| May 23, 2008 @ 9:09 PM |
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ladybuy2008
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As if dating in your teens and 20's wasn't enough joy... some of us get to do it all over again in our 40's and beyond. But at least now I'm looking for more of a companion than anything else. Had the kids and careers, been there, done that. Dating can be fun later in life if you find someone who enjoys every day and makes the most out of it.
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| May 23, 2008 @ 9:26 PM |
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robodad
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 Better later than never
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| May 23, 2008 @ 9:29 PM |
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Loreli
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yep!
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| May 23, 2008 @ 9:31 PM |
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LaughTillYaPuke
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I think it's a heck of alot more fun. You don't care if he is looking at you more than the other woman in the room, your too busy having fun. 
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| May 23, 2008 @ 9:46 PM |
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Always_Striving
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But at least now I'm looking for more of a companion than anything else. Had the kids and careers, been there, done that.
I have been wondering if men that have been down that road feel the same way or if they feel that now since they are over with the marriage and raising kids responsibilty deal, that it is now time for them to bang as many women as possible.
Kind of like: The freedom at last (no ball and chain, or consequences) type of mentality.
I think that maybe someone should start a new thread on this subject of a woman's viewpoint versus a man's viewpoint.
I haven't been married or had kids either so I really wouldn't be in that catagory, but I would certainly love to read the results of the poll.
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| May 23, 2008 @ 9:57 PM |
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ladybuy2008
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Good comments Always Striving.
For me, I sacraficed so much raising my son alone after his dad died - I had to be both parents from the time my son was 12. I managed 2 companies, one of which I owned, volunteered for schools (on the PTA), sports (asst coach for many sports which went all year long, fundraiser, attended every game, tournament and most practices, and my son is very athletic so he was varsity and traveled a ton), church (Sunday school teacher for 3 years), well you get the picture. Something had to give and that was MY social life, so I didn't do what I wanted to do for many many years.
Now that he is a senior in college, I've had my life back for a few years and it took the first year just to find myself again. I guess I could have gone crazy, but that's not my style. I've been called names on here because I do take my time in getting to know someone. We all have to look at ourselves in the mirror and my comfort level tells me to take my time and savor every step of the journey. At this age, I am not in a hurry to make any mistakes!
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| May 24, 2008 @ 11:24 AM |
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marylou
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...all I can say IS........I have had more fun dating in my 50's than I ever did in my younger years..............LOL. Think when you are older.....you dont feel you have to impress as much........or watch your behaviour........you just go with the flow and enjoy the moment or whatever comes out of it......... 
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| May 24, 2008 @ 11:57 AM |
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1stsignofspring
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I have been a single mother for the last 17 yrs out of which 15 were spent raising my children. I did not date until about 2 yrs ago, so I have to say it has been an eye opener for me. the basics of dating are still the same, but being older and dating men who are older is the difference I think. Alot of men, unless they have been single or divorced for some time are just reliving their teenage years and have no desire for a serious relationship. On the other hand I have met some that are looking for a serious relationship. Either way, it is still the same in one aspect...and that is finding someone you really click with. That takes time and when you do, I am sure it is well worth it.
I am much more comfortable in who I am and my personality has become more easy going and much more open to the "imperfectness" in people and have accepted my own as well. I like this time in my life....coming into who I am and making room for another to share it... .....what a way to exit life.....loving, living, and laughing..... 
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| May 25, 2008 @ 2:45 PM |
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sweet5red
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never in my wildest dreams did i think i would be getting married a week after my 53rd birthday.. and the dating thing i hated LOL i told raymond no wonder after he moved out of my life for that 2 years.. that i had no interest in dating... since unbeknownst to me i had fallen in love already.. Sweet N Louisiana 
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| May 25, 2008 @ 3:01 PM |
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signme
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I think it's a lot more fun now than it was back in my 20s and 30s. And I agree with Marylou, you don't have to impress now. Just be yourself. 
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| May 25, 2008 @ 4:24 PM |
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LadyTimeLord
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How about two dates in my whole life...yeah Im not at all popular... 
