| Apr 18 @ 8:14 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Yep, love breeds love, and loving friends help you to believe in yourself when you're down and out...you're right, that support network's important!
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| Apr 18 @ 8:15 PM |
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Kenn159
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This is "The Secret"
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| Apr 18 @ 8:23 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Maybe so, but it's one I found for myself over the past 25 years or so. Yes, it works but you don't need to buy a book. The most important thing is being positive, and if that doesn't come to you naturally, fake it till you make it. Daydream! Make it as real as you can - if you build it in your mind, it will come.
~~humming Daydream Believer to self ~~
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| Apr 19 @ 6:22 AM |
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Blondino
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BUDO
all the positive reinforcement in the world will not matter until one learns to love oneself despite all of the perceived negatives must learn to expect nothing and never be disappointed, Change is effected by only one
some people need help to do that Budo .... to love themself ..... so let this thread be a teacher  a lesson an example
those who can .... share with others & be a mentor
Cartay
A place for us to gather and let each other know that it's ok to feel good about yourself and what you are looking for in life. Be it in love, career or everyday life a positve attitude can make a difference.
well said girl
[Edited on 4/19/2008 6:41 AM]
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| Apr 19 @ 8:47 AM |
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DipityDoo
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I guess I can lend some postive thoughts to this thread by echoing those that have said it's when you're happy with yourself, and when you project that onto the world, that you *may* find someone. Oh, my life wasn't perfect, and still isn't, but I think I projected a happy, genuine, warm attitude toward the world which was much different than even a few years ago, when I was very depressed.
The other part is, and always will be, luck. I feel I've met one out of billions, that I've won some kind of cosmic lottery. I may have met lots of 'good' men, but it's this one that gives me that feeling. So sometimes people get frustrated and wonder what's wrong with themselves that they don't fall in love....but really, it's not them at all.....
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| Apr 19 @ 9:16 AM |
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oct_cat
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I am probably repeating someone else's post here already but simply put, thinking positive thoughts attracts the positive, negative attracts the negative. Laughter is contagious, as is smiling. If someone frowns, others follow suit. Be good, be happy, be positive . . . others of like-mind will be attracted to you. 
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| Apr 20 @ 4:56 AM |
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Redwicket
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I think that it has to start with knowing yourself Well. I also took two years just to get
to know me...didn't date at all. Now I know who I am, what I want, what I stand for, and
what it is that I really care about. All of these things are important to me, and they have
a great deal to do with my future contentment.
It has to start with you...if you don't honestly know yourself then you most certainly will
not be able to project the right energy out for what it is that you want. And, if you don't
love yourself and have become your own best friend, how in the name of all that is good
can someone else love you? By taking this time to know myself I am someone that I
like, that I am proud of, that I love...and yes I am my own best friend, I pay attention and
I work at not letting my best friend go into situations that are not good for her.
People don't seem to want to know that they have the power to change their lifes...that
means they have to take some responsibility for what happens in their life. And it
takes work, it's a commitment to yourself, but it sure as heck is worth it!
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| Apr 20 @ 10:53 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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I also took two years just to get
to know me...didn't date at all. Now I know who I am, what I want, what I stand for, and what it is that I really care about.
Good point, especially if you're getting out of a relationship with a control freak. I remember having to question everything I did - was it because I wanted to do it or out of habit because it was what he wanted. It came as a shock listening to some music one day when I realized I didn't even like it, but that was my ex's favorite station...same thing with foods and tons of other things. It was interesting, getting to know myself again (a little confusing for the kids at times...kind of like 'who is that masked woman?', but we managed to work it out).
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| Apr 20 @ 11:53 AM |
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BandTMom
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What a positive thread.
I am a firm believer in "positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative". I just choose to call it "karma".
We, ourselves individually, are the only ones with the power to change our, individually, worlds.
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| Apr 20 @ 2:30 PM |
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It has taken me a few years, but I am now at the point in my life that I am a very happy person. I think about what I do have and not what I don't have. I also do not dwell on the past. I just am happy to be where I am, having the life I have now. My life may not meet other people's standars, as it may not be where they would like to be in their life. But for me it is just great.
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| Apr 20 @ 3:57 PM |
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Bionic_Angel
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Think happy. Think of anything that makes you happy, and those endorphins kick in, and before you know it, you really ARE happy. That opens you up to all the good things around you.
Give. Give all you can in any way you can. Even if you get a slap in the face in return, keep giving, because it's the giving that's important, and the joy you get from it.
Charity. If you need it, take it gratefully, and when things are better, remember that you need to pass it along. Just do it and the world will become a better place.
And before you know it, you may find somebody on your doorstep with a bunch of flowers who'll literally sweep you off your feet...
What a lovely philosophy to share Heaven  ..... looks as though it works too!
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| Apr 20 @ 4:03 PM |
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Bionic_Angel
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Okay, so Angel, do we get special decoder rings and t-shirts?
