| Apr 4, 2008 @ 9:12 PM |
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youbetcha
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OK, I live in a real isolate rural area that has a very high cost of living and low job opportunities. It's a small little city in country desert setting surrounded by magnificent mountains on both sides. The nearest city with a Wal-Mart and Home Depot or Lowes is 2-1/2 hours away and it is nothing exciting at all. If you go 3 hours north or south it gets you into normal cities and towns, then 3-1/2 to 4-1/2 hours gets you to Reno or LA. Besides the setting, the other main benefits are clean air and water and no traffic except on weekends when the vacationers arrive or drive through.
Because living here is so isolated, there is now way I am going to find someone within 50 miles of here and there's no way I could expect someone to want to move here. It might happen, but I'm certainly not counting on it.
What's a guy to do with so many people looking for someone within 50 miles?
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 9:15 PM |
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Savannah1953
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Speaking for myself, for me to relocate would mean giving up my job. That would mean my dependence on another person..
that is not acceptable.. not now, not ever..
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 9:22 PM |
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youbetcha
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Savannah, it's not just the job situation, there's also family and friends to contend with  I'm personally not hampered by those things. I have am skilled in a journeman trade and the only family here are my soon to be former in-laws. The thing is, who wants a guy moving to their area just to date them? And why would I take that kind of a risk on someone I don't know well enough?
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 9:51 PM |
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Loreli
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Well, you spend some time and GET to know someone!! 
*oops, typo
[Edited on 4/4/2008 10:48 PM]
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 9:54 PM |
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psychmajor
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EXACTLY!
dont put the cart before the horse. get to know someone before you worry about whos moving where. when you find that special someone everything will fall into place and it wont be a matter of who moves where it will be who moves when.
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 9:57 PM |
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Savannah1953
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I had an experience with being dependent on someone.. so I tend to have knee-jerk reactions to that situation. My bad. 
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 10:01 PM |
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Jalon
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Considering you're not even divorced yet, I wouldn't worry about it! Listen to these smart ladies and don't put the cart before the horse!
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 10:02 PM |
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Savannah1953
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Hadn't looked at his profile, just saw the question.
Definitely don't have an opinion now...
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 10:02 PM |
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BandTMom
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Well, you spend some time and GET to know someone!!
It would take a little doing, but yes, I would be willing to relocate. I would have to sell my house, but as a nurse, I can get a job anywhere and my son is young enough to adapt to a move.
But because I do have a small child, it would not be a "rush-rush, maybe thing". I'd have to know it was real.
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 10:11 PM |
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Angel178
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One of the two has to be willing to relocate. If children are involved, it is all about timing, how flexable the children are (go with the flow kind of kids), and when the right time is. I would be willing to relocate, but there are a lot of factors involved.
I believe that if it is truly worth it...between the two people, all obsticals can be overcome and figured out. But, to date outside of your state, you have to know that falling for someone far away, relocating is a huge possibility, and you need to know that you might to deal with it at some time.
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 10:12 PM |
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youbetcha
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I understand taking the time to get to know someone, but really, it can't all be done on MD and a lot of people don't want to give me the time of day simply because of the distance, which I totally understand but wish there was an esy way to overcome, IKWM.
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 10:33 PM |
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CathyCRN
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JMO but...I've been where you are now....wait until you are more than just separated, get yourself together (read your profile) then find a lady to be with. You have a long way to go before you should even consider seriously dating. Give yourself time to regroup...don't rush it...JMO
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 10:40 PM |
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Savannah1953
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I am with Cathy on this one, take time to find yourself again.. when you are in a failing relationship, you tend to forget who you are...
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 10:41 PM |
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daisy315
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if my parents weren't still alive.. I would move in a heartbeat.
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 10:43 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Bro, why ya at where ya dont want to be?
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 10:48 PM |
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Savannah1953
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He hasn't found anywhere else he wants to be more.. and perhaps is hoping that someone (she) will give him a reason to not be where he is now, imho
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 11:04 PM |
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youbetcha
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This is more about how isolated of a place I live in which makes the 50 mile requirement impossible to meet for anyone, than how far along I am in my seperated and soon to be divorced life. How healed and ready I am has no bearing on how isolated of a place I live in and the challenges that creates in even making a connection with the right lady.
JFR, I am taking a fairly long drive to apply for a job in another state in the next few days. If I get that job, this will be a moot point, but that is an "if", so I started this thread 
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 11:12 PM |
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Angel178
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I'm pretty sure that he is talking about anyone "in general".
I understand what youbetcha is saying.....
I live in NJ and Sadian understands what I'm talking about when I talk about NJ and NY men....I'm sick of hearing...."how U doin,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,ha ha
Sorrry, it's a thing where I live...and I just can't meet men like that anymore....I just met a guy from our cleaning crew at my school that we call..."mafia Mike" cause he looks like one of the guys from the supranos....it is the nature of where Sadian and I live. They are nice guys....but I don't really want to deal will their "families".
So, I have looked out of state. I'm very happy!
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 11:19 PM |
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youbetcha
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Angel thanks for letting me know I'm not alone in this problem I see
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| Apr 4, 2008 @ 11:22 PM |
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beanie68
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I totally understand youbetcha ... I totally understand ...
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