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| May 25, 2008 @ 11:49 PM |
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maggiemae684
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As I re-entered the dating world in my 40's I found that I was, in some ways, pickier....because....I spent some time rediscovering me and what was important to me....I also learned that I did not need to compromise me for anyone else because I liked me and was okay being alone....
LadyTime....the number of dates you have or haven't had doesn't define who you are....you do....and as you progress through life you will find that those important ones will realize your specialness and appreciate and respect you for you.... 
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| May 26, 2008 @ 4:04 AM |
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SunBabe
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 I don't think I've ever "dated", now that I think about it. I did have a boyfriend in high school, but never "dated" anyone else back then.
Then I got married to a guy and stayed with him for over 30 years. I've had a couple of "things" since then, and a definite "keeper" relationship -- but since he died, I really haven't "dated" anyone, muchless a number of different guys.
~grin~ I probably wouldn't know how to handle it 
I think I'm more of a "let's hang out" person. Yeh, I'd be kind of cool just to have a local male companion now and then. But only if he knows I'm not out to keep him or into playing bedroom tag, lol. 
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| May 26, 2008 @ 8:02 AM |
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Angel178
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....I spent some time rediscovering me and what was important to me....I also learned that I did not need to compromise me for anyone else because I liked me and was okay being alone....
Maggie....I love this statement!
I was alone for 2 years before I even considered "dating" anyone. I think that as you get older you know more what you like and what you don't. I think that even in one phone call, or just reading about someone, now that I'm older I can spot something that just wouldn't be right for me. And then, sometimes you get lucky and find someone that has all the qualities you are looking for or hope to someday find...
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| May 26, 2008 @ 9:17 AM |
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marylou
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~grin~ I probably wouldn't know how to handle it
I think I'm more of a "let's hang out" person. Yeh, I'd be kind of cool just to have a local male companion now and then. But only if he knows I'm not out to keep him or into playing bedroom tag, lol
Sun......dating can be a scarey place.....when you have been with a man you have loved for so long. I think *hanging out*....is a good place to start from. If someone is keen enough on you as a person......they will be willing to do this. If not.....its not your worry. Each of us has to *go out* (so to speak) for the type of person that we feel comfortable with. And sometimes....they dont always fall off trees...LOL. Many women today ....wont settle for less than this. And I dont blame them one bit. I wont...so I can understand others not wanting to either.
Life is meant to be happy and pleasant......why invite drama or whatever.....when there is no need. But dating is finding out I guess........but also comes with disappointments at times.....as well as some joys. Think its hit and miss.
Sometimes I feel like you. I nice male companion would suite me now and then.
But thats not really what I want full time. And I wouldnt want to hurt anyone by just having someone temporatily for companionship......unless I made it clear to them....right from the start. I guess that would be ok.
Wish we could blindfold them ....and try them out for a week....and send them back for a refund if they werent what we wanted.......LOL
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| May 26, 2008 @ 2:28 PM |
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Bluebonnet72
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I dated very young and I jumped many important steps like my freedom 
My suggestion is to live our age at whole day by day .....and dating later.....why not ?
we should be more sensible and maybe we could appreciate better each instants without great anxiety.
I learned that life gives us more chances and opportunity in every fields.....more of what we think and what we see.
We should be clever to pick up the real essence of everything and observe what and who are close to us
[Edited on 5/26/2008 2:31 PM]
[Edited on 5/26/2008 2:33 PM]
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| May 26, 2008 @ 2:31 PM |
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willowy1
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I hear you Sunbabe. I think I am just scared to date.
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| May 26, 2008 @ 2:35 PM |
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Bluebonnet72
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Willowy you are so young and beautiful...... 
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| May 26, 2008 @ 2:57 PM |
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willowy1
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Thank you Bluebonnet! But I am some what of a freak ~I have only ever been with one man. My husband! And I wouldn't even know how to go about dating after all these years. Not to mention that I feel like half a person.
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| May 26, 2008 @ 3:04 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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what half?
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