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twotall911
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be positive and a little negative 
Hey mom maybe we should send her the renta man
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| Mar 26 @ 9:41 AM |
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Mischief484
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Boy. This thread sure turned into a pissin' match.
Swinging this thing back on topic as deftly as I can:
Can we all agree that safe sex is imperative, especially in the early stages of a relationship?
Hard hats. Steel toe boots. And lots of leather.
Hoo ahh.
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| Mar 26 @ 9:53 AM |
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DiamondRain
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HONK HONK! 
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| Mar 26 @ 9:58 AM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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...Back on topic, most decent men do not screw around with anything and everything, while waiting on the one that is forever plus one day. But of course, like everyone else, mistakes are made in thinking there was that potential, which gives Nah's, Loreli's and even my post a bunch of relevance in the real world
But I will amend that to say most decent people do not screw around while looking for our forever and a day.
Decent...not decent... It's just not for me to judge someone else.
Now if or when the time comes for me to have a relationship with them....THEN I'm in the position to protect myself.
But amen...many of us choose not to screw around. I am willing to wait. (and wait and wait  ) I would rather have it be GOOD for a long time, than flipping wild for one night. (And if in a good relationship, I really do believe it can be flippin wild on a regular basis)
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| Mar 26 @ 10:05 AM |
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Gallows_Humor
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CiW..gone wild...  ... as to the rest of this thread...  ....... 
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| Mar 26 @ 10:58 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Look, the only true safeguard against ALL STD's is complete abstinence. Condom use will stop some forms of STDs, but not all. That means no oral or genital touching (because herpes and HPV can be transmitted by physical contact, not just exchange of fluids). So unless you completely rule out all forms of sexual behavior the chances of everybody contracting at least one form of STD in their lives is pretty high.
This is simple fact, and no amount of protests about how one practices "safe" sex can dispute it. HPV seems the easiest to get and probably most common since its symptoms are so hidden. Although not life-threatening in itself, it "could" lead to cervical cancer in women. If you do get some form of STD, unless the person is maliciously targeting people just for the thrill, or from gender hate, please don't whine and contort into rage for being duped. Sexual activity can lead to such things, so be aware and take responsibility for your own actions.
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| Mar 26 @ 11:02 AM |
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SensualGemini
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CW: Decent...not decent... It's just not for me to judge someone else.
...Doesn't everyone judge another, if not but to define what their association will be, or not be?
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But amen...many of us choose not to screw around. I am willing to wait.
...After 7 years of abstention, one qualifies for either the convent, or the monastery. Yet, there has to be something sacrilegious about a heterosexual priest; sort of a monopoly with all those lonely convent graduates.
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I would rather have it be GOOD for a long time, than flipping wild for one night. (And if in a good relationship, I really do believe it can be flippin wild on a regular basis)
...Exactly! 
...Having experienced both, to settle for the one night or one week just does not remotely compare and whereas, most people will eventually understand that quantity does not equate to quality.
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...Decent, or decency is constantly evolving by what becomes socially acceptable by the masses which create our ever changing society.
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| Mar 26 @ 11:03 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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its not so std that bother. Protection and caution takes care of that. Its the moral and ethical emptiness for bed hoping. The mind f***. Til Im in a comsumated relationship. My pecker stays in my pants.
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| Mar 26 @ 11:06 AM |
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Skydognc
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well flip me to and fro !
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| Mar 26 @ 11:19 AM |
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SensualGemini
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Burns: Til Im in a comsumated relationship. My pecker stays in my pants.
...Well, that would make perfect sense...
Consummated:
1.) To complete (a marriage) with the first act of sexual intercourse after the ceremony.
2.) To fulfill (a sexual desire or attraction) especially by intercourse.
...A one night stand is a consummated relationship. For more than one religion, including over a billion Muslims, when body fluid meets body fluid, you are married. 
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| Mar 26 @ 1:19 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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SG...
.Doesn't everyone judge another, if not but to define what their association will be, or not be?
No. There are some that don't. Perhaps I do things backwards. But when (and only then) I find that I am interested in someone...that is when I take a look at their choices and how they will effect me. Otherwise, it's just not my business.
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| Mar 26 @ 1:30 PM |
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marylou
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Hi folks.....I just dont know what to say......you seem to have said it all..LOL
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| Mar 26 @ 2:07 PM |
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SensualGemini
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CW: No. There are some that don't. Perhaps I do things backwards. But when (and only then) I find that I am interested in someone...that is when I take a look at their choices and how they will effect me. Otherwise, it's just not my business.
...Well, I suppose folks could go through life as indifferent, but most seem to identify rather quickly if they want to talk to someone, like or not like, or even if that cashier seems to be a bit slower than the one in the next line over.
...I will bet that most of us can remember the best kiss, the best whatever in our past that compares to the someone in the future as well; or simply they just suk! and how would we know this?
...Maybe there is some better word to identify these comparisons we make, other than to judge ...
