| Dec 25, 2005 @ 6:13 PM |
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bettyg452004
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What is with the men that ONLY want to date the anorexic victoria secret type of women? Can't a man just accept a woman, like myself, just as I am? Can't he just accept a woman for who she is on the inside? Men's weight does not bother me, or their how tall they are, what counts is who they are on the inside, kind, loving, treats others on how they would want to be treated, NON abusive to woman.
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 6:20 PM |
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Angel54214
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Hi Betty..nice to see you here in the forums.. 
By the way, we already have about 3 threads on the 'weight' subject that many have contributed to. Just go above to the keyword box and type in the word weight. It will take you right to them.  but you might get some new responses here as well.
Merry Christmas Betty..
Angel.... 
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 6:23 PM |
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boss1962
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for me its always been too much emphasis on the "wait" thing.... 
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 7:20 PM |
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chinabull2000
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Everyone has their own preferences... some people don't fancy black people, others don't fancy heavy people, others don't fancy Asian people etc. You simply cannot change what you find attractive in people, whether it is weight or something else.
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 8:50 PM |
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unknown2dregs
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How can you answer this without sounding sooo offensive?
You can't.
I've always preferred thin girls. I can't have regular sex with overweight women. Why?, because IT just doesn't work.
It's a drag because I happen to live in one of the fattest cities in the U.S.
btw, Victoria Secret models are heavier than I prefer......
pretty bad huh...........
Most men are willing to date someone who is overweight so I assume that you exagerrate.
In the mean time, take better care of your body and stop expecting other to lower their standards.
and try not to be offended by what I've posted, you might be a very nice person
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| Dec 25, 2005 @ 11:58 PM |
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NJSteve176
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I've dated skinny, average and chubby women. Do I prefer a certain build? Yeah sure. The older I get the personality, intelligence and sense of humor play a bigger role in attraction and the weight issue lessens.
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 12:07 AM |
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torees121
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The older I get the personality, intelligence and sense of humor play a bigger role in attraction and the weight issue lessens
That is because you are maturing . When we are old we are all old, wrinkly and not as attractive as we once were. I want someone I can communicate with, have similiar interests, etc because as we age the looks will fade and the other important aspects come into play. Some people dont understand that however....
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 1:03 AM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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Sadly men do focus on weight alot of times, but there are good decent men who it doesn't matter to, just keep positive and you will find someone to love and accept you for YOU just the way you are!
*AsH
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 1:08 AM |
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NJSteve176
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When we are old we are all old, wrinkly and not as attractive as we once were. I want someone I can communicate with, have similiar interests, etc because as we age the looks will fade and the other important aspects come into play.
Yup. I was living with someone for a bit and she wanted to get married. She was a fine looking woman and fun in the sack but after time she became less attractive. Eventually she was unattractive – still fine looking on the outside but the ugly on the inside was overpowering, so overpowering I knew there was no way I could love this woman.
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 1:24 AM |
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Cadenza
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I think you have really hit on something important here, NJSteve. In my experience, no matter how attractive or not so attractive a person is when I first meet them, my perception will change as I get to know them. A guy who only seemed average or less than may become the greatest looking guy I know because of how I feel about him. The reverse is also true. It takes awhile for inner beauty or inner ugliness to emerge.
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 1:26 AM |
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XfactorReloaded1
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Yea people put too much importance on the weight issue.
I mean i have had girls tell me i was fat, when i am far from fat at 6ft 225lbs, and i work out all the time. so go figure....
I mean i can only lose so much weight.
And honestly to me, a girls weight isnt as important as her being a good person. I would rather have a girl with a cute face, who might be a lil chunky, cuz its finding someone who isnt perfect to the world, but having me think they are perfect.
dave
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 1:56 AM |
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NJSteve176
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After dating her I decided looks were not all that important and started going on dates with women I met online without seeing a photo. Dating is hit or miss when you know what they look like so I figure "what the heck" and I'd try a few blind dates. So for the first time I actually read profiles and decided to put looks on the back burner. Some of the dates were ok and some of the dates were not ok. I went on some dates I wouldn’t have if I saw what they looked like but I was exposed to conversation, intelligence and charmed enough to date a woman I would not have on looks alone.
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 2:18 AM |
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Classy_Blonde
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I wanted to post some holiday pics, but I guess MD is off for the C Day. Wah!
So now I'm a tacky girl, wearing a ponytail. 
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 2:25 AM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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Classy did you know you could keep your current photo up until a different one was approved and then you could switch the primary ones you can have up to 5 photos displayed not sure if you knew that or not
*AsH
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 3:00 AM |
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XfactorReloaded1
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OK,,,,, everyone thinks i put something on my dogs head, its just a Xmass wreath on the wall,,, lol
dave
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 3:09 AM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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It does blend in well with your dog though
*AsH
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 7:26 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 Last date wanted Barbie gee thought I was doin` good at size 10...go figure 
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 7:31 AM |
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chinabull2000
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I think that men who do not fancy bigger women are unfairly chastised for it. Just because someone is attracted to slimmer women does not make him bad, he can still be a decent man. We can NOT change who we are attracted to, that is written deep within ourselves. I would dream of chastising a woman who did not fancy Asian men or black men, it is merely a preference, and preferences have nothing to do with racism, or weightism etc.
Why do people worry about men (or women) that are not attracted to them? Surely that's just a waste of time, and our efforts should be concentrated on those those that ARE attracted to us.
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 10:17 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Yep, I agree with chinabull....if some people prefer certain types we don't have the power to change them, do we?
I can only speak for myself, and the physical characteristics of what attracts me to the opposite sex is definitely broad. What's narrow is the personality traits, because in the end "that's" what determines if the relationship will be short or long. I'm not attracted to high maintenance, emotionally needy, shallow, dumb women (and I'm sure women feel the same about men).
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| Dec 26, 2005 @ 10:17 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Tinks, you look great....don't change a thing.
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