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Dukums
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Between being willing to work on a relationship and trying to make it work when it is not meant to work?
As we all know, relationships are not easy. There are two individuals with different personalities, ethics, personal histories and expectations. It takes work on both parties to meld into a "couple". Yet there are just some instances where the differences are too vast and you are trying to put a square peg into a round hole? Where do you draw the line or discern when it is just a need to work something out or whether or not it is just not a good match?
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| Mar 8 @ 7:07 PM |
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Loreli
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When the good far outweighs the bad.
If there are children.
Then, by all means, try.
If it seems like hard work-it won't work.
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| Mar 8 @ 7:14 PM |
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SyndilLucian
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For me, it was when I found myself asking a sad version of the Ann Landers test of a relationship. She said once, in a column, would you be happier with him or without him. At the end of my marriage, the question had become, would I be more miserable with him, or without him...
When I finally realized my thinking had taken that turn, I knew it was time to leave. No one should have to go through life thinking and living that way, ever.
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| Mar 8 @ 7:33 PM |
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DipityDoo
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I think descriing the relationship as 'not easy' or as 'work' is a clue.
Sure, relationships take dedication and attention and are not to be ignored while life goes on all around you. But I wouldn't describe nurturing a relationship with the man I love, and sorting out our differences as 'work' , or our relatinship in general as 'not easy'. It's soooooo easy to be together.
I suppose there may come a time when we're in the dark, and it'll be hard to get back to the place where we are now, and in that case I imagine I'll still be able to feel the love I have for him. When I feel nothing...no more anger, no more resentment, when I'm dead inside.....then I know it can't work anymore.
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| Mar 8 @ 7:42 PM |
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jamminjerry
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i have one solid line drawn but, i am not a fool. i have this big eraser hid behind the shed. LOL that line is, she must posess the pearl i seek. but as i said, i am not a fool.
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| Mar 8 @ 10:40 PM |
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Jalon
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This isn't an easy one and can vary vastly from person to person, situation to situation.
For me, if I find we're hurting one another (intentionally or not) by trying to make things work, then it's time to go. If we're holding each other back from fulfillment, peace of mind or personal growth, then it's time to go.
Sometimes it's just a matter of not being in the same place at the same time, and sometimes it's that you were worlds apart the entire time. I think only time can truly discern the difference.
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| Mar 12 @ 6:56 PM |
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jaybird777
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Everbody gotter follow their own compass
When ya get enough, ya'll know its time.
I got me divorciserized in 1986. After I done it alla my friends was saying "Bout time, we thought you'd never wake up an smell the coffee" THey was all wondering how long I was gonna stick it, but never tried to tell me.
Which is well, cause ya can't tell nobody anyhow.
You just gotter play the way you feel it.
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| Mar 12 @ 7:03 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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You just gotter play the way you feel it.
And this my friends, is our motto for the day. 
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| Mar 12 @ 8:51 PM |
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signme
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I've drawn the line tonight. My ex and I have supposedly been friends and were trying to make things work but he left me a phone message that was rude and totally uncalled for. I can't think of a thing I've said to him in the past several months that would provoke the message he left. So the line is drawn, I am not his friend anymore and I do not wish to even talk on the phone.
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| Mar 12 @ 9:12 PM |
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DJ1024
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when i'm more excited to get away from him than i am to be w/him
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| Mar 12 @ 10:35 PM |
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dooney123
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When you think of the relationship as work.
Relationships do take attention and focus, but good relationships don't feel like work. My current relationship is very easy and doesn't require any work. Everything is just right. It's much harder to be apart from each other than to be together.
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| Mar 12 @ 10:45 PM |
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drs297
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when any possible thoughts of drawing lines comes to me
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| Mar 13 @ 10:11 AM |
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debbz32
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I agree with Drs. If I am thinking about lines - its time for me to go
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| Mar 13 @ 12:35 PM |
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Skydognc
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I guess, when you come to a point of knowing, you have done all you can, given every psart of yourself,
and it isnt good enough!
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| Mar 13 @ 12:40 PM |
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madamegeek
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..."When you think of the relationship as work."
Dooney...truer words have never been said on this topic.I will remember this! Thank you!
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| Mar 14 @ 4:04 AM |
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JesterDrawers
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Good thoughts from all.....seems like everyone is pretty much on the same wavelength on this one.
I just have one simple question for the OP:
Yet there are just some instances where the differences are too vast and you are trying to put a square peg into a round hole? Where'd you get a square peg?!?!?!?!?!?  
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| Mar 14 @ 7:29 AM |
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madamegeek
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First of all, her name would have to be "Margaret" 
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| Mar 15 @ 10:53 AM |
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robodad
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HERE is where you draw the line 
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| Mar 16 @ 6:12 PM |
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blueyes101
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put a square peg into a round hole?
I was thinking those very same words... So, if it don't fit, don't force it.
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| Mar 16 @ 6:26 PM |
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pamdemonium
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It's hard to give up, sometimes. 
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