| May 25 @ 6:06 PM |
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firehawk
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Hi there. I am new here and hope I can be somewhat accepted.
This is a long post so please bare with me.
Firstly, to give you a bit of a background about myself:
I'm a DJ and producer, and I also work in IT for 2 companies, including my own. I'm also the first to graduate uni at a younger age than most people in the country (state if you like if you are in the US). I'm very happy and proud of what I have achieved so far in life even though I am young. Most people would kill to do the thing I do.
I've even won awards as well and im very happy about the achievements. I am very greatful and thankful for this and believe you can achieve anything you want as long as you work for it and dont let anyone get in the way and become stronger, a better overall person.
I believe in professionalism but importantly in self improvement via constructive criticism. its the only way to improve yourself regardless in order for you to strengthen yourself up and become the better/bigger person and to lead the right path, it also helps your own life importantly by picking a better path and sticking to it - leading a healthier and better life.
I'm always polite, never swear, I don't drink or smoke or do drugs - I never have done (have had a strict up bringing so that helps) and do know whats right and wrong. I'm not fussy at all, im very open minded and believe to lead the simpler life.
So, moving on from that....
I've NEVER been with a girl. Honestly. The only time ive been with a girl was last year, my first ever girlfriend. I don't cheat, I don't sleep around, I don't flirt - I'm not like that. That unfortunate ex of mine.... well, she was older and you would expect older to be mature right? wrong.
it all was great then well, broke my heart for no reason. She fell for me for a reason, couldnt handle the goodness (and think i was doing pretty darn good) and then she just cheated and her brother, and her, shouted abuse down the phone as well for no reason which didn't make sense. Not only that, it doesn't help when I was working away for a while but always back down for the weekend (we didnt live together).
I even took a day off work, flew down to see what was wrong, then flew back up the same day - that shows how much I loved her and what I would do to save a relationship. The dedication and commitment of one another.
Anyway, ive been down ever since and know what she is up to - sleeping around...the image is just horrid and sick. Just, for someone to be as nice...then to turn pretty much evil just like that, why? Then we hear complaints that men are bad and all the rest of it....
So anyway, I then a couple of months ago, met someone else. she was nice, from NZ (new zealand) and all was well then she pretty much ran off because she didnt know what she wanted...and didnt even bother telling me in person or by phone but instead, an email. I'm a sensitive polite and caring person and treated them with nothing but respect.
So then i try some dating sites, some ad sites and the ads are so horrific and puts me down. From the ads ive seen and replied to, its nothing but women being full of themselves, wanting a specific person, being REALLY picky - its like im totally not welcomed and rejected everywhere.
Sure, im not great looking but hey, cant help the way we were born right? If I were to be picky, I would get an earful, however if they are picky, all is right. This is not fair.
I don't mean to be rude or anything but im just sick and fed up of all this. I've seen society changed dramatically for the worst in such a short time and its not nice at all.
Women say they want a man that has a job, that knows what they want, that knows how to treat a lady, that isnt after the one thing, that is nice and sweet..... I believe I am that. But really from reading those ads and responses I get, they are after the 1 thing and you have to be TOTALLY HOT!
where does that leave hard working decent and honest people like myself? Well I feel in the gutter to be honest
I don't mean to sound negitive, im a very positive person especially after having a GOOD life changing experience a few years ago.... I have my way with words I believe and speak from the heart within..... but still, im not getting far at all and feel a total reject
its summer, people out there with someone even if it were for one night (which I am not like that) and I get.... well.... nothing but sitting alone. I've tried my best going out to meet people but they are taken or I'm not their type.
What does one hopeless romantic do in this scenario? Sorry for being a downer, I can only apologise and im open for any suggestions :)
I appreciate the time taken to read this thread. Thank-you so much.
Please dont reply if your pretty much gonna be not caring and mean! Don't have time for that.... I'm sure you would be the same :)
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| May 25 @ 8:08 PM |
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Always_Striving
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Here listen to this and grab a couple of tissues
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| May 25 @ 8:41 PM |
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nah12
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we all get depressed, feed-up and lonely at times... the answer usually is to lighten-up and just enjoy life and forget about trying to put everything in a neat little stack that we think it should fit in...
no disrespect intended.....
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| May 25 @ 11:43 PM |
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lobo65
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I don't have any words of wisdom for you, but I know how you feel. You just have to try to put it into the back of your mind, and find other things that make you happy until/if you find the right person. That's what I do.
[Edited on 5/26/2008 12:28 AM]
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| May 25 @ 11:53 PM |
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youbetcha
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Just don't give up hope and realize that if it comes down to just one person, then that one person could take a while to find 
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| May 26 @ 12:22 AM |
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andxr
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cheating is the worse!!!!! Life can suck, but there's aways an answer.
i find my answers at the bottom of a bottle. People, im joking, please
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| May 26 @ 12:33 AM |
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signme
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You better be joking Andy or I'm coming up there to....to....well I'll think of something by the time I get there! 
