| Dec 24, 2005 @ 12:26 AM |
"don't hate the player, hate the game"
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ohbobcat
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is that how the quote goes? i forget...
anyway, what motivates guys to be players when they have a great girlfriend?
guys, please share your thoughts. seriously.
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| Dec 24, 2005 @ 12:51 AM |
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Silvertongue62
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The same thing that motivates women to be players. It's different for everyone who thinks they are a slickster. Each individuals situation is different.
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| Dec 24, 2005 @ 2:34 AM |
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grumblebear
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I think its simpler than people want to admit,,,
"we want the forbidden fruit, what we have in our grasp loses its luster, and we crave a new exciting change"
kind of like the 2 yo who wants what Mom won't give him....
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| Dec 24, 2005 @ 2:50 AM |
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Silvertongue62
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And I agree with you grumblebear, But the difference is those who act on those impulses and those who dont. It all comes down to a choice.
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| Dec 24, 2005 @ 3:45 PM |
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dark_moon
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The lines get kinda blurred, but to be more accurate what you describe is a cheater, not a player.
One cause for cheating is... Some people are so afraid of losing the one they have that they line up a reserve...or two...or three. And it is their problem not yours.
There are many other reasons. But the reasons don't matter. Who wants a cheater.
A player is more someone who doesn't commit enough to have a great girlfriend TO cheat on. Some are honest about what they do, some aren't.
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| Dec 24, 2005 @ 3:48 PM |
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toopreciousforwords
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oh my friend says that quote all the time when she wants to act all tough....haha lol 
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| Dec 24, 2005 @ 4:33 PM |
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RAKS37
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I'm thinking
and I can't really get any sense out of the quote
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| Dec 24, 2005 @ 5:00 PM |
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swingpup
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Variety has always been the spice of life. Sexsational pleasures as well as a zest for the unknown. 
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| Dec 24, 2005 @ 5:47 PM |
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chinabull2000
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I always say "better the devil you know....", and besides, I wouldn't be with a woman if I felt the urge to cheat on her, because if it got to that stage then the erlationship has already died. Sure I will always find some other women attractive, maybe even fantasize, but never consider it as a possibility if I am in happy relationship.
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 12:46 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Running from partner to partner is about lack of commitment.
Why do men and women cheat? There are a thousand manifestations but really only one reason, people are incapable of sustained monogamy. They live for the conquest and the transient. Sometimes it’s just a phase and people mature emotionally enough to understand the limitations and destructiveness of the behavior, others never “get” it.
The problem is not to cure or fix these people (unless you’re a bonafide relationship therapist, don’t even try), but to identify and avoid them.
What continually amazes me is how blind some people are and get consistently burned?
Is it REALLY that difficult to spot men or women that like to sleep around? Do some people really need to things like this tattooed on someone’s forehead?
Sheesh! 
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 1:03 AM |
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waiting41
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 Do you HAVE to keep throwing this in my face?? Can't you just let it go? I told you I will get over the fact that you slept with all those other woman. WHY MUST you keep bringing it up and taunting me like this? 
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 1:15 AM |
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MotownManiax
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 Waiting, I told you to please stay in the bedroom...I'll be there in a minute...sheesh???
I know you can't get enough of me and all, but, geez, a guy's gotta come up for air and breathe once in awhile???
Ok, I'm almost finished catching up on all my posts so yu get that fine little azz back in bed and I'll be there in a minute. Oh, and remember, I get to wear the gorilla suit this time.
(She likes Tarzan role-playing, bless her heart )
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 1:18 AM |
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lookin4netpal
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HAHAHAHAHA man, that tattoo should be a requirement.....two options, cheat or no-cheat LOL I luv it.
--Cookie 
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 1:26 AM |
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MotownManiax
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That would certainly simplify things, lookin...lol.
Thx for your support. 
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 2:05 AM |
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Angel54214
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That would neat to have the "auto stamp"...member required to fill out profile status...if checked married or in a relationship, the uploaded photo will have auto stamp 2xmer, if no photo loaded, the faceless pic will have it also.
If status changes like divorce, widowed, etc. then status can be changed by request to date site for approval and new stamp appears with approval non-2xmer
Neat idea? 
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 9:36 PM |
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Silvertongue62
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The lines get kinda blurred, but to be more accurate what you describe is a cheater, not a player.
The lines dont get blurred.
There's right
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There's wrong
Keep it simple!
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 5:46 AM |
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Mischief484
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Exactly what is the problem people have with those of us who, for one reason or another, have decided to have a little fun while we're still young enough to do so?
If and when I meet someone I can't live without, I'll settle down. Until then, sit down, buckle up and keep your hands in the car at all times. It's gonna be a helluva ride.
There's another saying that I'm much more fond of: If you don't have fun, it's your own damned fault.
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 6:15 AM |
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sthyank
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Mischief,
It's not the people who are honest about it that bother me. If a man (or woman) has been honest about their desire to 'play the field', then their dates only have themselves to blame if they get hurt by that behavior, IMO. You being honest means a woman can avoid that if she chooses. It's the people who try to convince others they want commitment, but really don't, who are the crazy-makers. 
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 8:12 AM |
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walkingman
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I think one goe's with the other. Some people just lie so much that they begin to see it as the truth. It become's natural for them .It is fairly easy to spot people who are that way. I agree that the best bet is just not date that kind. Player is such a vague term but the these people are just not honest with themselve's and their fore can't be honest to the people they date.
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 8:23 AM |
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Silvertongue62
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Jeff and mischief are correct. The first thing most cant do is be honest with themselves. They lie from the beginning. Read their profiles and look at their actions.
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