| Apr 24, 2008 @ 10:32 PM |
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whatagal
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It seems to be this way for many people. They like you but you aren't interested in them. You like someone and they aren't interested in you. Why does this happen so often? 
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| Apr 24, 2008 @ 10:34 PM |
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Jalon
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Simply put...they just aren't the right one or you aren't the right one. 
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| Apr 24, 2008 @ 10:34 PM |
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Silvertongue62
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One reason is because people often times have images in their minds of what and who they want and when another doesnt fit into that image we tell they they are not what we are looking for before getting to know them. thats just one of many reasons.
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| Apr 24, 2008 @ 10:34 PM |
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keeno
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duh!!! grls play the friends card, and they hate it when it's played on them. sorry, just the first thought i had about it....
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| Apr 24, 2008 @ 10:52 PM |
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equuisdancer
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Not true if and when you know that's the case from the start!
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| Apr 24, 2008 @ 10:53 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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I like you and...
I wanna have another child,
I need you to come to me,
seems to be the two hang ups or dead ends I come to.
Most cant or wont for either one.
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| Apr 24, 2008 @ 10:59 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Oh wait I got more,
You're still married.
You're too young, Im too young, youre too old, Im to old.
Its cold outside, I need to wash my keyboard.
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| Apr 24, 2008 @ 11:00 PM |
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whatagal
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Geez Burns, I didn't know you feel this way!   I'm a little old to be birffin' babies!
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| Apr 25, 2008 @ 1:32 AM |
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Always_Striving
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Good answers so far.
One might think that once they have you that they can shape you to the way that they really want you to be. Also, that they know in their heart that they can convince you to love their lifestyle choices.
They'll say yes and uh-huh to you, but they are really hearing you say is blah, blah, blah.....blah, blah,..... blah, blah, .....blah,...... blah. Love (infatuation) is not blind, it's deaf.
I believe that opposites do not attract. I think that many women do feel that it is the case though. Like minds are more likely to be attracted toward one another because they understanding each other experiences more intimately.
The problem people have though is finding that perfect person. I have read many people commenting that the perfect person isn't out there. That is why I believe that people act in the way which I have explained above. They might see a twinkle of what they like in a person and figure that they can mold that person into their dream.
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| Apr 25, 2008 @ 1:41 AM |
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sirdidymus
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guys profiles tend to be more cut and dry - because at heart, we're looking for a good, decent, loving person - and yes of course, attraction is always going to be a factor.
have you ever read the laundry list of stuff on a typical woman's profile.
he must be funny
he must like jazz
he must like hiking
he must not like blue jeans on rainy days
he must like cats but not dogs - unless it's thursday, then it's ok
he must prove to me - STOP - as soon as i see any statement with "he must prove.." it's immediately on to the next profile
he must be into motorcycles
he must not like heavy metal
he must not be a drug user, alcoholic or want me for my money - dear lord - just who HAVE you been dating in the past???
the list goes on and on ................ and on............
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| Apr 25, 2008 @ 1:56 AM |
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Always_Striving
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^ That's what you would call self weeding..... equivalent to a woman that desparately trying very hard to remove herself from the gene pool.
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| Apr 25, 2008 @ 4:54 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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have you ever read the laundry list of stuff on a typical woman's profile.
I see the same stuff on mens profiles tho 
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| Apr 25, 2008 @ 7:04 AM |
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whatagal
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equivalent to a woman that desparately trying very hard to remove herself from the gene pool.
At my age, I don't WANT to swim in THAT pool any longer...that's for sure. My birffin' days are long gone.
But that doesn't make me stop the desire to have someone to share my life with. I just can't stand when people misrepresent themselves...making it seem like they may want to get to know you better. In reality, the guy just wants to be a "nice" guy. Instead, when one gets msg after msg then STOPS because you try to take it to the next notch, in my eyes, they are just not the nice guy that they wanted you to believe in the first place.
Just be honest! In the end, do you really want someone to dislike you because you were trying so hard to be a "nice" guy?
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| Apr 25, 2008 @ 7:07 AM |
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Automotor
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The answer is to stop sending email and get down to the bar and meet over a few brewskis.
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| Apr 25, 2008 @ 8:16 AM |
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Silvertongue62
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I think most women fill out their profiles after watching a Carey Grant movie. But I wont even get started on profiles. I find that there's very little truth in profiles.
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| Apr 25, 2008 @ 8:38 AM |
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oct_cat
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Silver had it right in his first post . . . people set their standards according to what they think is "perfect" for them and don't dare look beyond that box. In the past I've been guilty of that also. But allowing the time to get to know the person as friends and both being open-minded, can make a person realize what they thought they wanted and what they really want are very different.
I, for one, am glad I dared to look outside that 'box'. 
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| Apr 25, 2008 @ 8:41 AM |
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lj450
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Yes, I love your butt.
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| Apr 25, 2008 @ 8:41 AM |
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Loreli
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I think Jalon nailed it"
they just aren't the right one or you aren't the right one.
nuff said 
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| Apr 25, 2008 @ 11:32 AM |
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DipityDoo
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One reason is because people often times have images in their minds of what and who they want and when another doesnt fit into that image we tell they they are not what we are looking for before getting to know them. thats just one of many reasons.
True, and I also think that if they are, they will pursure you, even if you don't feel that 'click'. At least I've found this with men; they can be hormonally attracted to me, I can fit into their list of 'wants' quite nicely, but I don't feel that special 'click', so I can't think that they do either, yet they still pursue....I think they base it on a mental checklist, either way, and don't pause to listen to what's inside them.
Or, maybe I'm crazy.....
[Edited on 4/25/2008 11:36 AM]
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| Apr 25, 2008 @ 11:34 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I find that there's very little truth in profiles.
If only you could tell that to those scary men who email me and say "You sound so amazing. I hate gays too."
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