| Apr 8, 2008 @ 11:29 AM |
Ever get tired of looking for love?
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Heaveninawildflower
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One may not find only one to be "in love" with but may discover they may love many in special as well as in different ways.
Only been 'in love' once, but there've been a few along the way that I've loved, including the very special man in my life now. Forever? One day at a time can make a lifetime....
p.s. but I went through a gazillion first dates before I found this one, and yes, it gets to be very tiresome. It was a couple of years between 'keepers'.
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| Apr 8, 2008 @ 12:13 PM |
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ladros
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yea when it about forty below and i cant get parts for the furnace till the next day, taking off all those layers of warm cloths can get a little tiresome
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| Apr 8, 2008 @ 1:28 PM |
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youbetcha
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There's a saying that is more often true than not..."You get what you pay for":..to get to the best you have to go through the worst. I HATE rejection so much that I become whimped out after a little too much of it and I have to take a break before I can dive back in. Of course I'm also one of those who haven't completed the divorce and healed from the past 26 years of marriage, so I'm a little raw to begin with 
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| Apr 8, 2008 @ 1:54 PM |
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marylou
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....depends on the love i suppose......some people love each other today but not tomorrow......LOL. Some ppl love each other for 5 yrs ...but not for the next 25 yrs............all different variations. We feel it shouldnt be that way.....but in many many cases it is. There are no guarantees that one will love the people they love at the start.....or how long it will last for. We are all hopeful........we would all like it to be reality and last forever......but as we know......it doesnt always......and for many many people. We dont have a crystal ball to look into the future.......to see what category we fall into. We just live in hope of the ideal. There are people of all ages who just live together as husband and wife.......because it suits them....they are in loveless marriages........but enjoy the companionship /togetherness.....they have no diesire to leave that situation.....whereas for others.........they couldnt live that way ever. Facing facts......many old men and women seem to get grumpier.....so the older we get the harder it seems to be to find someone suitable. Soooooo in the meantime.....we have to find a place of contentment........and get on with life....doing and enjoying the things that each wants to do.. Lets face it.....we could die waiting for Mr. or Mrs Right to come along........and stop living.....or loving other people. The old creaking bones and lack of money can stop some of us getting on with life and fulfilling our dreams.......however we have to learn to be content with the situation we are in........even if we dont like it........if lack of money or illness or whatever stop us from doing all the things we would like.
MAYBE........someone will come along when we least expect it....like we all know........but MAYBE NOT EITHER........and if its MAYBE NOT.........we might spend the rest of our lives WATING.....for someone who may never come along.
We also have to be content with our nature.....and personality etc. Some people are into outdoors things......some arent.....some are into all sorts of activities....dancing...etc.........others arent. We all know what we like and dont like and can do or cant do. So I feel the answer is to learn to be content to some degrees with ourselves and do what we can with what we can.
They are just my thoughts on the subject :)
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| Apr 8, 2008 @ 2:00 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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I feel the answer is to learn to be content to some degrees with ourselves and do what we can with what we can.
Good answer Marylou!! If you spend too much time thinking about what you don't have you risk losing what you do have. One of the worst things would be to find love, then realize you're not really ready for it yourself...keep becoming the person you want to be and you're a lot more likely to be ready when love finds you!
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| Apr 8, 2008 @ 2:21 PM |
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Jalon
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One of the worst things would be to find love, then realize you're not really ready for it yourself
Wise words. 
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| Apr 8, 2008 @ 2:35 PM |
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marylou
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Heaveninawildflower
.........glad you agree. Yes its about loosing what you do have or could have.....if you sit around waiting for something or someone that might not come to be.
I dont get too hung up about finding the person of my dreams.....so to speak. Its good to put yourself out there to a degree and look.......BUT.....if nothing is coming along.....it might seem disappointing....because we havent got what we want..........but then life is not always about getting what one wants. I dont think anyone should give up looking.......but the more one builds their hopes up....the huger the disappointment when it doesnt happen. I like to look at the POSITIVES........if you meet some wonderful people along the way.........both male and female..........that you have a good friendship with......or even a good aquaintanceship with.........then all is not lost........friendship and nice people are a BONUS.........that we should never take for granted.........that is how I feel.
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| Apr 8, 2008 @ 3:15 PM |
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Makya
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Perhaps, Makya, you may find dating easier after you've completed your divorce and have healed from the experience.
Jalon the problem is the only reason my divorce is not final is because of the massive fight HE is putting up. I believe my healing began even before the seperation.
