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is it there a a time to not become friends but to be partners?
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Moonwalk
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how long can you date to avoid to become only friends instead of boy/girl-friends?
How long to you have "romance" to be sure in not turning into "just friends".....
sex is the key to be sure you go into boy/girl-friends level?
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| Jun 26 @ 1:04 AM |
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Always_Striving
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If the 2 of you aren't screwing after 3 dates then
THERE IS NO REAL SEXUAL ATTRACTION BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU
or maybe it's just one sided, but in any case drop it and move on. Seriously!!!
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| Jun 26 @ 1:17 AM |
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BandTMom
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There is no time limit to love.
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| Jun 26 @ 3:17 AM |
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scotlove674
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you don't have to be having sex to love someone.
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| Jun 26 @ 12:28 PM |
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marylou
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.....depends on the individual people I think. I think people know when the time is right. I was best friends with my husband for 6 yrs before we got married. I had no thoughts of marriage with him........in all of those years. We were in a catholic social club with well over 100 members......and we both mixed around with so many....being on a committee together and all that. One time we had a serious conversation while watching tv about marriage......and what we thought. I was talking objectively.....genralising. Then he talked about the kind'v person he wanted to marry....I said jokingly *maybe neither one of us will never find who we are looking for*....he replied *I already have*....(silly me being a million miles away in thought).......said *who....do I know her*.....he said *its you*. I nearly pooped my panties...LOL. I got scared....distanced myself for quite a while.......he went on a holiday to Bali....I went out with others...many!. But when I met him at the A/port....I took one look at him and I knew from that instant. Dont even know where it came from. When I started out that afternoon .....I was just picking him up.....as a favour. It was like someone had hit me over the head with a hammer.
I couldnt avoid him after that. We went back to the friendship....but after that the chemistry was magnetic. Yet where had the darn chemistry been for years previous.......ill be darned if i know to this day.......LOL I just think.....sometimes it comes from nowhere.........but I think you just know when its right to become partners. Tho im stupid these days.......so dont know if i would........LOL
[Edited on 6/26/2008 12:34 PM]
[Edited on 6/26/2008 12:35 PM]
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| Jun 26 @ 12:48 PM |
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Mission_Impossible139
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Yea, it's that damn chemistry thing. You know it when you have it. You also know it when you have it and they don't or when they have it and you don't.
It has to be mutual but it has to be there for the relationship to work.
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| Jun 26 @ 2:10 PM |
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marylou
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....I dont let it happen if its just one way. I guess its in the spending enough time together doing all sorts of things......that gives an indication. You can have strong chemistry with someone.......even the first night and want to get them in the sack.......but if you cant live with the person even if you have the sexual chemistry.......whats the use of it........... 
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| Jun 26 @ 2:12 PM |
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Loreli
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Moon-
there are no set rules. Only 2 people in a relationship will know if they just want friendship...or something else.
Sex should not be "pushed", but at some point...it will be a part if BOTH want more...
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| Jun 26 @ 4:10 PM |
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sweet5red
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well when raymond popped back into my life and I knew i wanted him under my roof..  but after 2 weeks ok almost 3 under my roof.. i came home from work that friday night with the intention of letting him know  i wanted to share my space as in the other half of my bed.. no regrets here.. Sweet N Louisiana  
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| Jun 26 @ 7:36 PM |
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Nightowl001
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If the 2 of you aren't screwing after 3 dates then
THERE IS NO REAL SEXUAL ATTRACTION BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU
or maybe it's just one sided, but in any case drop it and move on. Seriously!!! ????? I can tell from across the room whether or not I'm sexually attracted to someone, and if I'm not on SOME level, I'm not dating them. It takes me more than a few hours of interacting with them to start thinking about setting up housekeeping. I may be sexually attracted to someone and still not all that anxious to jump into bed and set up expectations of something more.
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| Jun 26 @ 7:44 PM |
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happygrlok
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I thought partners were friends  .....unless I am missing something ...
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| Jun 26 @ 7:47 PM |
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Loreli
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 Nightowl......
Before I got engaged, we dated without making sex a part of it for many months, even though attraction and want was there.
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| Jun 26 @ 9:33 PM |
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emptypages
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wow Lori, it must have been worth the wait. For him, I'm sure it was. 
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| Jun 26 @ 9:36 PM |
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willowy1
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there are no set rules. Only 2 people in a relationship will know if they just want friendship...or something else.
Sex should not be "pushed", but at some point...it will be a part if BOTH want more... 
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