| Dec 23, 2005 @ 11:01 AM |
Is it just me or do you find the older you get,the pickier you get?
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soultry_one
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You'd think I'd be more desperate,but i just don't have the patience anymore to take bs. Hope I'm not turning into a bitter old hag. 
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 11:39 AM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Waiting?
Is that you?
We miss you, girl!
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 12:44 PM |
Is it just me or do you find the older you get,the pickier you get?
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Picky?..not I...I just take it one day at a time..cause I knows the *One* for me is out there...he just be playin` hard to get.. 
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 12:50 PM |
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spongebob777
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In some ways Ive become pickier and in other ways Ive become less picky. I guess I'm more picky today about finding intelligence and someone who mentally stimulates me.
Physically Ive become much less picky.
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 12:57 PM |
Is it just me or do you find the older you get,the pickier you get?
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soultry_one
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I'm too old for drama. If i think there's gonna be,i RUN! Right off the bat.
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 12:58 PM |
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waiting41
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 Nope Classy that ones not but you may want to say Merry Christmas on LJs thread.........it was a nice gesture of him!! Great to be back!! 
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 12:59 PM |
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spongebob777
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I'm too old for drama.
Oh man, no kidding. If there's going to be drama I'm going to run screaming in the other direction. These days I prefer comfort over drama everytime.
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 1:24 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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OMG!!!!
Waiting! I am so glad you came back. Things just haven't been the same around here w/out your thought-provoking threads. Missed you, girl! 
LJ's thread? I think I missed it. Thanks.
Spongecakes,
It's nice to hear that a man looks beyond the body, and focuses on the mind. Refreshing. (Especially after my 'warts' post).
Now that I know this isn't Waiting, I'll answer.
I'm very set in my ways. I'm sure it did come w/ age. As I have grown older, the days grow more precious. I have no time to settle.
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 10:03 PM |
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Angel54214
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It's nice to hear that a man looks beyond the body, and focuses on the mind.
I dunno about that...Spongy afta my dimples fa sure...
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 10:08 PM |
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spongebob777
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(Especially after my 'warts' post).
Hmm musta missed that one, think I'll mosey over there n check it out.
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 10:40 PM |
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Talonz59
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I have to agree, the "no drama" line is pretty much the standing order. For myself as I got older and more comfortable in my own skin, the less concerned about being alone I became. I guess over time I had learned that the fear of being alone often led to a lot of bad choices and that these weren't healthy choices for me. Let's face it, as we get older we just realize what types of personalities are compatible to our own and finding those personalities becomes rarer as time passes. But life is a journey, and if you don't try and control it too much...the right things will happen in due time.
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 11:12 PM |
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Angel54214
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Talon..yes, you are so right! I just a few years ahead of you and been single since '85 by choice due to advancement in schooling and raising my children.
But you know something? Its all in growing and learning about ourselves as individuals. We change for the better because thats what its suppose to be all about. Once we find that special person we were given maybe one last chance at, then we must know how to hold on, make it real, make it last inspite of all the differences and social stamina. My sister and her husband when they married, went to a special school camp. They learned how to get along and how to handle all the obstacles that hit at an instance notice. I watched how they treated each other and how they did problem solving. It was great! They never did fight or loose their tempers with each other. Its education and communication to keep the hearts beating at the same tempo regardless if they were apart working or together making dinner.
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 11:16 PM |
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Talonz59
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Its all in growing and learning about ourselves as individuals
Bravo!
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 11:17 PM |
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spongebob777
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I guess over time I had learned that the fear of being alone often led to a lot of bad choices and that these weren't healthy choices for me.
I could have written exactly that. My marriage was something I did out of loneliness. Oddly enough I married a woman who wanted a man who could be seen and not heard and I hit rock bottom in the loneliness department even surrounded by my "wife" and her 3 kids.
These days I'm still lonely but that doesn't make me an unhappy person.
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 11:23 PM |
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Angel54214
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I was kind of in the same situation when I was married. Except he was an alcoholic. Yup, I was abused. It took a few years for me to develop strength, self esteem and look in the mirror to say I was a beautiful person.
I come a long ways, and its behind me now about 26 years. Don't want anyone thinking its baggage, its been so long now and I look at life and grab on. Most of all I learned what love isnt vs. what love is.
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 11:32 PM |
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wandaful123
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I think with age comes wisdom, and as we grow older as some have already said we get to know our selves a little better. We also get a better understanding of human nature and what is and is not acceptable in our daily lives. We learn we cannot change others into what we think they should be or "could be". As we get older perhaps we are looking for someone who will compliment our lives rather than fill them.
I found myself on far too many occasions in the past being in relationships with men I knew I would never marry. It took a long time to realize that I was in relationships for the sake of not being alone. I find myself now trying (although not always successfully) to focus more on working on myself and the person I want to become, rather than trying to find someone to fill the void.
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| Dec 23, 2005 @ 11:32 PM |
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wandaful123
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Ps... welcome back waiting, nice to see you!
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| Dec 24, 2005 @ 1:17 AM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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I think with age comes wisdom
Wanda, you said it!!!  Therefore, I don't find myself pickier, I find myself wiser!!!!!! 
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| Dec 24, 2005 @ 2:29 AM |
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grumblebear
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I find that the longer I've stayed alone... the less likely I was to desire any type of relationship...
and my B.S. detector has a very low tolerance anymore....
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| Dec 24, 2005 @ 10:50 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 I spent nine years alone raising my four kids...didn`t desire a relationship then but I do now (even if its wiff my trusty banana)
and I`m not at all picky even though I`m older..I have never changed my thoughts on what it is I`m looking for in a man...
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