| May 27 @ 11:48 AM |
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poeticcougar
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After having given your heart to someone for a year, becoming wrapped up in your job for that time frame as well so that you CAN be together when the timing is right, what do you do when it is over? How do you talk to your boss and broach the subject of needing "a life" again to get back on the dating scene? 
A coworker who has been there for 2 weeks got offered day shifts and one weekend a month...myself, I have been there 1 1/2 years and have been moved to evenings and weekends. I work every Sunday 11 hours, no break, no help. Other than having my son at home to fend for his meals and not having Mom around, it's dampered my social life. I NEED to get out and go "fishing". How do I mention this?
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| May 27 @ 12:48 PM |
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robodad
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It shouldn't be hard to do. Go to your shift supervisor and ask what you have to do to go on days. (mention the 2 weeker)
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| May 27 @ 1:13 PM |
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poeticcougar
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I've brought up my concerns and my boss' comment was "Well we needed someone else fulltime so I have to go with it." Even though the help wanted sign said "Evenings and weekend".
But I went out job hunting... enough is enough. out of the 4 employees, I am the only one who has no say yet they tell me all the time "You don't know how much we apreciate you." Yeah right!
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| May 27 @ 2:12 PM |
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sweet5red
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i have been at my job almost 8 years.. and i am a state employee.. i havent taken any vacation time in 3 years.. BUT i did put in to take 2 weeks off in august for my wedding/ honeymoon... but we are still short staffed and i had to finally refuse to answer my phone... good luck.. Sweet N Louisiana
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| May 27 @ 2:37 PM |
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willowy1
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Poeticcougar the squeaky wheel gets the grease!
Job negotiations are best done on paper. Make it respectful! But stick to your guns. (I am sure you are a great employee and they need someone they can count on for your shift thus the reason they don't want to move you.) But that is their problem right?
You might say something like: I enjoy my job with such and such company but these details need to be resolved. Then list your expectation's go over your bosses head if need be. You have seniority over the new person. I am sure they will want to keep you so they will negotiate with you~ even if they don't want too!
Good luck. Remember good employees really ARE hard to find!
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| May 27 @ 3:26 PM |
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poeticcougar
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willowy,
I was told I would have maximum 30 hours per week...I work 37-41.
Weekends were supposed to be rotated between all employees (I've not had one off in 5 months).
I've talked to Head Office and they said "The owner has the right to do whatever they want. Nothing we can do."
But there is something "I" can do and that is look elsewhere for work. Afterall, it would be nice to be ME and not just an employee every day!
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| May 27 @ 3:36 PM |
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willowy1
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Sorry, was any of that in writing? Or just verbal?
Well you might tell your boss that you don't want to leave but if she/he can't honor the 30 hours etc. you will have to look for a different position?
Do you really want to leave?
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| May 27 @ 3:43 PM |
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Loreli
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Willowy makes good points.
They aren't over-extending you, weekly hour-wise, BUT, call the department of Labor....they may be violating FLSA on the long work days.
(or google FLSA....if you have a complaint-they'll point you in the right direction.
And they cannot treat you badly if you complain...Whistleblower's Act
Good luck.
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| May 27 @ 7:13 PM |
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emptypages
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Don't let them walk all over you. I used to have the problem. I was too damn nice. Open your mouth, and voice your concerns. But do it in a professional manner. If they still don't see eye to eye with you, then quietly look for another job.
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| May 27 @ 7:56 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Your call of course, but when I was in a similar position some years ago, I laid out my case in writing, but I also arranged to have a very visible breakfast meeting with 'the competition.' We were just having a friendly breakfast but the point was made (for me it was a review/raise that I'd been promised verbally when I moved into management taking a cut in pay from what I'd been making in the union - the raise put me over what I would have been making - more importantly though, it made the point that I wouldn't let myself be walked on).
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| May 27 @ 8:38 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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Coug, I know how you feel (but we know that already). Almost 3 months ago I started my new job as a dispatcher.....no love life.....two weeks later I was running Finance and overseeing operations.......3 weeks later I was handling judgments in court.....today I started early as the Chief Operations Officer.....still no love life, but the time to myself taught me things and has helped me to concentrate better.
