| Dec 25, 2005 @ 3:05 PM |
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AngelLight
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Of all the things you've learned in relationships with others what do you think is the most important thing you've carried with you to this day?
For me it's trusting my gut, and always following what it tells me.
Thoughts ?
Views........... 
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 3:17 PM |
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janneman1162
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If your unhappy alone, you will be unhappy together.
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 3:20 PM |
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chinabull2000
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I've learned to NEVER ignore warning signs, no matter how good things are on the surface.
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 3:26 PM |
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Angel54214
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I learned..."One Can Not Embrace The World If One Can Not Embrace Thy Self" 
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 7:08 PM |
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definitelydi
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I've learned that both people within a relationship have to be able to accept love, as well as give it. One cannot "love enough" for both.
[Edited on 12/25/2005 7:08 PM]
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 9:07 PM |
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sirdidymus
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i learn more about myself really - and what types of things are priorities to me going into any potential new relationship
a perfect example, the last girl i met recently lived about an hour and half away and we were talking it up some for over a week before we met. turns out, when we met - she wasn't interested in me (such is life).
but the whole time we were talking, i was thinking about the "what ifs" and if something transpired, how difficult it would be to date someone in a serious relationship that lived that far away - due to my concerns over my cats and the strays i feed. sounds trivial perhaps, but that's something very important to me. Although she wasn't that far per'se, based on my priorities of these animals - the distance would very likely have made the relationship prohibitive for any extended period of time.
so going forward, i realize that far any possibility of a "serious" relationship - the person really would have to be relatively close.
just a small example...
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 9:16 PM |
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Pete73052
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When mutual respect is gone - there's nothing left.
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 9:22 PM |
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SpyderLady
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If you see red flags, don't make excuses for them. It will not change and you shouldn't expect it to change. If you can not accept them how they are, move on.
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 9:46 PM |
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Talonz59
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Kind of like you and Jean?
 touche' Waiting...good one...
For me, it's the wisdom to hold my tongue in a heated argument (forums aside LoL) and simply bide my time until the problem can be discussed rationally. No matter how much you apologize, you can't take back the hurt inflicted on someone with mere words.
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 9:52 PM |
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Pete73052
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Who's apologizing?
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 10:12 PM |
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waiting41
Posts: 1,926
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 That's my pal Pete.
 Hey, Talonz, um, well, what you said........well, let's just say..........uh, IS WAITING AT A LOSS FOR WORDS???? Well, anyway, have a good night! 
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 10:18 PM |
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jeanc200358
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Kind of like you and Jean?
Well, since I'm "Jean," I feel compelled to put in my .02. I HATE - I mean I ABSOLUTELY HATE it when someone second guesses my motives, my personality and especially my thoughts and feelings and that's even when my family, who has known me for all of my 47 years on this earth, does it. It particularly grates on my nerves when a person who doesn't know me from Adam does it. For the record, Petey and whomever else wants to know, I'm a woman with a heart of gold who has busted (and will continue to bust) her ass in order to try to make a relationship work. After having been hurt so many times, however, there came a point in my life where I saw the situation for what it was, and I stopped blaming myself and I started putting the blame where the blame should be put, and that was on the man doing the hurting. If my talking about it and proclaiming that "I'm mad as hell and am not going to take it anymore" labels me as bitter and tainted, then so be it. It's a badge I wear quite proudly, because it's taken me a long time to rise to this level of personal emotional security.
The object lesson here, simply put, is that NO relationship can work wherein there isn't MUTUAL respect. I will NOT compromise my integrity for any man, I don't care how terrific he may THINK he is.
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 11:13 PM |
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torees121
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The most important lesson I have learned is that there are liars and cheats on every corner. Sometimes it takes so long to dodge the bad ones that it makes you wonder if it is worth the journey. I will trek onward....
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 11:19 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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The most important lesson I have learned is that there are liars and cheats on every corner
Hope it passes quickly, girl. There are some great people on those corners too...and anger doesn't hurt anyone else as much as it hurts you. Matter of fact, that's probably the most important lesson I've learned, so I was actually on topic....
Hugs,
Millie
[Edited on 12/25/2005 11:20 PM]
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 11:23 PM |
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torees121
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Thank you Millie...can I move to your corner 
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 11:28 PM |
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waiting41
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Torees, I know exactly where you are coming from. Sometimes it would seem easier to avoid them all together and thus avoid the pain also. I guess that's why it's fun on here.......it's like makebelieve for grownups.........lol. Hope is what keeps me going at my worst times...........and if that goes too as it has at times in the past, I live for my kids and always tell myself "this too shall pass". 
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 11:31 PM |
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torees121
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Waiting.....thank you very much for your post. It is nice to know that I am not the only one that has a crappy love life sometimes. I am also glad you are back. I like someone I can debate with from time to time. I have enough
"yes men" in my life 
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 11:32 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Thank you Millie...can I move to your corner
Anytime...and Waiting...you too!
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 11:53 PM |
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lookin4netpal
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(I hope) I have learned not to just be in a relationship for the sake of being in one.
--Cookie
Merry Christmas everyone! 
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 12:08 AM |
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torees121
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Cookie...I know I have learned that lesson otherwise I wouldn't have been single as long as I have
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