| Dec 25, 2005 @ 12:07 AM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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Angel thanks for having faith lol. Its ok though I never expect anything to come out of meeting someone, I just look for friends and hey if that doesn't happen then so be it. No loss. 
*AsH
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 1:09 AM |
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lookin4netpal
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I met a guy from online, not this site, though--and we dated for about a year. The problem was (in my opinion obviously, I mean, there are always two sides to anything) when it came to relocating. I was up-front that I had NO intention of leaving Florida, and he was at first dead-set in me moving to PA. Well, we were at a crossroads. So then, he suddenly did an about-face and said he would love to move to Florida for the change of pace and scenery and stuff. I asked him over and over--"you sure about this? I mean, you were realllllllly against it." He said he was sure--so he packed up and moved down here with me. Mistake!!! From day one, he begged me to move with him back to PA--he was miserable from the start. Maybe he never gave it a chance, I dunno. But it was making me miserable, too. Finally, I inherited a house here--and he realized there was no "changing" me LOL So he moved home. I don't know if the --online factor-- had anything to do with the meltdown, but I do know that I am pretty wary of online dating now! HAHAHA
--Cookie 
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 10:50 AM |
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mangolover60
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Okay, time for me to fess up. I hope all of you had a merry holiday.
Over the years, even before dating sites, I started with a date over a personals newsgroup. (I'm dating myself  ) I've had a number of meetings (dates?). It's kind of strange. I can (and have) chase and work on a woman in person for years and get nowhere with her. And then I get an internet date, and wham! We are off and running.
Three first meetings ended up in bed. Two first meetings led to second dates and in bed. One landed in bed after three meetings. And one first meeting I just said no. Another first meeting, I still see her around, but we are just friends and neighboors (I think much to her dissapointment).
Now the thing that seems curious to me, is that most of my internet dates lead to sex relatively quickly and subsequent relationships, but I see most of the posts from women, minus the horror stories, just saying that they go home, and maybe had another date or so, but goes nowhere.
Makes me think, was I really dating guys? 
[Edited on 12/26/2005 12:46 PM]
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 1:38 PM |
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sciurusniger
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I started with a date over a personals newsgroup...most of my internet dates lead to sex relatively quickly....
Makes me think, was I really dating guys?
Makes me think you were using one of those "find a sex partner tonight!" kind of newsgroup. 
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 2:05 PM |
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mangolover60
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Makes me think you were using one of those "find a sex partner tonight!" kind of newsgroup
I know you're joking, but.. Not so. They were just normal personals. Really.
Anyway, just wondering.
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 2:29 PM |
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MedNurse
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[QUOTE]
You were talking about pickles....right? 
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 8:35 AM |
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VictoriaSecBabe
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I had my first matchdoctor date yesterday or i thought was going to be. We had chatted online and talked on the phone for over a week. He lived in the same area. We made plans to meet at this restaurant here. He said call me, i did at one o'clock said were on, ill call you back at 4;30. Well 4;30 comes no call, no email message, nothing. So i went to the movies and meet my girlfriends later for dinner. I have three rules which i go by:
1. You need to understand that he or she has a right to abandon the date. You do not own her nor should you have had any expectations. Yes I realize that it was extremely rude but still yet, you should not take rejection personally.
2. Be honest with yourself in realizing that your anger over this rejection is related to your need for gratification from another person, which is wrong. Be confident in that you can move on, do better, and find someone less flaky.
3. Instead of getting all bent out of shape and spending the night mad, use the experience as a spring board to have a good time that same night. And, do not call her back to argue or leave hateful messages. Let it go. You are above such actions.
I would love to hear any input that anybody has on this.
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 9:20 AM |
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walkingman
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I am sorry VictoriaSec babe to hear what happened to you. I think you make some very good point's. I never put any expectation's on a first meeting. there are nice people out there. It's a matter of meeting them. That guy stood you up and then got mad at you. That's reallly sad. I have had women I was not into send me hatefull e-mail. They need to grow up. I think to many people on here treat online dating as just a game. I had a friend tell me she knew people who set up meeting's online with people and never planned to meet them. they did it for the fun of it. That is just cruel but some people are just that way. Just see it as a learning experience and forget it. You have the right view on this online dating.
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 10:29 AM |
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Greystone1
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Be confident in that you can move on, do better, and find someone less flaky.
