| May 14 @ 3:04 PM |
What Exactly Does "No Drama" & "No Games" Mean And Why Do Some Think It's Good?
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DiamondRain
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So many women's profiles say they want a relationship with "no drama," and "no games."
What exactly does that mean?
Isn't the drama and the games half the fun of any relationship?
Is this another symptom of the Prozac society? People want relationships that are dumbed down, emotionless and so smooth that you can't even detect that you are among the living?
I say, with a dramatic flair, ... "Let the games begin! ." 
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| May 14 @ 3:07 PM |
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pamdemonium
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Is this another symptom of the Prozac society
Can I offer you a sniff of my marker?  
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| May 14 @ 3:08 PM |
What Exactly Does "No Drama" & "No Games" Mean And Why Do Some Think It's Good?
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DiamondRain
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| May 14 @ 3:14 PM |
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pamdemonium
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It means that most people are looking for some comfort out of a relationship, not torture. When the problems outweigh the comfort, the job...it's not working well.
Not that incidents don't come up. But some people don't care to diffuse incidents, and thrive on calamity and disturbances.
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| May 14 @ 3:17 PM |
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LittleMsDangerous
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What exactly does that mean?
For instance, don't tell me you have to cancel our date because you'll be caring for your seriously ill mother at her house all night when in fact you are at home with your nonexistent wife. And please don't leave any notes at home or in your pockets with my address or other personal information just in case the nonexistent wife finds it and decides to send your brother, her current boyfriend, to my home to harass, stalk and/or intimidate me so he can gather evidence to enable his girlfriend, the nonexistent wife, to file for a speedy divorce and take all your money thereby giving you an excuse to become a moocher at my expense.
I really try to avoid those types of games and/or drama. 
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| May 14 @ 3:20 PM |
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LadyTimeLord
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Well put, Pam and LMD.
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| May 14 @ 3:20 PM |
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Silver1961
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So LMD - whats the problem??? 
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| May 14 @ 3:23 PM |
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DiamondRain
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Yeah, but isn't this obvious?
It's the same as saying "I don't want anybody who does things that are annoying and upsetting."
Do you really need to say that?
No one goes into a relationship wanting that. But even things that are endearing at first can become annoying and offensive after a while. And stuff happens. That's life unless you are living in an isolation chamber.
Does someone reading that in a profile ever think:
"Hmmmmmm let's see. I'm full of drama and love to play games. I'm annoying and offensive and love to do things to upset my partner. Better not write to this one!"
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[Edited on 5/14/2008 3:25 PM]
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| May 14 @ 3:24 PM |
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LittleMsDangerous
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If someone said in his profile that he detests red heads, I wouldn't write unless I decided to change my hair color.
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| May 14 @ 3:28 PM |
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DiamondRain
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But what makes you think that, if someone IS full of drama and games that:
A. They even know that they are and;
B. They would honor your request even if they did know?
Why bother telling a game player not to play games?
Isn't that kind of like telling a wolf not to have fur?
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| May 14 @ 3:31 PM |
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kattsmeow
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I wonder if they really know what they are talking about. Games and drama could be many different things to people.
No gamesme? I said let the games begin, I picked twister,, 
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| May 14 @ 3:32 PM |
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LittleMsDangerous
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Well that's exactly why it's not included in my profile. Why give 'em a warning? I just wait and see and at the first hint of drama/games, I bury 'em in the back yard.... 
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| May 14 @ 3:39 PM |
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DiamondRain
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But one man's games is another (hopefully woman's) pleasure. Not many men THINK they are "game players."
And I think that some women call a guy that shows initial interest in them, but later decides she is not for him a game player... perhaps even a dramatic game player. 
There are "games" and there are "games." It's not an exact science. You can't classify someone with precision. Relationships are complicated. The entire concept of a relationship is a game. (And if it's any good it's dramatic too if you ask me.)
[Edited on 5/14/2008 3:42 PM]
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| May 14 @ 3:42 PM |
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LittleMsDangerous
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 Does that mean you want to play? 
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| May 14 @ 3:43 PM |
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DiamondRain
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HONK HONK!
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| May 14 @ 3:45 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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And I think that some women call a guy that shows initial interest in them, but later decides she is not for him a game player... perhaps even a dramatic game player.
Yep, unless it's an ongoing MO, where he or she ALWAYS drops the person before they even meet...then I think you probably have a playa...
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| May 14 @ 3:45 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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What Exactly Does "No Drama" & "No Games" Mean And Why Do Some Think It's Good?
That they are trying to live in a fantasy.
That they have no idea of the concept of reality.
And completely lacking any imagination, or creativity.
I skip on over these.
Be good to the game. and it will be good to you. 
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| May 14 @ 3:49 PM |
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pamdemonium
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JMO, but it shows where a person is in terms of emotional intelligence, if they're able to handle their private lives with little or no fuss.
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| May 14 @ 3:53 PM |
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DiamondRain
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Cheesh!
Where do you find people that don't have any drama in their lives?
Maybe we should bring back full frontal lobotomies and offer them to dating site participants?
I'll take mine with drama please! Gimme all you got! 
[Edited on 5/14/2008 3:53 PM]
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| May 14 @ 3:53 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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What Pam said.
Its the difference between childish and maturity.
baggage we all have it, its how well you can pack and carry it that counts. For adults. And I dont date children.
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