Nice idea Makya! If we can find a Gold Member who has the technology to design them for us, that would be fun. Do you know any?
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| Apr 20 @ 4:09 PM |
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Bionic_Angel
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Yes Kenn, it is The Secret - What I find so strange is so many people live limited lives because they prefer to be "realistic" when they're actually being negative. They spend a lot of their time saying "this will never happen" and "that will never happen" and "good stuff never happens to me" and "when things are going right something always happens to bring me down"....... And they wonder why they're so dissatisfied or worst still, unhappy. This is proof that negative thinking WORKS - therefore, positive thinking and the feelings it creates in us should also work. Yet still so many people refuse to believe it. I'm really not interested in those who don't believe though - I'm willing to debate it in Blogland but this thread is for those who believe. Do you believe in The Secret Kenn? 
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| Apr 20 @ 4:11 PM |
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Bionic_Angel
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Heaven really does have it all going on! 
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| Apr 20 @ 4:11 PM |
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Bionic_Angel
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Heaven really does have it all going on!
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| Apr 20 @ 4:15 PM |
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Bionic_Angel
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some people need help to do that Budo .... to love themself ..... so let this thread be a teacher a lesson an example
those who can .... share with others & be a mentor
That's the spirit Blondino. Personally - for me, it's nice to have somewhere on this site to come when I need inspiration or to be able to pass some on. I used to get a lot from Karing's LOA blogs but she's no longer here and I miss them. To be honest, this doesn't just have to be about Love and relationships. I have a feeling it will evolve.
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| Apr 20 @ 4:24 PM |
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Bionic_Angel
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The other part is, and always will be, luck.
Dippity: I think we make our own luck. It's all part of the positive process.
The Universal Law of Attraction is all about like attracting like. It's scientific, as well as spiritual. Matter vibrates at different levels - Human beings consist of matter and therefore vibrate at a certain rate. When we are unhappy we vibrate at a lower level than when we are happy. Therefore, when we are unhappy we attract everything to us that vibrates at the same level. The same of course goes for when we're happy. Have you ever noticed how when something bad happens several other bad things follow? Alternatively, when things are going well, lots more good things follow suit. It's simple - in Lynn Grabhorn's "Excuse Me Your Life Is Waiting" it's explained thus - although this isn't a direct quote. If you have a room full of tuning forks calibrated at various different notes, if you hit the one tuned to C sharp, only the other's in the room also calibrated to C sharp would make a noise - like attracting like.
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| Apr 20 @ 4:30 PM |
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Bionic_Angel
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thinking positive thoughts attracts the positive, negative attracts the negative. Laughter is contagious, as is smiling. If someone frowns, others follow suit. Be good, be happy, be positive . . . others of like-mind will be attracted to you.
Absolutely Octcat: However, it's also about checking our thoughts. We're often negative without realising it because of conditioning. How often do we scold ourselves for dropping something or making a mistake - I for one am guilty of calling myself "an idiot" or a "stupid cow" on a number of occasions. These are petty examples but they all go towards creating a low opinion of oneself. I'm sure a lot of people find themselves thinking something must go wrong soon because life has been treating them so good. All the smiles and happy gestures towards other people in the world aren't going to help if we continue to put ourselves down on a regular basis or believe we don't deserve to be happy. By expecting to fail or things to go badly for us, that is exactly what we're confirming to the Universe - that we don't deserve anything better. Being outwardly happy helps because it lifts our spirits but what's going on on the inside is equally important.
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| Apr 20 @ 4:38 PM |
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Bionic_Angel
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I couldn't agree more Redwicket. Taking the time to get to know ourselves, who we are, what we want and changing aspects of us that are detrimental and hold us back is all important.
People don't seem to want to know that they have the power to change their lifes...that means they have to take some responsibility for what happens in their life. And it takes work, it's a commitment to yourself, but it sure as heck is worth it!
This is so true - some people might never be ready to take responsibility. It's much easier to blame everyone else around them. "If it wasn't for my boss being such a bitch I'd have been promoted by now" - "if it wasn't for my children being so demanding I'd have met someone else by now" - "if my friends made more of an effort I'd get out more". Just a few examples.
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| Apr 20 @ 4:44 PM |
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Bionic_Angel
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It came as a shock listening to some music one day when I realized I didn't even like it, but that was my ex's favorite station...same thing with foods and tons of other things
I can totally relate to this Heaven - have you been reading my diaries?  .
I moved into my new flat with the tiniest CD collection - my ex had put them aside for me to take. When I looked through them they were simply the ones he'd decided he didn't like. When he bought me a CD he just bought something he wanted. If I said I liked something he didn't I was ridiculed so in time I didn't express my interest in any particular artist. What shocked me was I actually didn't have a clue what I liked or didn't like anymore. My opinion hadn't been important until I was on my own. The first CD I bought was by Robbie Williams, who I knew my ex-husband hated - I have loved him to this day. Listening to Robbie and rebelling was my first step to becoming my own person. I still can't believe I allowed someone to control me to that extent.
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