men dont think of us when its over in that same way....or the vast majority. They all move on REAL QUCIK........lol.....just copy what they do then you cant go wrong....LOL...hehe 
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| Mar 2 @ 3:38 PM |
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melissa2
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thanks evrybody
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| Mar 2 @ 3:56 PM |
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pamdemonium
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You have to go through it to get through it. You might always miss them. But never go backwards. Only forward. Wishing you some peace in your heart.
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| Mar 2 @ 4:04 PM |
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mailorderannie
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You have to go through it to get through it.
Exactly.
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| Mar 2 @ 4:49 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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*shakes head*
call the person and have an actual ADULT conversation. just because things are over does not mean that the friendship you had is lost. Follow everyone else and you will be left with a string of open issues that the next person does not need. Close your issues before moving on so that you are whole for the next person.
Need an example? OK. All you have read above equates to is the following BS circle of relationship destruction and non satisfaction that guys stay away from because it is easily seen:
"OMG I just saw ________ again and he is looking so _____ and he wants to go out again. I am gonna call him because he misses me and I miss him."
your "friend"
"But what about ________ the person you are with now?"
LADIES, if you MUST end a relationship, do it completely by closing ALL issues. Anything else will leave you to be a self Sabatour...
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| Mar 2 @ 4:54 PM |
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mailorderannie
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Doesn't always work Sadian. Sometimes the door is closed on the other side and the conversation won't happen.
In a perfect world, we are all grown up and CAN have Adult conversations, but not everyboy has their big-boy pants on.
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| Mar 2 @ 4:57 PM |
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signme
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I still talk to my ex b/f and we have made plans to go out once in a while (but the plans always fell through). I am still looking for someone new though. I've told the ex I doubt if we will ever go back to the way we were. It just didn't work out.
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| Mar 2 @ 5:02 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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the art of communication never ends. if you read all the statements above you will see that no one ever said "try". Yes, sometimes the door on the other side "is" closed, and it hurts terribly, but unless you attempted to open that door, and I mean REALLY attempted to open it, you are left with the same lingering BS.
By the way, the only way a guy closes the majority of all doors is if you have cheated 
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| Mar 2 @ 5:04 PM |
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mailorderannie
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By the way, the only way a guy closes the majority of all doors is if you have cheated
SOOOOOOO not true.
And I've hit my head on that door until its bruised and bloody. Sometimes you just have to shake your head and walk away. Period. end of story.
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| Mar 2 @ 5:08 PM |
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Gman762
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Gotta go with friends and family first. Your best friends will always be there for you, no matter what.
Find something to occupy the time that you normally spent with that person...a new hobby, a new pet, etc.
It's tough and it's hits everyone differently. If there is a will there is a way however. Learn from that experience and move on with your life :)
Good luck
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| Mar 2 @ 5:16 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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SOOOOOOO not true.
And I've hit my head on that door until its bruised and bloody. Sometimes you just have to shake your head and walk away. Period. end of story.
Notice the word "majority." "Majority" was placed there for a reason.
Truth be told:
EVERY woman knows whether she is being made love to, just having sex, or being f***ed like a complete whore. A cheater, if allowed back in, knows the difference and is powerless to stop it. Reason is because in the guys mind is the act that you have committed with someone else. That is the shame or lifestyle that you the female chooses to live with. As much as you will be willing to be the perfect woman after screwing up, it won't work. God's honest truth is that you are a whore in his eyes and that will never change, no matter WHAT he whispers to you. The social equivalent to that is a man letting you down. When he says he will be there, when everything counts and matters, and he is not. There is no forgiveness in a woman for that as there is no forgiveness in a man for a cheater.
For all those who have just faced the shock of reality, understand what you have read, take it as a lesson, and now move on without those loose ends you have been carrying. Nothing is better that the fresh air of understanding, and that is all the OP was looking for. 
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| Mar 2 @ 5:24 PM |
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mailorderannie
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For all those who have just faced the shock of reality, understand what you have read, take it as a lesson, and now move on without those loose ends you have been carrying. Nothing is better that the fresh air of understanding, and that is all the OP was looking for.
And that's exactly the type of advice she was given, until you came in and said to continue communicating.
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| Mar 2 @ 5:31 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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Show me the understanding, please. I have read the entire page multiple times before answering and failed to see any understanding. I have seen temporary solutions, but no understanding anywhere, in fact, the OP never even stated if she came to any. How is she so sure that it is over, and why? The only understanding that was stated was the cheaters understanding. Where does it say that the OP cheated?
Go reread and come to me with a better answer please...by the way, remember that the issue is not yours as what you may have encountered, it is that of the OP.
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| Mar 2 @ 5:49 PM |
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mailorderannie
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I think the point that most of us were trying to make, based upon the OP's lack of explination is that you just move on the best you can. We aren't always given reasons, nor the opportunity to find out why the relationship failed.
I got the impression from your post that you were advising for her to continue communicating...I was just pointing out that's not always an option.
As for the issue of cheating, you brought that up, and I felt the need to tell you that's not always the case.
Each of us gets closure and understanding from different sources. In a perfect world, we would get the opportunity to sit down and discuss the why's, but that doesn't always happen. Sometimes we have to process it all with what information we have, and do the best we can. That was the advice people were giving the OP
Good conversation though!
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| Mar 2 @ 7:50 PM |
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emptypages
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just deal with the pain. No pain, no gain.
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| Mar 2 @ 7:58 PM |
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loisday
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[QUOTE] Each of us gets closure and understanding from different sources[QUOTE]
That is so true, Annie.
Sometimes we don't even want closure.............we just want OUT!!!!!
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