| Mar 20 @ 12:54 AM |
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youbetcha
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Do you avoid or face confrontaion?
My answer is I face it and I confront when I believe it's necessary, but as kindly as I can muster up in the moment 
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| Mar 20 @ 1:22 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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It depends on what Im standing up for or against.
Is the out come gona be worth the effort?
Sometimes biting your lips is the best route.
But where do you draw the line is up to you.
Spit it if it making your mouth water.
Not one for emotional hand holding. It makes me uncomfortable. True as I possibly can.
Good luck brother.
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| Mar 20 @ 1:33 AM |
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youbetcha
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Yeah, I agree. Like I said, when I believe it's necessary, I will confront, but I will more likely than not face it when I'm being confronted. I've just noticed a lot of people won't face confrontation or confront themselves very often.
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| Mar 20 @ 1:41 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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I will more likely than not face it when I'm being confronted In that case, I knock it the f*** down. Fast and fearsome. Its a dance I dont like prolonging any long then one has to. The quickest route to any end is a straight line.
They dont. I agree. Was just thinking the other day, when did standing up for right or agaisnt wrong, become unpc?
It sad that not only does it happen less, but when one does the get reprmained by others for it. Possibly this is one reason for its absence. Its hard enough to chest up, but shouldering the blindsides can break a person.
Im to thick. lol
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| Mar 20 @ 8:29 AM |
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SaintBacon
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My tendancy is to face it head-on and deal with it at the moment. I hate having something come back to bite me in the butt later on. But as I get older, I have begun to evaluate whether the situation is worth the effort. Some confrontations are so ridiculous that it's easier and more prudent to just turn around and walk away. I know people who will stage a confrontation just for their own amusement. If I feel that is the case, then I just blow them off and move on.
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| Mar 20 @ 8:38 AM |
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Loreli
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I agree with Saint. 
And Burns, too! 
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| Mar 20 @ 10:15 AM |
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Jalon
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There are people I won't confront because I know that it is only fuel for their dramatic nature. So yes, sometimes it's more energy than it's worth.
When I do need to confront someone (or some situation) I do my best to state it simply, respectfully and in an even tone. I don't always succeed but at least I gave it my true effort!
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| Mar 20 @ 11:52 AM |
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Snappygoddess
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I tend to choose my battles wisely....some things just aren't worth the energy while other things have to be faced and dealt with.
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| Mar 20 @ 12:07 PM |
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drs297
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I'm not confrontational at all. big wuss
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| Mar 20 @ 12:27 PM |
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pamdemonium
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I don't like it - - and can be pushed only so far, before I burst. And then, it's every man for himself.
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| Mar 20 @ 1:07 PM |
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nah12
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it's amazing how some think just because it is an issue that they have they think it needs confronting....
take religion for example: lets say one feels it is their job to confront everyone and push their ideas/beliefs on others..... but when they are told it's their right to believe as they chose that the other person doesn't discuss religion and not everyone agrees with them that it is a personal choice..... the 1st person keeps pushing and telling the other they are stupid and need to read, change their beliefs and when in truth they don't know the first thing about the others beliefs or preferences.......
now that was an example it could be about politics, what beer is best, breast feeding in public, color of shoes or etc.
SO is that a confrontation or is it control issues or no respect for another’s choice of what they care to discuss or expose about ones beliefs, life or whatever.......you pick... Who gets to decide what needs to be confronted with another person? Is that meeting confrontation head on, creating it or what?
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| Mar 20 @ 1:20 PM |
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youbetcha
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nah, that's a good question. I realize now that I have a much higher threshold for conflict than most people and my buzzer doesn't usually go off before their's does, so I have been accused of being a controller at times when all I think I am doing is continuing the conversation
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| Mar 20 @ 1:41 PM |
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nah12
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So only one person gets to decide what is to be a discussion/confrontation? Should it not be both?
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| Mar 20 @ 2:19 PM |
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pamdemonium
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Sure, nah...that's how confrontations start...always an offended party.
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| Mar 20 @ 2:36 PM |
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Bluebonnet72
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It depends on whom I have in front of me.
With intelligent people I like to have a confrontation even if we have different opinions
......with stupids I give up 
In the past I was very very very shy and I didn't look for a confrontation and I was used to say what people would like to listen to
Now I have changed a lot and I prefer telling what I think and being honest 
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| Mar 20 @ 3:59 PM |
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marylou
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I only confront people when I have to....otherwise I wont waste my time or energy.
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| Mar 20 @ 7:12 PM |
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signme
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I'm with Marylou, only when I have to. My ex told me he did not like confrontations of any kind, yet he's the one who initiated the 2 that broke us up. Go figure! 
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| Mar 21 @ 1:08 AM |
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youbetcha
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So only one person gets to decide what is to be a discussion/confrontation? Should it not be both?
It depends on the topic and who the person is
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| Mar 21 @ 4:05 AM |
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nah12
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It depends on the topic and who the person is
 wrong answer for anyone with a mind of their own.... if someone thinks they have a right to my beliefs or my thoughts that i chose not to reveal it'll be a cold day in hell before they get an answer out of me.....i don't have to answer anything i don't want to period/end of subject......... 
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| Mar 21 @ 4:58 AM |
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SensualGemini
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pam: Sure, nah...that's how confrontations start...always an offended party.
... sometimes, you do make sense to me... either I am slow, or you are just to fast!
Confrontation is not always easy to identify before you are innocently in one.
...With some people, it is like walking on egg shells all of the time and you don't know what is going to trip their switch from day to day.
...Others banter non-stop and unless you know them well, there is no way to know what subject is off-bounds until they explode.
...And no matter what, some folks have to be right and seldom, if ever apologize, as they can somehow reason how they were partially right and no need to.
...I guess it all boils down to whether one wants to be right, or be happy. Is it going to be important this time next year or not? And do we even want to assocaite with this type of person?
...Sometimes, we cannot avoid confrontation, but we normally can and for those we cannot walk away from, Grandpa always said to "just shoot them and you don't have to screw around with them tomorrow."
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