Once I realized (and it took me completely stepping outside of myself to try everything possible to make it work) that this man was determined to be a married man living a single man's life, the love just began fading away until it got to the point where I just wanted to get through the day without any arguments.
I can say I still have love for him, but I hadn't been in love with him for at least a year before we seperated. If I had my way it would have been done and over with the day he left. I really don't even understand why he is holding on.
He has his own place, and has moved on, but whenever I bring up the divorce he tells me he'll think about it. I'm not sure, but I think he just likes having that one thing that I need from him. 
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| Apr 8, 2008 @ 7:06 PM |
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NawtiKitty
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I think not finding it is a good thing.
Sometimes we don't get what we want because we're really not in a place where we're ready for it to be or our actual wants and needs have changed.
I always thought I wanted a traditional love but in reviewing my life I see that it woulnd't fit well ..I'm not a traditional woman so a man who wants that "fix your dinner" kinda woman would be sorely hungry by now lol
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| Apr 8, 2008 @ 7:16 PM |
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Savannah1953
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Or perhaps, it is the last way he has to control you. If it is possible, check to see if there is a way for you to start the process. It might be that once he sees that you are serious about leaving, he may realize that it is time to let you go... jmo
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| Apr 8, 2008 @ 10:06 PM |
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Makya
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check to see if there is a way for you to start the process. It might be that once he sees that you are serious about leaving, he may realize that it is time to let you go... jmo
I think you are right Savannah. My father is helping me explore a "no fault" divorce. He told me since my husband won't give up, filing that kind of divorce would be speedier, and less costly than going back and forth with a traditional one since we have no assets together.
He said my husband won't have to agree. I pray this works.
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| Apr 9, 2008 @ 2:15 AM |
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grumblebear
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tired of Looking? lol
I quit looking years ago, Someone told me, "When you stop looking, someone will come into your life", They lied
I've been divorced since 1982, I've been involved in a couple of strange relationships since then, but nothing serious...
Sadly, I've realized after reading too many "self-help" books, and late night seminars, People are creatures of habit... the more times we repeat a behavior, the more likely we are to continue that repetition...
or to simplify...
Insanity is repeating a behavior, and expecting a different outcome...
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| Apr 9, 2008 @ 3:19 PM |
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marylou
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are any of us REALLY LOOKING in actual fact..........or are we just waiting for the perfect person.....suitable to us to fall into the palm of our hand??
.....some of us may never find...........FACT..........some will and some wont....FACT.
.....what of those of us who dont? Do we get *down* because of it.....or just go plain stupid......or get bitter or angry because of it? OR....do we proceed through life building up our relationships with people we are meeting......or those we are getting to know.........and those that we havent met yet...........and build on the lives we have......and if it happens it happens and if it doesnt it doesnt............and it wont be the end of the world if it doesnt happen.........for us women.....if we dont get a man or have sex..........we wont die from it....or the lack of it.........lol.....same sex friends can be wonderful and uplifting.........and can make us stronger....supportivewise.......just by their friendship alone.........and I am sure it is the same for men.......they can have good buddie relationships with each other.........
....it may not be what we would like.........but it changes you into a better person....
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| Apr 9, 2008 @ 4:30 PM |
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jamminjerry
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well, yeah. but, should us old folks stop looking, they will stick us in an "assisted living" kinda place. LOL as always, we be jammin
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| Apr 9, 2008 @ 6:29 PM |
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DipityDoo
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I don't know if I ever really began looking, but I can say I was tired of not having love and if I thought about it, was pretty sure I wouldn't find love. Happily, for me, I was wrong. But I know how lucky I was and think it's a shame not everyone can be that lucky.
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| Apr 13, 2008 @ 5:35 PM |
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marylou
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Jammin..........course....no harm in looking.....as long as we realise we may not always find......just because others have. That is something we must realise....and not count on it happening *one day*.....because it has for others. No harm in looking......as long as we are living also........and not spending all our time just *hoping* and cease living..........they are my thoughts.....
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| Apr 13, 2008 @ 10:58 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Ever get tired of looking for love? No not ever.
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| Apr 13, 2008 @ 11:04 PM |
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signme
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Well Burns you can look for me too then. I'm quitting for now.
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| Apr 13, 2008 @ 11:06 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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LOL problem is Signs, I have been consumed in a true love. And it was token from me. Its hard to measure up once you've loved with an Angel. Nothing close since. Nothing.
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| Apr 13, 2008 @ 11:09 PM |
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Makya
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 Sounds like a girl might spend a lifetime trying to fill those shoes.
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