Congratulations. You got lucky. You found out how flaky he was the relatively painless easy way. Had he shown up, it could have taken several dates to figure that out, and could have been much more painful.
Yep, time to move on and do better.
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 10:34 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 Life goes on...move on..theres more then one fish err man in da sea..I`ve met plenty..nothing ever came of them..but I`m not giving up just yet
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 11:32 AM |
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sciurusniger
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I know you're joking, but.. Not so. They were just normal personals. Really.
Anyway, just wondering.
Mango, instant intimacy is one of the pitfalls of the internet. It's much easier to bare your soul to a stranger electronically than it is to do so face to face. So depending on the type and quantity of communication that takes place before a meeting in person, there could well have been perceptions or "expectations" of compatability that led to quick sex. Of course, without having put in any real face-time, if the compatability really doesn't exist, the relationship won't continue.
Just something to think about.
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| Jan 2, 2006 @ 6:18 PM |
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TAINQ
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Since I have been on this site appr 1 year I have had many first dates, with very few dissasters or dissapointments. I have made many friends and still keep in contact, although there aren't any romantic feelings. My first date from an on-line site led to marriage (on a different site and ten years ago), My second (and first on this site) ended with a broken heart, lasted eight months, My third, got tired of the wanabe player after two months. Currently exploring the possibilities, one month.
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| Jan 31, 2006 @ 5:02 PM |
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grumblebear
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I've noticed that anytime a first date has "Instanat Intimacy" the meeting ruins any future, or long term potential...
I had a first meeting with a lady from another site a few years ago...
We decided to meet and shoot pool at a local pool hall, when I arrived, she had gotten there ahead of time, and she was playing pool with some other people. No big deal to me, but when she beat the guy, and asked for the money she had been wagering with him, he refused to pay her... she pulled a gun, and threatened him... at that moment I decided to leave...
I'm not a shy retiring wallflower type, but when you watch a someone pull a gun over a 2 dollar pool game, it takes the fun out of the evening...
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| Jan 31, 2006 @ 5:13 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 Wow Grumble a gun...lucky you walked in and seen that...what if sometime during the date she would have gotten mad at you and pulled that out..scary
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| Jan 31, 2006 @ 5:42 PM |
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TAINQ
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I feel for you grumble, but man, that was funnnnnnnnny......
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| Jan 31, 2006 @ 7:51 PM |
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flecjill
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of the two guys I've met on here... I haven't seen or talked to them since the meeting. one lied about his lifestyle, looked nothing like any of his photos, and pressured me for sex when I told him from the start I did not want to have sex with a stranger...then he got pissed and told me I was lucky he wasn't the type of guy who raped girls. The second... I was into meeting for just friends only, well he looked nothing like his pictures, lied about how every woman he has met from online went on and on about how attractive he was, when in truth he was fat, had nasty teeth, reeked of flea market cologne,and made terrible jokes.
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| Jan 31, 2006 @ 7:55 PM |
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2Biatchy4U
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I'm not a shy retiring wallflower type, but when you watch a someone pull a gun over a 2 dollar pool game, it takes the fun out of the evening... ^ Daymn
Flec.. sorry to hear you have had bad experiences with online dating
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| Jan 31, 2006 @ 9:16 PM |
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bevrice
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Lol, have met lots of them, most have lied about their age or have pictures that are twenty years old, wouldn't even have recognized them,
AWWWW, but I had a date this afternoon, wow, could be Julio Iglesias twin, mmmm, real nice kisser, and wow what a looker. He wants to go out again, but not sure I trust myself with him, lol.
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| Jan 31, 2006 @ 9:42 PM |
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T_i_m
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Quote (grumblebear)
When you watch someone pull a gun over a 2 dollar pool game, it takes the fun out of the evening.
I have text chatted with 2 (or was it 3) women on Yahoo who said they keep a loaded gun with them.
Since then, I casually bring up the subject if I chat with someone I think I might like to meet. If they say they pack heat, I am history.
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| Jan 31, 2006 @ 9:52 PM |
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Angel54214
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Wow how scary you guys! a gun, thats a no normal frame of mind. I don't even own one or would own one. Thats too extreme and its definetly not right. Taking precautions on first meets are a must for safety, but no one is going to war on a first meet right? Its suppose to be fun and enjoyable.
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