....always look to the bright side girl..... 
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| May 27 @ 8:45 PM |
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poeticcougar
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I called my boss an hour ago to book off Sunday June 9 for a birthday party I was invited to. I was told "We'll see what we can do but you're our Sunday person." With 4 other employees and an 11 hour shift, they'll see what they can do?
It's entirely frustrating especially when I am making at least $1.00 less than most places offer for a starting wage! AND I'm supposed to be the Assistant Manager!
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| May 27 @ 8:47 PM |
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Loreli
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How many hours a week is the manager working... 
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| May 27 @ 8:52 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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well Coug I don't know what to tell ya. I have said to you over and over again to join my escort service, but ya keep turning me down. Look at your little sis Sweetheart....She's so busy working making the big bucks that you don't even see her around here no more.  . I offer medical and dental, night time day care, 401k, gym membership, and various other anematies....or how ever you spell that damn word. Plus you get half off at Hooters.....
...think about it!
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| May 27 @ 9:19 PM |
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poeticcougar
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ok two things....the manager/owner whatever refuses to work weekends but has a girl hired for 4 hours 2 days a week so she can go home and rest. (Seriously... )
We have 105 hours available (well wait, until the announcement comes out that we're open 364 days a year from 6am-9:30pm daily...yes the managers took it upon themselves to change our hours of operations so head ofice okayed it). Hours aren't split fairly...hard to tell.
secondly, you didn't mention the 1/2 off at Hooters  I am soooooooo in!
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| May 27 @ 10:15 PM |
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DJ1024
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i'd call in sick if they wouldn't give me some time off. sick of work does qualify. i'd start looking to see what other jobs are out there. good luck!
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| May 27 @ 10:30 PM |
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Always_Striving
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Other than having my son at home to fend for his meals and not having Mom around, it's dampered my social life.
If you choose to have children then you must be prepared to accept all those associated responsibilities. That is why the father and mother should switch the responsibilitiy duties if not incorporate them around their lives. If you aren't prepared for that then you should not have had children to begin with. Many parents want to ditch their reponsibility because they see it a kin to a ball and chain, the other parent decided to leave or whatever. That inturn creates produces an environment susceptible to produce a dysfunctional child.
It is my opinion that you should not put your own interests ahead of your childs but instead live with the consequences of your original choice to allow a child to be brought into this world under your current conditions.
Ask your parents for advise on raising children if you see it dampering your social life.
If the father refuses to get involved that still does not excuse you from 18 years of legal responsibility. Be a good mom and think of your child first.
Good luck.
[Edited on 5/27/2008 10:36 PM]
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| May 27 @ 11:48 PM |
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poeticcougar
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ummmm my son is now almost 16. I have put bread on the table, a roof over his head, clothed his body, paid all the bills, took him on vacations with no father around since day one. This isn't about being a responsible parent as I AM that. I AM thinking of my son in regards to my current work situation and why one parent gets evenings and weekend with HER kids from the day she got hired and I don't get that opportunity being the senior employee?
where the father bit comes into this situation is beyond me seeing I said it is dampering my social life and getting into the dating scene?
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| May 28 @ 6:57 AM |
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oct_cat
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 Everyone here has posted bits of good advice. It sounds as if you've talked with management/supervisors & haven't gotten anywhere; that is probably because they figure you'll just go back to doing what they want you to do. If your boss felt they "had to go with it", then maybe they'll just have to go with some changes you'd like to make??
Put your concerns & requests in writing & hand deliver to the top boss. Let them know there is room for negotiation, but that you do need to have a reworked schedule. If they have any sense of business, they'll be willing to negotiate because most people know it is more costly financially & time-wise to train new employees than to make adjustments for existing, experienced employees. Just be sure everything is in writing; I am not sure about laws in Canada but here in the U.S. employers are required to keep all documentation in personnel files.
Good luck & knock 'em dead couger!
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| May 28 @ 9:56 AM |
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Loreli
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A few other things...
does the manager work days and needs you on nights in your job capacity?
Would you be willing to take a demotion to go to days?
You aren't working more hours than the average person, and far far less than some.
And, most employers don't really care about the employees social life...just the work they do. Just a few things to keep in mind 
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