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TheLostMermaid
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I did a search to try and find a similar thread, but I'm either running the search wrong or there isn't one. What have you learned from your past marriages and/or serious relationships?
It has been a hard lesson, but I'm finding out that you need to choose a partner who has similar life views to you already at the time you meet them. Compromise is great, but when your moral views are completely on opposite ends of the scale, one or both of you are bound to be unhappy eventually.
Additionally I learned to follow my inner voice: If I hear that "little voice" that screams "Don't date this person seriously!" ......don't!
Just my thoughts.
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| Jun 12 @ 11:02 PM |
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willsmalto
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I've learned to not trust anyone 100% except myself
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| Jun 12 @ 11:06 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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I think my thoughts are pretty much echoing yours Mermaid. That 'moral compass' thing is vital, not only in romantic relationships but in friendships as well. I'm not even thinking about honesty right now, although that certainly qualifies too, but about peoples' views about life and people in general. I'm finding that racism, pre-judging people based on stereotypes, generally mingy and ungenerous natures are absolutely poisonous to me...and it's making me appreciate my SO more all the time. It's a wonderful thing when you can share a part of your life with someone you can honestly admire.
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| Jun 12 @ 11:14 PM |
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madamegeek
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I have learned that when something seems wrong, something is wrong.
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| Jun 12 @ 11:14 PM |
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katydid438
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I've learned to pay attention to red flags.......used to think that I was too critical,,,,,,,,so I threw caution to the wind 
Learned that I was on the right path in the first place 
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| Jun 12 @ 11:19 PM |
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signme
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I've learned to listen to any and all advice, but then go ahead and make my own decisions anyway.
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| Jun 12 @ 11:20 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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To trust.
That being jealous is not necessary.
Men can have female friends and look at other girls and it does not mean they will cheat on me.
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| Jun 12 @ 11:26 PM |
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TheLostMermaid
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I have learned that when something seems wrong, something is wrong.
Exactly. ... Pretty much that inner voice thing will tell you if something is wrong.
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"Men can have female friends and look at other girls and it does not mean they will cheat on me."
Yep! That's true. Yes some guys and gals are slimey and will, but there are those that can have any army of other-gender friends and never think of cheating. My close friends tend to be guys, but that doesn't mean I'm going to go over the line.
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| Jun 13 @ 6:53 PM |
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imhope
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I've learned if you don't have a pic posted, most people won't even write you back 
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| Jun 13 @ 7:33 PM |
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willowy1
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I've learned to listen to any and all advice, but then go ahead and make my own decisions anyway. 
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| Jun 13 @ 7:34 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Just cos he looks at porn doesn't mean he's not attracted to me.
Don't worry so much.
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| Jun 13 @ 7:37 PM |
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willowy1
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They all look at porn. 
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| Jun 13 @ 7:38 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Rolf didn't. I'm not naive enough to believe the "I don't look at it, I swear" lie...I searched for it, he didn't have a stash. And he doesn't use the internet.
Marko does though, and I don't care. He's crazy about me.
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| Jun 13 @ 8:30 PM |
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LaughTillYaPuke
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That there are givers and there are takers in this world. And you had best know which one your hooking up with.
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| Jun 13 @ 8:32 PM |
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SyndilLucian
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And try to not believe everything a guy says to you...
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| Jun 13 @ 8:52 PM |
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scorpiogirl36
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I've learned to trust no one
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| Jun 13 @ 8:57 PM |
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willowy1
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^^^Well that is stinkin thinkin 
How about not blaming others for our bad choices?
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| Jun 13 @ 9:09 PM |
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scorpiogirl36
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Posts: 574 ^^^Well that is stinkin thinkin
How about not blaming others for our bad choices?
You've got a problem girlie...^^^^^^^^^ how about you minding your own business.
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| Jun 13 @ 9:36 PM |
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willowy1
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okay 
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| Jun 13 @ 9:40 PM |
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capobeachguy
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Willow has as much right (not to mention far more capability) that just about anyone on this site to express her observations.
You, of course, may feel free to ignore her comments; I found her statement completely on topic.
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