Everyone is lonely at some point in their life. You just can't give up hope. And please, don't try changing who you are for someone. That never works. I met someone on here a year ago. We've broken up now but it was great for a while.Now I'm looking again. I haven't given up hope. Somewhere there is someone for each of us. Be patient.
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| May 26 @ 12:38 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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| May 26 @ 2:42 AM |
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SunBabe
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First off, you sound like a smart, nice and probably better looking than you think guy. Probably pretty young still, which is your problem right now. Most young girls from what I have observed only go after the typically "hot" guys. In about 10 years or so, you should come into your own.
Which leads into my next point. What type of girls are you trying to get to know. Because turn about is fair play. Are you only going after the really really attractive ones? Because there are plenty of not the hottest girls around who are probably wondering the same thing. You cannot expect to land a supermodel if you aren't one yourself.
Just sayin.
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| May 26 @ 11:28 AM |
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youbetcha
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SunBabe
Stellar info 
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| Jun 1 @ 2:04 AM |
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sweet5red
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been there done that... we have a great support group here.. they listend to me carry on and whine and complain for a longggggggggggggg while UNTIL i realized i had already met my one and only and didnt know it.. time give it TIME... Sweet N Louisiana
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| Jun 1 @ 6:43 AM |
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marylou
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.....TURN THE PAGE OF TIME...EVERY DAY.....thats what I always think!  
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| Jun 1 @ 7:35 AM |
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oct_cat
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I love that statement marylou!! 
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| Jun 1 @ 10:16 AM |
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marylou
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THANK YOU oct_cat.........UP UP AND AWAY....is what I always say......dont turn back to see who is pestering you.....MARCH ONWARD AND FORWARDS......to new adventures with new people and new experiences. LOOK AHEAD AND BEYOND......thats my motto......
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| Jun 1 @ 10:27 AM |
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happygrlok
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I think life does get us down from time to time...take the time you need, and when you feel you are ready, think NEXT.....  ..........there are many nice people out there, so don't sit there looking at the door that is closed.  ......There are other doors out there that will open for you.
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| Jun 1 @ 10:31 AM |
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marylou
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,,,yep.....many doors.....as many as dominoes.....millions of them.........its great to run through every one of them..........to see whats on the other side.......
oh YUMMMM.....I hope there is one of MYSTERY'S SEXY MEN......behind one of them.........hehe
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| Jun 2 @ 12:43 PM |
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jerrigirl1964
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Life is a lesson in lonliness, we were created as heavenly spiritual beings, yet our very feet and in the dirt of the earth on which we must walk. We desire a closeness that cannot be had on this physical plain. We want to merge with another human being, to be enveloped by there loving thoughts of us and life. Yet the closest we can ever get to another is through a hap hazzard messy act we call making love.. On a good day its given with respect love devotion and honesty. on a bad day, self centeredness, abuse, selfishness, incencereness. Please forgive my terrible spelling. The men I am drawn to respect themselves, love themselves, not in a haughty way or a Im HOT way. In a (i refuse to abuse myself or others, way). Never ask someone to do something that makes them feel comprimised. Never alow someone to comprimise you. Just be kind to yourself and others. And above all understand that we humans are all very flawed. We are all on different paths, we see through different windows. Dont judge. Just be happy and live. The wonderful woman you seek will see you as the shining beacon of light and love that you are.
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| Jun 4 @ 10:05 PM |
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whitwhit
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well i know what you mean because i'm always lonely and i've never had someone to hold and kiss me or anything but i don't let that get me down and you shouldn't either
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| Jun 6 @ 1:15 AM |
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EducatedRita
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If you lived in my country, you would have been "taken" within a blink of an eye  , because there is a shortage of decent men there  , and plenty of smashing women COMPETE for men, I am not exaggerating here....(not that I am so happy about it - being a woman, its sad for me ) but everything happens for a reason, so stay where you are and your destiny will find a way through all the unimaginable crap you have been facing...and please keep your qualities, stick to your values, dont let a few experiences knock you down. What does not kill you, makes you stronger. Just say : Let it be. And dont change to the worse. It would be horrible if you gave in to bitterness and became one of more of those "mistrustful" burnt out sceptical men...(even though for valid reasons)... You have so much ahead!  Good luck 
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| Jun 15 @ 11:08 PM |
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jaybird777
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Gots to take responsibility fer your own state of mind. Don't be lookin fer your happiness in other people.
IF someone treats you bad, cross em off yer list and find someone nicer.
If everyone you come cross treat you bad, maybe it ain't the other people, and it is time do a re-evaluational of how you are treatin people.
There are some dirty birs out there. Like mad dogs. If you treat them good, they will treat you horrible anyhow. Most folks, though, you treat em decent, they will respond in kind.
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