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Loreli
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Well you're handsome in mine Dude 
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| Jul 2 @ 9:20 PM |
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1RockinDude
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 thanks Loreli
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| Jul 3 @ 6:06 PM |
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georgiapeach42
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NightOwl this is about what YOU want in a mate. So don't be sorry. I personally like larger men. Smaller men make me feel like I am hugging a woman and it creeps me out.
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| Jul 3 @ 6:53 PM |
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marylou
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I like a solid man.....I like feeling his muscles.......... 
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| Jul 3 @ 8:11 PM |
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michedkel
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Feel this muscle. 
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| Jul 3 @ 8:12 PM |
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custis
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I want a woman who has a bra that is easy to undo with one hand.
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| Jul 3 @ 8:38 PM |
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pamdemonium
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A man who understands that sex is just a minute part of any relationship.
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| Jul 3 @ 8:41 PM |
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madamegeek
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...not even two minutes?
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| Jul 3 @ 9:26 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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hides from Pam................ 
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| Jul 3 @ 9:30 PM |
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ThangelM8
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The ability to converse somewhat intelligently. 
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| Jul 3 @ 9:49 PM |
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signme
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Yay Pam!  Are there any guys like that???
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| Jul 3 @ 9:53 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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raises hand.....
runs like hell from all the women.
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| Jul 3 @ 9:58 PM |
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signme
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Changes question to: Are there any guys like that who won't run like hell from all of us??
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| Jul 3 @ 10:04 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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when I find a woman who can understand that I don't want to control her, i can control myself, need no other because it is her that i want, and can tell the truth in my voice when I say that her voice is all I need to be happy....i'll get married. understanding that sex is a minute part of a relationship is only secondary to us being who we are and meeting in the middle to enjoy it all. 
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| Jul 4 @ 1:37 AM |
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Nightowl001
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A minute part? Now, this is where I totally fail to understand women. I will agree that sex is only a component of an intimate relationship, but frankly, I can have all the friendly roommates I want who won't sleep with me and it's not going to feel like I have a relationship. Physical intimacy is what makes it a mate, rather than just another friend. If my desires aren't being met in that arena, how does my "mate" differentiate themselves from any of my other friends? I can talk for hours, share recipes, watch movies, talk philosophy and politics, play pool, go fishing, go dancing, go for a walk or a drive, and do it all in a public. And I can and do do those things with a host of people. But if a lady doesn't want me to work at satisfying her needs, and doesn't want to work at satisfying my needs in private, that just makes her a friend and not a mate. There are exceptions of course, but for most of us, sexual attraction and sharing physical intimacy is what defines a relationship and I don't understand how such a powerfully defining characteristic can be relegated to being a "minute" part. .
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| Jul 4 @ 1:55 AM |
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SyndilLucian
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A physical relationship is as important as an emotional and intellectual one. The difference for women and men is that for men physical comes first and foremost. For women, the physical is not the be all and end all of a relationship. We would like (imo) to be liked, admired, cherished, treasured, for more then our physicality (yes, I know, I didn't spell that right). We have minds, we have feelings, we have up days and down days, and for some reason, men just don't get that.
To be honest, I would love to find a man who actually realizes that it is ok for a man to have emotions, besides lust and the need to procreate all the time. Sometimes being cuddled means so much more then any other form of physical touching.. at least in my opinion.
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| Jul 4 @ 3:21 AM |
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Nightowl001
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The difference for women and men is that for men physical comes first and foremost. For women, the physical is not the be all and end all of a relationship. We would like (imo) to be liked, admired, cherished, treasured, for more then our physicality (yes, I know, I didn't spell that right). We have minds, we have feelings, we have up days and down days, and for some reason, men just don't get that. But there are a lot of us, Syndi, who do look for a woman we can admire, cherish, trust, confide in, open up to without seeming weak for having emotions. Males have feelings and have up days and down days, too. But it is any wonder we don't think we've found that when we hear "I don't care what you want!"? Wanting and attempting to fulfill a partner's needs isn't restricted to either gender, and the lack of doing so isn't either.
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| Jul 4 @ 8:41 AM |
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willowy1
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I want a Gentle Man! (think velvet covered steel!) a gentle touch be it a hug, a back rub, whatever It's so important.(no hard poking) Well there could and should be exceptions 
Nice arms (must be willing to flex on command), Make a muscle make me squeal!
These things might be negotiable:dark hair, full kissable lips, long eyelashes,
shiny white straight teeth.. (I'm all about the teeth).
It is always nice if he is capable of sparring with me intellectually, and respectful of women with strong opinions (not that I have strong opinions),
These things are a MUST! He has a compatible sense of HUMOR, (Confidence is sexy),honest, reliable, must possess compassion, consideration, loyalty, interactive (hey it takes two to play) , he is decisive without being controlling!
He must get me and make me want to be a better person.
Anybody like that around here?
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| Jul 4 @ 8:46 AM |
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jaybird777
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I just look fer somebody who is nice most at the time. Most folks who live ta gether fer a while start acting like they hate each other most a the time.
Homey don't play that.
Day to day is what important
Oh! Did mention blonde and red flowered halter tops?
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| Jul 4 @ 8:48 AM |
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willowy1
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