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Are you influence by family or friends on whom you date?
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DwainP50
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What I mean by this, are they physically good enough to meet the family or friends. Do you look with their opinion in mind when searching for a mate?
For an example I am half blind and have been for a long while, so that eye is off kilter a little bit (being fix this May) but my last Ex-GF said that even though I am a really nice, sweet guy she was a little uncertain for me to meet her friends or family because it was noticeable. She said that she might get embarrass if they said something (she mention this in an email after we broke up). To me it is a non-issue because I have learned to live with it.
Does the physical attraction have to meet their standards too? 
[Edited on 4/20/2008 8:23 PM]
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| Apr 20 @ 8:22 PM |
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ThangelM8
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In a word .................NO! 
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| Apr 20 @ 8:24 PM |
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Always_Striving
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Maybe.
A few years ago my mom came to visit me and we went to a restaurant. There I saw a former co-worker and said hi to her and starting being real nice and all.
She smiled back but my mom starting getting abnoxious with her, I think that it was because she was ugly, ....see my mom usually acts that way to unattractive people.
I told her that she was just a former coworker then she starting to calm down. I think that she thought that woman was going to get me and that maybe she would have to see her son with an ugly woman.
Was mom being over-protective? Geeeze, the ugly woman can't help looking like that, she was born that way.
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| Apr 20 @ 8:31 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Yikes, I thought my mom was bad...she always called my ex 'what's his name'. Trouble with them though was that they were too much alike...
For me, kind of, but not in terms of attractiveness. After being told by one and all that I should run, not walk, instead of marrying my ex, I'm a lot more likely to listen if somebody feels strongly against someone I'm seeing. So far though, everybody think's my SO's a peachy keen guy. I think my man-picker's improved a lot over the years though.
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| Apr 20 @ 8:31 PM |
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signme
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After what Always just said, NO COMMENT!
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| Apr 20 @ 8:34 PM |
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BeachCrete
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I personally think that we are influenced(sometimes only just a little) by everyone who comes into our lives,some good and some bad.JMO 
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| Apr 20 @ 9:31 PM |
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dt3d2001
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Are you influence by family or friends on whom you date?
Nope,, not at all  actually, the only input I ever "expect to get" is from my mom when I bring a girl over If mom is polite to her, but she seems to be really into what ever is on the TV at the time,, she is really sayen "get that woman outta my house,, and I mean now!!" But,, if mom likes her she drags out all of the humiliating stuff from my child hood, so they can whisper, giggle, point there fingers at me, and bust out laughing,, for freaken hours!!  ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,  I ain't joken neither!! 
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| Apr 20 @ 9:34 PM |
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painter007
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My sons give me great input.......other than that no
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| Apr 20 @ 9:34 PM |
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andxr
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NO
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| Apr 20 @ 9:37 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Yes.
As long as I live with my parents, I will live by their rules....
I have expressed before that I am not allowed to date non-whites...this wasn't a "rule" (though a white man would have been their preference) before Dan (he was Hispanic), but after our relationship ended, it became set in stone. If I were single, I wouldn't go against their wishes. A relationship and being "politically correct" are not worth the trouble.
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| Apr 20 @ 9:39 PM |
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katydid438
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Most of the guys I have dated have been ok with my son.....the last time I didn't listen to him, turned out to be a very painful experience for me. I would not date anyone I was not attracted to,,,but sometimes that's not enough 
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| Apr 20 @ 9:43 PM |
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signme
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Seriously, no one influences me. My family is all about 1200 miles away so they know nothing about who I date unless I tell them.
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| Apr 20 @ 9:53 PM |
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SunBabe
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she was a little uncertain for me to meet her friends or family because it was noticeable
I'm not usually one to dis someone I don't know, but can you say s-h-a-l-l-o-w? 
My father was always extremely critical about what someone looked like (grooming, along with manners, mainly), but I was always lucky with the choice of men who've been in my life (not that there's been a lot, lol) -- they were all pretty acceptable physical specimens   OK, hot. 
...except that one on-again-off-again "friend" wasn't "Brad Pitt", but to me, he exuded sensuality and was truly a "best friend", to boot. Both he and I were hit with the comment more than once, "What are you doing with him?" Our friends knew, our families knew, and we wouldn't hesitate to answer, "We enjoy each others company. And that's that." Shut 'em right up, lol.
~grin~ I can imagine that there may have been some comments about the age difference between me and my last fella (or two  )...definitely physically apparent, I'd hazard to say.  But heck, we didn't care for a second! It was OUR lives, not theirs. 
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| Apr 21 @ 3:52 AM |
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Always_Striving
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After what Always just said, NO COMMENT!
I have dated women of different shapes/ sizes, different races (except for black, I did ask once but got turned down), varying scales of prettiness, varying scales of attitute toward life.
I don't have objection to date a woman that has some attractive quality about her.
In the previous situation, she was not a woman that I had dated before or was considering asking out at the time, she was a former co-worker that I had not seen in a couple of years and I wanted to catch up on what was happening at the old place of work while I was waiting in the lobby.
Remember that this thread is about what your family and friends think of your choices, not what we MD participants think.
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| Apr 21 @ 5:52 AM |
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capitalview
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I'm not the kind of a person who'd let ANYONE to manipulate my decisions, choices, etc. Unfortunately, the less intelligent family and friends are, the more they seem to be sure it's their right to bully a person into shaping his/her life to their ( family and friends') liking instead of respecting the person's choices in life. I wouldn't be feeling like a grown up man if I had no personality strong enough to MAKE my family and friends to accept MY choice of partner. It's just the matter of maturity, I believe :
as long as a person depends on the other people's opinions to make his decisions , he's immature one. 
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| Apr 21 @ 8:48 AM |
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tahoma
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To a certain extent, yes.. my family wants only the best for me and who I date is important to them... does he have integrity, does he treat me well, is he emotionally stable... Will I be proud to introduce him to my family? These thoughts are always with me and my sister's opinion is very important to me. As far as his ethnicity goes, they wouldn't care as long as he is an honorable man...
If I'm only "casually" dating someone with no intention of having a serious relationship with them then no... I'm not influenced by anyone's opinion
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| Apr 21 @ 9:13 AM |
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mikej73
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no but i am influenced by alcohol quite a lot.
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| Apr 21 @ 9:19 AM |
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DwainP50
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| Apr 21 @ 9:24 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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A lot of people do not respect my family's choices, but I do, and it has not been a problem for me. I don't consider myself "immature", but I am not willing to start problems within my family just because I wanted to say "his ethnicity didn't matter to me" or "I'm trying to be open-minded". My family matters more than that.
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| Apr 21 @ 10:13 AM |
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swingpup
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Not even slightly
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