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FirefighterDan1
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So tell me why it is that every single person I have dated in the last few years I ditch like a bad habbit. They eather turn into a freak or they are some kind of control freak. Now don't think I am sleeping with these girls because I am not. I just start to date them and then bang it all starts you need to work less hours or all they talk about is there ex or I found one that had a drinking problem. On and on I can go. I don't go to bars to find a date in fact I haven't found a girl on here yet I almost did we alomst started talking but didn't because for some reason a email never went through and we both thought we were not interested. In the last 2 years I have dated 4 different girls they were friend of a friend all but 1 she I meet at the race track here in CT any way I know I will here that I am looking in all the wrong places but it is not that I just can't figure out why I only find freaks or what ever you call them. I just would like to find a girl that I can have fun with be best friends have some take me for me. I work should I slow down maybe but I like to have fun taking trips and stuff and I like to have my toys. That is why I try to work hard. So back to what I am [saying] were are all the nice girls out there that want a nice guy or is it really true nice guy's finish last?????
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| May 18 @ 3:31 PM |
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FirefighterDan1
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why no replys
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| May 20 @ 6:21 PM |
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Loreli
Posts: 20,313
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Fear of committment?
Not ready for one yet? 
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| May 20 @ 6:40 PM |
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DipityDoo
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No, it's not true that nice guys finish last.
But I think two things might fit here:
1) You need to be more selective about who you date, if you think the ones you do date are 'freaks'. Pay more attention to the red flags, etc; it's better to not date than date someone that doesn't meet your standards, that you won't be happy with.
2) This article......http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=8797&TrackingID=516165&BannerID=541888&menuid=6>1=26000......pretty much sums it up....most people run into the same frustrations! Long time between 'real' relationships! You are most certainly NOT the only one; it just seems like that to everyone at times! But we've all been there, more thanonce, or are there!
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| May 20 @ 8:28 PM |
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capitalview
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So, pal , you spend all your time at work and all your money on "toys" . No wonder girls dump you - you have no funds and no time to invest in relationship, seems like the only thing you are willing to share is your sperm - which is hardly enough for relationship to be lasting. When you get mature enough to afford a partner, your priorities will get straightened up. Think of it this way : the only way to attract a partner is to ask yourself what the lady wants/needs in relationship , and then you'll see if a/ you have it and b/ you are willing to share. If the answer to both questions is "yes" - you are ready for relationship , otherwise you'd either keep getting dumped or your have an option to grow up.
You are welcome... 
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| May 20 @ 8:34 PM |
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robodad
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Why would you "try" to work hard?
So you dated 4 girls in 2 yrs. Good for you, keep up the good work. Maybe you should let them play with your toys, too.
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| May 20 @ 8:38 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Dude its you. Not them. Ya said so yourself.
every single person I have dated in the last few years I ditch like a bad habbit
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| May 21 @ 12:01 PM |
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willowy1
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The common denominator here is you! There are NO perfect people but there might be someone perfect for you if you give her a chance. Good luck to you.
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| May 21 @ 12:42 PM |
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tahoma
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With time and patience you will find the right girl for you....... take things slowly and get to know them as friends.
4 dates in 2 years isn't so bad....
Try volunteering in your local community in something you have a passion for. You are bound to meet someone who shares a common interest with you.
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| May 23 @ 12:03 AM |
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SpiritEnergy
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From reading your profile, seems you are not very tolerant nor open to any change. You most likely will not find someone exactly fitted for you so both of you will need to change to fit each other. The profile sure does not reflect a willingness to do that.
If you have it just the way you want your life already, what are you looking for a girlfriend for? That is a guarantee of life changes.
Advice?
Stop looking til you get so lonely and tired of a life alone that you are willing to be more open to change.
Oh, and seriously, NICE guys are usually considerate to others and way more tolerant and open to the other person's perspectives. Your profile and manner that you describe the people you have gone out with do NOT fit the nice guy title.
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| Jun 18 @ 9:26 AM |
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luneib
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Look for a shy girl, they are that diamond in the rough. They are the ones who will treat you with respect, kindness and caring and be there for you. Perhaps you are just dating women with the wrong type of personality for you. Also, men tend to go for the pretty women, go for someone more average and you will find that woman you seek. I dated some men who were not model material but inside they had the best hearts and I fell for them big time. Looks have nothing to do with if you fall in love with someone or not, and although you did not mention that, it's just something to think about. It's like having a candy and getting to the sweet center of it. Women and men are both like that. You have to give people a chance to get to that wonderful center of the candy, to what is on the inside. Look for a girl who can make you laugh, someone you can have fun with.
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| Jun 18 @ 8:29 PM |
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jaybird777
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Yer tryin too hard. FIndin love is like finding a box turtle.
You can spend gobs a time looking, but when you ain't looking seems ta be when ya stumble across it.
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