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| Mar 26 @ 2:23 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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pssst
http://psychology.about.com/od/loveandattraction/a/theoriesoflove.htm
Forgive the miss spelling
http://daphne.palomar.edu/psycsoc125/HSClass/keyterms/keys07.html
consummate love — when all three components of Sternberg’s theory of love are present: passion, intimacy, and commitment
http://www.geocities.com/kmwahl/Motivation/triangular.html
Key terms for
Love and the Development of Sexual Relationships
Rubin’s love scale — a 13-item measurement device designed by Zick Rubin that attempted to measure a couple’s level of attachment, caring and intimacy
attachment — a component of Rubin’s love scale that refers to a person’s desire for the physical presence and emotional support of the other person
caring — a component of Rubin’s love scale that refers to an individual’s concern for the other’s well-being
intimacy — a component of Rubin’s love scale that refers to the desire for close, confidential communication with the other
philia — love between friends, known to the ancient Greeks as philia, involves concern for the other’s well-being
passionate love — romantic love or infatuation, characterized by intense feelings of tenderness, elation, anxiety, sexual desire, and ecstasy
companionate love — characterized by a friendly affection and a deep attachment that is based on extensive familiarity with the loved one
Sternberg’s triangular theory of love — a theoretical framework for conceptualizing what people experience when they report being in love; includes the components of passion, intimacy, and commitment
nonlove — the absence of Sternberg’s three components of love; what we feel in casual relationships
friendship — what we experience when just the intimacy component of Sternberg’s theory of love is present
infatuation — what we experience when just the passion component of Sternberg’s theory of love is present
empty love — the presence of Sternberg’s love component of commitment without passion and intimacy; often characteristic of a long-term, static relationship
companionate love — the presence of Sternberg’s love components of intimacy and commitment but without passion; often characteristic of happy couples who have been together for a long time
fatuous love — the presence of Sternberg’s love components of passion and commitment but without intimacy; often characteristic of whirlwind courtships
romantic love — the presence of Sternberg’s love components of passion and intimacy but without commitment
consummate love — when all three components of Sternberg’s theory of love are present: passion, intimacy, and commitment
Lee’s styles of loving — a theory that describes six different styles of loving that include romantic, game-playing, possessive, companionate, altruistic and pragmatic love styles
phenylethylamine (PEA) — a neurotransmitter chemically similar to amphetamines that produces feelings of euphoria and giddiness
endorphins — neurotransmitters chemically similar to morphine that produce feelings of tranquillity and security
mere exposure effect — phenomena by which repeated exposure to novel stimuli tends to increase an individual’s liking for such stimuli
reciprocity — the notion that when we receive expressions of liking and loving we tend to respond in similar ways
self-love — genuine interest, concern, and respect for ourselves
inclusion — the first step a person takes in meeting another; e.g., eye contact, a smile, or a greeting
response — how a person responds to a gesture of inclusion, the nature of which will determine future contact
care — a genuine concern for another’s welfare
trust — a belief that each partner in a relationship will act consistently in ways that promote the relationship’s growth and stability, and that affirm each partner
affection — characterized by feelings of warmth and attachment, it elicits a desire to be physically close to another; usually expressed by holding hands, sitting close, hugs and caresses
playfulness — a phase in the development of intimacy where each person exhibits delight, exhilaration, and laughter in the presence of the other
genitality — sexual feelings in an intimate relationship that culminate in genital sex
jealousy — an aversive emotional reaction evoked by a real or imagined relationship involving one’s partner and a third person
Enjoy.
Toast yum
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| Mar 26 @ 2:35 PM |
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SensualGemini
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...Dang, that is a lot of reading Burns! ... Can you maybe just point to the one about consummate? 
...Oh, you did and I found it...
"consummate love — when all three components of Sternberg’s theory of love are present: passion, intimacy, and commitment "
...Uhm, which one comes first?
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| Mar 26 @ 2:40 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Doesnt matter as long as they all come together.
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| Mar 26 @ 2:45 PM |
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SensualGemini
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...So far and for most of us, they have not... that committment one seems to be rather elusive for all of us here that are single.
....This is so much easier than the political threads...
PS: Was a nice list though... thanks.
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| Mar 26 @ 4:11 PM |
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sweetsongs17
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What is Love?
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| Mar 26 @ 5:07 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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in·ti·mate 1 (nt-mt)
adj.
1. Marked by close acquaintance, association, or familiarity.
2. Relating to or indicative of one's deepest nature: intimate prayers.
3. Essential; innermost: the intimate structure of matter.
4. Marked by informality and privacy: an intimate nightclub.
5. Very personal; private: an intimate letter.
6. Of or involved in a sexual relationship.
n.
Burns I can see where the use of the word consummate might be thought of in one light but to a lot of folks intimacy INCLUDES sex .. not trying to start trouble but maybe letting you know why I can see the other side of the consummate coin k?
Burns: Til Im in a comsumated relationship. My pecker stays in my pants.
um by the definition I gave if you have consummated the relationship you have already let yer pecker out 
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| Mar 26 @ 6:04 PM |
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katydid438
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Becky
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